Guys: What do you think of girls asking you out?

Basically I met this guy a couple of weeks ago & then a few days ago met him again thru mutual friends. We danced & kissed & swapped numbers. Since then we've been texting quite a bit & I'm usually the 1 thats slowest in replying. Therefore I'm hoping he's keen. But he hasn't asked me if I want to meet up again. (I won't see him anywhere unless we arrange it.) Should I ask him if he wants to go for a drink or wait for him to ask me? Guys I particuarly need ur point of view here!

Reply 1

Rich_b

7

Go for it! This is the 21st century. He may be shy

Reply 2

wackysparkle

14

i'm sure there have been many threads made on this same issue - try them out -- plenty of opinions then :smile:

Reply 3

DeSiFiEd

2

its 2007.. go crazy!

Reply 4

Alasdair

14

Guys love it.

Although bear in mind that if that translates into being too much of a walkover in general that it can be a bit of a turn-off.

We like confidence - and confidence can sometimes mean being confident enough to not take the initiative.

Reply 5

Danny_777

16

I bloody love it when a girl asks me out.

Reply 6

Nix!

11

I love it. I actually admire the girl, even if there is a rejection because she's not beating around the bush and isn't ashamed of putting herself out there for a change.

Guys will love it for the same reason girls do... EGO.

Reply 7

PatchTheCatch

6

Go for it.
Short and sweet ^^

Reply 8

miss_world

3

alasdair_R

Guys love it.

Although bear in mind that if that translates into being too much of a walkover in general that it can be a bit of a turn-off.

We like confidence - and confidence can sometimes mean being confident enough to not take the initiative.

No offence but you're talking a load of bull**it.

Go for it! He wont think you're 'a walkover' just confident. It sounds like he's just shy to me. Besides the wost that can happen is he says no, but at least you'll know where you stand then. I'm a girl btw, but I thought I'd offer you my two cents anyway. :smile:

Reply 9

browzer-911

5

Guys love it.

Although bear in mind that if that translates into being too much of a walkover in general that it can be a bit of a turn-off.

We like confidence - and confidence can sometimes mean being confident enough to not take the initiative.

ignore this rubbish. its stuff like this that makes relationships with people unnecessarily complicated. ask him!

Reply 10

Alasdair

14

miss_world

No offence but you're talking a load of bull**it.

Go for it! He wont think you're 'a walkover' just confident. It sounds like he's just shy to me. Besides the wost that can happen is he says no, but at least you'll know where you stand then. I'm a girl btw, but I thought I'd offer you my two cents anyway. :smile:

Right, sorry, I forgot that you're being a girl and my being a guy makes you so much more qualified to talk about the inner thought processes of the male psyche than I am...

Reply 11

Alasdair

14

browzer-911

ignore this rubbish. its stuff like this that makes relationships with people unnecessarily complicated. ask him!

I didn't say she shouldn't ask him!!

I just said that the key to attraction a lot of time lies in the confidence and mystery. If a girl is all over a guy all the time, he's less likely to find her attractive than if she's confident enough to ask him out, but also confident enough not to get all clingy immediately.

Surely the same is true for women?

Reply 12

ToysRUs

1

They should do it a lot more often.

Reply 13

browzer-911

5

you are right that confidence and mystery an be very attractive things, i just disagree that she asking him would make her appear as a walkover etc. If anything it takes confidence to ask someone and its the balancing act and game playing that annoys me.

Reply 14

Alasdair

14

browzer-911

you are right that confidence and mystery an be very attractive things, i just disagree that she asking him would make her appear as a walkover etc. If anything it takes confidence to ask someone and its the balancing act and game playing that annoys me.

I suggest some reading comprehension classes. I didn't say that...I actually suggested she should ask him out.

And this whole idea that there's some sort of deliberate 'game-playing' and that the person complaining about it is the only person who doesn't 'play games' is as pathetic as it is self-righteous.

There are no 'games', just various feelings that interact with each other to produce an outcome. If somebody is all over somebody else all the time, then those feelings are likely to interact in such a way that that person is less attractive. Has nothing to do with 'games'...

Reply 15

woodlebert

im a dude.

ask him yourself.

im a dude.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

Well I will be brave at some point & ask him!

Reply 17

Allthewayhome

10

That would be great! I'm a bit of a wuss when it comes to it. I usually ask, wait for response then bolt as legs turn to jelly! Or I end up saying it jokely so it seems like a bad chat up line!

Pity me.

Reply 18

Atomic Dave

8

I'd love it if a girl asked me out. I don't see why in a world of supposedly "equal rights" that guys are still expected to be the ones who do the chasing/asking? Maybe I'm wrong? Anyway...go for it :biggrin:

Reply 19

dmw1989

i am sure u have heard it enough times already but yeah do it. its great, in addition to all the other reasons above generally guys have egos and it certainly massages that.

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