Virginity comments

I am in a relationship with a wonderful guy but am a bit nervous about losing etc. My friend who is older than me and is 23 lost it to a guy when she was 22 he was 43 and in a relationship. He doesn't care about her and only contacts her when he wants to dirty talk etc. She feels as though she can say to me 'Have you lost you flower yet?' and laughs when she says it and also comes up with the myth 'The longer you leave it the more painful it will be'.

I don't feel comfortable discussing the subject with this person due to the lack of respect my beliefs, she acts superior as she has has had sex though lacks knowledge yet has never been in a relationship and was used by this guy constantly. Friends tell me she pines for a relationship like I have. How do I tell her to keep these comments to herself, I think she is trying to scaremonger me into never losing it as she will feel I have got one over her.

Reply 1

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Anonymous

I am in a relationship with a wonderful guy but am a bit nervous about losing etc. My friend who is older than me and is 23 lost it to a guy when she was 22 he was 43 and in a relationship. He doesn't care about her and only contacts her when he wants to dirty talk etc. She feels as though she can say to me 'Have you lost you flower yet?' and laughs when she says it and also comes up with the myth 'The longer you leave it the more painful it will be'.
I don't feel comfortable discussing the subject with this person due to the lack of respect my beliefs, she acts superior as she has has had sex though lacks knowledge yet has never been in a relationship and was used by this guy constantly. Friends tell me she pines for a relationship like I have. How do I tell her to keep these comments to herself, I think she is trying to scaremonger me into never losing it as she will feel I have got one over her.

Firstly, if your nervous about having sex..don't have it. Even if he is a wonderful guy, doesn't mean you should feel obliged to lose it to him.
Secondly, your "friend" sounds like a total mole. Wow, she brags about losing her virginity to some guy 22 years older than her! Sounds like she was pretty desperate to lose her v-card. What ever you do, don't drop to her level. Take your time and have sex when you are totally ready. Orelse you'll end up regetting it forever.

Reply 2

L0RA

Lose it when you're totally comfortable with yourself, the guy and the situation and not before :smile:

Ignore your 'friend' shes just conscious of her losing it when she was 22 when you're in a position to lose it earlier.

Reply 3

generalebriety

She lost her virginity to someone twice her age, and she's taking the piss out of you? Shoot her. Seriously, ignore her, she's not doing much other than making fun of you, and you can lose your "flower" whenever you feel ready to, and if she wants to go and lose hers she can feel free to. You don't make fun of her, why do you allow her to make fun of you and still call her a friend?

Edit: flower? V-card? What was wrong with the simple words? I find some of these euphemisms more repulsive than the terms themselves. :p: