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Nightmare Flatmate

Okay i've been living with the flatmate from hell since September.

While up until now i've put up with him never washing up, using other peoples plates when his arent clean, putting slabs of meat on the shelves in the fridge with blood dripping everywhere (i'm a veggie!) never taking the bins out and using the area outside his room as his personal bin i cannot cope with his music any longer.

Okay so he was my first friend at uni, we were really good mates last term and have that brother- sister relationship. However i've nagged him since i met him about his music which is so loud my walls vibrate and i dont even live next door to him and now i'm at breaking point.

So Monday night he comes in at 3:30am turns his music on leaves his room locks the door leaving the music on and goes out again. I text him asking him what the hell hes playing at and for him to turn it off. He doesnt come back so we head to security (hey its not like any of us could sleep!) security open his room and turn it off. This isnt the first time we've had them do this.

So we go back to security and speak to the student support officer and he asks us to make a statement the following day (Tuesday) so we do. Later on we hear from someone else that they saw the student support guy speaking to my flatmate about the situation.

Tuesday night: bliss! first night without any music for a long long time!

Basically what i want to know is this: Is there anything they can actually do?

My flatmates been in alot of trouble at halls, from punching me in the mouth to beating up various people and smashing down a flats door. Aside from making him pay damages and informing MMU nothing has really been done.

Hes starting to make my life hell and while i spoke to him today and he was perfectly friendly even after knowing i'd made a complaint about him i am very wary of the situation with him.

HELP!!

EDIT: If you hadnt already guessed the reason i am awake right now is him!

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Reply 1
May be you guys (you and your other flatmates) can talk to him as a group. Tell him that it’s been bothering you for quite a while. See what he says. If the situation does not change, you need to talk to the student support officer again. You may as well talk to someone above the hierarchy.
Reply 2
He punched you?
Reply 3
Can't you call the police? Playing music after a certain time has to be illegal...
Just keep going to the security, making statements as necessary.

Either:

a) he sorts his problem to avoid repercussions from the uni
b) they kick him out of uni halls
Loud music generally has to be turned down after 11PM. If not anything else, he's at least breached the student code of conduct that applies to most halls. So yes, the halls management can do something about it. They should be able to do something about him leaving rubbish everywhere, as well, due to it being a risk to your health and safety.

And as for the meat situation, I guess you might have tried this already, but in case you havnt, just ask him to put it on a plate on the bottom shelf. Anyone who knows anything about sanitory food conditions knows to do this.

But this SoB sounds like many a student I've come across in my halls...they've been pampered by their parents, have had to do nothing to gain anything they have, and have never been disciplined because apparently the sun shines out of their arse.
Maybe this will change the situation. If he's OK with you perhaps it's dead and buried.
Reply 7
Bismarck
Can't you call the police? Playing music after a certain time has to be illegal...

HA! No it isn't, that's liberalism in practice :biggrin:

Although there are a wide range of other offences the police could prosecute for, not least under public order and breach-of-peace laws.
Bismarck
Can't you call the police? Playing music after a certain time has to be illegal...


That would just be steep.
Reply 9
My flatmate was the same. Dirty, no idea of food hygiene and always blasting the place out at 3am. My solution was to buy a cheap clarinet off eBay and make that shriek as loud as possible.
Really? lol
Reply 11
Loud music above a certain 'loudness' lol, is noise pollution and yes that is illegal.

You can try and get a petition together from your flatmates and the ones below etc (surely they must hear EVERYTHING too) and contact the head of security and demand they do somthing OR ELSE! lol.
No offence to anyone but i'm guessing he's and only child who can walk all over his parents? He seems to be the kind of person who has never had to live with people complaining about him either that or he thinks now he has left home he can do what he likes and no one will complain. He needs to learn to have consideration for the people he is living with, if your in halls this year, you are likely to be living out next year and then you and he will have bills to pay and if he is leaving his music on all the time, not only will he piss off his housemates but he will be the cause of a huge electricity bill.
As for what student wardens can do, i don't now if your have the same powers as mine, but we had a poblem housemate who luckliy we only felt the need to report her once. The warden came and spoke to us all while she wasn't around had us all write a little statement about how we felt about her what was bothering us most about her and what we would like done about it. It was nearly the end of the year so we didn't really need to much done but others who had problems nearer the beginning could ask to have the person move out, into another hall.
hippieglitter
if your in halls this year, you are likely to be living out next year and then you and he will have bills to pay and if he is leaving his music on all the time, not only will he piss off his housemates but he will be the cause of a huge electricity bill.

Not necessarily. Some places offer bills inclusive in the price. And some halls allow people to stay for multiple years. And then there's the fact that this SoB sounds like the type that gets everything paid for by his parents (based upon comparison to what information we've been provided by him and the flatmates I have to live with.)
Reply 14
He sounds crazy.
Reply 15
HAHAHAHA MMU halls suck so much, i stayed in the highly sought after cambridge halls which were a nightmare too, god knows how many times security were called to the various flats and not to mention the idiots above me playing an acoustic guitar and singing champagne supernova every night at like 3am (the only time i wasnt round at my friends flat). Just keep on telling security and the halls officer and they'll eventually move your flatmate or ask them to leave.
Reply 16
matt19850
HAHAHAHA MMU halls suck so much, i stayed in the highly sought after cambridge halls which were a nightmare too, god knows how many times security were called to the various flats and not to mention the idiots above me playing an acoustic guitar and singing champagne supernova every night at like 3am (the only time i wasnt round at my friends flat). Just keep on telling security and the halls officer and they'll eventually move your flatmate or ask them to leave.


Please do not compare my halls to the gross building that is Cambridge halls. I spent an hour there once and left screaming! I had chlostrophobia from the room and everyone was so dirty!

Its not actually MMU halls, its private so students from both halls use it.
Reply 17
which halls lora, mill point?
Reply 18
May be you guys (you and your other flatmates) can talk to him as a group. Tell him that it’s been bothering you for quite a while. See what he says. If the situation does not change, you need to talk to the student support officer again. You may as well talk to someone above the hierarchy



We’ve tried this several times with no gain. He just comments on how he knows his music is loud and that his mum used to complain about it too.

He punched you?


Unfortunately, yes.

Just keep going to the security, making statements as necessary.

Either:

a) he sorts his problem to avoid repercussions from the uni
b) they kick him out of uni halls


The thing is, hes been in so much trouble already and nothings been done I feel as though they’re laughing at me for making a huge deal out of ‘a bit of loud music.’

He never goes to uni, has a letter every week saying hes not handed in an assignment...

Maybe this will change the situation. If he's OK with you perhaps it's dead and buried.


Maybe I didn’t explain too well, although he turned his music off for one night it was back to its normal level last night like he thought giving us one nights sleep would make us happy. Hes totally cool with me but I am very wary of him, not to the point I’m scared of him but I wouldn’t like to be in a room by myself with him :redface:

My flatmate was the same. Dirty, no idea of food hygiene and always blasting the place out at 3am. My solution was to buy a cheap clarinet off eBay and make that shriek as loud as possible.


I can play clarinet! And theres no way he’d hear it over his music.

Loud music above a certain 'loudness' lol, is noise pollution and yes that is illegal.

You can try and get a petition together from your flatmates and the ones below etc (surely they must hear EVERYTHING too) and contact the head of security and demand they do somthing OR ELSE! lol.


Above, below and to the sides have already complained :smile:

No offence to anyone but i'm guessing he's and only child who can walk all over his parents? He seems to be the kind of person who has never had to live with people complaining about him either that or he thinks now he has left home he can do what he likes and no one will complain.
As for what student wardens can do, i don't now if your have the same powers as mine, but we had a poblem housemate who luckliy we only felt the need to report her once. The warden came and spoke to us all while she wasn't around had us all write a little statement about how we felt about her what was bothering us most about her and what we would like done about it.


No, hes not an only child but I do get the impression hes been waited on by his mum all his life. I don’t care about him next year, I’m not living with him and his house is two streets away from mine, hopefully I wont be able to hear his music still.

Yeah we all had to write statements.

And then there's the fact that this SoB sounds like the type that gets everything paid for by his parents


Nope, hes in the same position as me receiving full loans and grants.
Reply 19
goodmen
which halls lora, mill point?


Yes :smile: