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Nightmare of a house share!
Well my girlfriend and me pay a ridiculas amount of rent for the place we currently live at. We are paying £120.00 a week (although bills are included) for one bedroom in a house. Although bills are included, it is still a lot in my opinion and most other peoples opinion I have spoke to.
It started off good, me and my girlfriend have the one room, the woman who lives there is 40 and has her room and the guy (her brother) who lives there is 48. Basically they are trying to act like our parents or something...
We have to turn the Television down / off after 10pm, we get 'told off' if we go downstairs after about 11pm/12pm. And get woken up to do 'house work' if we sleep past 9:30am. It is esspecially harsh on my girlfriend who doesn't have a job and is picked on because of it. They will wake her up and be like "For ****s sake Karina, do some hovering" etc, etc. Yet when I am there they are like "Hi guys, can you do me a favour and do some washing up for me" and act really nice. I didn't mind so much, but recently the woman (Karen) has had friends round (a male and female) and all 4 (the brother and sister who live there and two friends) literally laid into her. She phoned me up nearly crying and saying she was gonna pack her stuff...
Really annoys me, her friends got worse as well. I spoke to her today and Karens friend had knocked on the door and said "Karina... Karen has a day off work today, I think she deserves a day to rest, can you hoover the stairs, do the washing, put stuff in the dishwasher and generally tidy up".
We do do house work you know? Just not at 9:30am! If I do housework I do it at 2pm or 3pm or maybe even 9pm or 10pm when people are in bed, so it is nice for when they get up... they don't understand this concept.
As for food and drinks, etc. I found out today we had 'ran out' of teabags... however I thought it was rather amusing when I opened the washing draw and found a bix box of tea bags hidden behind some dusters. It also seems that it is down to me to buy milk and bread. Which makes me laugh, I don't drink milk and don't eat bread, yet if it runs out she goes MENTAL. I wouldn't mind if it was twice maybe three times a week. But this week I bought 6 loafs of bread... they were gone in 4 days. I had none, Karina (girlfriend) had 4 slices... are they secretly ducks or something? lol. And food going missing... YES, we constantly have food go walkies, sausages essepcially... we had 12 disapear last week, lol.
Until now we have both just nodded and kept smiling. But it is starting to get to me now. I am starting to think half the problem is we are taking all this... any ideas? Or am I just being a little moaning bitch? :P
It started off good, me and my girlfriend have the one room, the woman who lives there is 40 and has her room and the guy (her brother) who lives there is 48. Basically they are trying to act like our parents or something...
We have to turn the Television down / off after 10pm, we get 'told off' if we go downstairs after about 11pm/12pm. And get woken up to do 'house work' if we sleep past 9:30am. It is esspecially harsh on my girlfriend who doesn't have a job and is picked on because of it. They will wake her up and be like "For ****s sake Karina, do some hovering" etc, etc. Yet when I am there they are like "Hi guys, can you do me a favour and do some washing up for me" and act really nice. I didn't mind so much, but recently the woman (Karen) has had friends round (a male and female) and all 4 (the brother and sister who live there and two friends) literally laid into her. She phoned me up nearly crying and saying she was gonna pack her stuff...
Really annoys me, her friends got worse as well. I spoke to her today and Karens friend had knocked on the door and said "Karina... Karen has a day off work today, I think she deserves a day to rest, can you hoover the stairs, do the washing, put stuff in the dishwasher and generally tidy up".
We do do house work you know? Just not at 9:30am! If I do housework I do it at 2pm or 3pm or maybe even 9pm or 10pm when people are in bed, so it is nice for when they get up... they don't understand this concept.
As for food and drinks, etc. I found out today we had 'ran out' of teabags... however I thought it was rather amusing when I opened the washing draw and found a bix box of tea bags hidden behind some dusters. It also seems that it is down to me to buy milk and bread. Which makes me laugh, I don't drink milk and don't eat bread, yet if it runs out she goes MENTAL. I wouldn't mind if it was twice maybe three times a week. But this week I bought 6 loafs of bread... they were gone in 4 days. I had none, Karina (girlfriend) had 4 slices... are they secretly ducks or something? lol. And food going missing... YES, we constantly have food go walkies, sausages essepcially... we had 12 disapear last week, lol.
Until now we have both just nodded and kept smiling. But it is starting to get to me now. I am starting to think half the problem is we are taking all this... any ideas? Or am I just being a little moaning bitch? :P
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Sounds bad 
Have you tried sitting down with the landlady and working out what housework you'll do and when you'll do it? Set out a sort of rota?
Regarding food, i'm guessing you and your girlfriend have a shelf in the fridge and a cupboard? If you dont then try to, keeping all your food together might make it clear whats yours and whats theirs.
Its none of this womans business if your girlfriend has a job or not as long as she pays the rent.
£120 a week is ALOT of money.
Have you tried sitting down with the landlady and working out what housework you'll do and when you'll do it? Set out a sort of rota?
Regarding food, i'm guessing you and your girlfriend have a shelf in the fridge and a cupboard? If you dont then try to, keeping all your food together might make it clear whats yours and whats theirs.
Its none of this womans business if your girlfriend has a job or not as long as she pays the rent.
£120 a week is ALOT of money.
Reply 3
Have you signed a contract with this woman? If so what did that say about having to do chores and provide food for the household? Also, what does it say concerning your freedom in the property...is there a curfew, how late can you have music on/the tv, etc.
Things like this should all be stated, because, as you've experienced, they are intrinsic to a functioning household where one party is not made to feel victimised by the other.
If there are no specified instrucitons concerning the above mentioned, then don't feel pushed into doing them. You must judge when she is going too far with her little requests, and tell her so.
If there is no onus on you to stay in the property then I would move out. The landlady and her friends are clearly bullying your girlfriend.
Things like this should all be stated, because, as you've experienced, they are intrinsic to a functioning household where one party is not made to feel victimised by the other.
If there are no specified instrucitons concerning the above mentioned, then don't feel pushed into doing them. You must judge when she is going too far with her little requests, and tell her so.
If there is no onus on you to stay in the property then I would move out. The landlady and her friends are clearly bullying your girlfriend.
I tohught you were at uni and she was in weston? Anyway. if you dont like it, move out.
Nah, I am at uni in Bristol, but I commute. We both live in Weston.
Sounds bad
Have you tried sitting down with the landlady and working out what housework you'll do and when you'll do it? Set out a sort of rota?
Regarding food, i'm guessing you and your girlfriend have a shelf in the fridge and a cupboard? If you dont then try to, keeping all your food together might make it clear whats yours and whats theirs.
Its none of this womans business if your girlfriend has a job or not as long as she pays the rent.
£120 a week is ALOT of money.
Have you tried sitting down with the landlady and working out what housework you'll do and when you'll do it? Set out a sort of rota?
Regarding food, i'm guessing you and your girlfriend have a shelf in the fridge and a cupboard? If you dont then try to, keeping all your food together might make it clear whats yours and whats theirs.
Its none of this womans business if your girlfriend has a job or not as long as she pays the rent.
£120 a week is ALOT of money.
Yeah, exactly. As long as she gets her £120.00 a week, what is it to her who pays it or where it comes from? Karina is at home, but she is looking after Karens two dogs all day, letting them outside, etc. Whether Karina works or not I don't see why it matters.
Have you tried sitting down with the landlady and working out what housework you'll do and when you'll do it? Set out a sort of rota?
Karina right now is literally 'scared' to go downstairs. Unless Karen is out or in bed, she just stays in her room and doesn't really interact with her. After her mates all ganged up on her she is really nervous about the whole thing bless her.
It's not so easy to move out of a place unfortunetly, you need deposit / money for furnature, etc.
Regarding food, i'm guessing you and your girlfriend have a shelf in the fridge and a cupboard? If you dont then try to, keeping all your food together might make it clear whats yours and whats theirs.
Yeah we do, they ignore that though. LOL.
Have you signed a contract with this woman? If so what did that say about having to do chores and provide food for the household? Also, what does it say concerning your freedom in the property...is there a curfew, how late can you have music on/the tv, etc.
Funny thing, before we moved out, she waslike "I am the most accepting and fun person about". Be as loud as you like, have as many people round as you like, come home pissed and I'll pick you up off the stairs, etc. And it was like that for about a week and then we started getting 'notes' on the door, lol. And then verbal talkings to... yeah, it was really petty.
If there are no specified instrucitons concerning the above mentioned, then don't feel pushed into doing them. You must judge when she is going too far with her little requests, and tell her so.
No contract, Karina went to claim JSA and Karen told her she 'couldn't' because Karen is illegally renting her place meaning if we told council etc, she would have to form a tenancy agreement and pay tax or something... heh.
If there is no onus on you to stay in the property then I would move out. The landlady and her friends are clearly bullying your girlfriend.
Yeah, I wanna move out, but getting a deposit is a git. I get my uni money through in April, but whether we can put up with another 6-8 weeks of this
Im suprised your gf still hasnt found a job. Surely it would be easirt for her to move to bristol. Theres a ton of properties around and you could share with students thus making it cheaper. I dont know if Bristol uni has a forum but UWE does and there a re loads of posts about people wanting house mates adn the like. If you PM me i can send you some details if you want.
Reply 7
I would not be happy at all living in a stranger's house with no contract to protect me. All sorts of nasty disagreements could occur. On the other hand, what she's doing is clearly illegal so I doubt she could ever sue you over anything as it would all come out that she is avoiding tax. I hope you didn't give Karen a deposit. I'm not sure you'll ever see it again if you have done!
Im suprised your gf still hasnt found a job. Surely it would be easirt for her to move to bristol. Theres a ton of properties around and you could share with students thus making it cheaper. I dont know if Bristol uni has a forum but UWE does and there a re loads of posts about people wanting house mates adn the like. If you PM me i can send you some details if you want.
I manage a shop in Weston Super Mare 4 days a week mate'. Uni the other 3 days a week, I am kept busy to say the least, lol. Yeah, she has only been looking for 3/4 weeks though I think, so it isn't so bad, I think she'll have one mid March at the rate she is going. She has two or three interviews and has been sent about 4/5 application forms this week alone, so it isn't looking too bad right now
Ah, after this mate... never again and I living with other people, soon as I save a deposit I am getting the feck outta there and getting a place with Karina on our own. No knocks on the door at 10pm asking to keep the noise down or 9am telling us to get hoovering, lol. Sounds so good right now!I would not be happy at all living in a stranger's house with no contract to protect me. All sorts of nasty disagreements could occur. On the other hand, what she's doing is clearly illegal so I doubt she could ever sue you over anything as it would all come out that she is avoiding tax. I hope you didn't give Karen a deposit. I'm not sure you'll ever see it again if you have done!
I gave her £150.00, two weeks rent basically. So when we move out we give her two weeks notice and get the two weeks free. Kinda... but at the same time, that works two ways. If she threatened to go back on that I could quite easily say "OK then... I'll phone the council to double check our tennancy agreement" and I am sure she would come round :P
I seriously doubt thats what happend, Shes 17 and still legally there responcibility (sp). Sure she didnt have a temper tantrum untill she got to stay in the UK? sounds to me shes not thought this through and your footing the bill. Lucky her
lol, yes I am quite sure. I have thought this through perfectly and I am fine, just hate my housemates. How about you don't over analyze my relationships and I won't over analyze yours.
You seem like a very silly little girl who has never experienced love before to me And no she didn't have a temper tantrum, they told her they would be back for her after a few weeks and never came back... And no she didn't come running to me... she lived on her own for a few months and then we decided to move in together after that.
And no she didn't have a temper tantrum, they told her they would be back for her after a few weeks and never came back... And no she didn't come running to me... she lived on her own for a few months and then we decided to move in together after that.lol i havent posted anything about my relationship on here but feel free. Your in a horrible situation because youre blinded by love and shes decided to stay behind at 17. What happens when you break up? Will she then go to spain? Its ridiculous that you are suffering because your gf is too immature to deal with life properly.
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You seem like a very silly little girl who has never experienced love before to me And no she didn't have a temper tantrum, they told her they would be back for her after a few weeks and never came back... And no she didn't come running to me... she lived on her own for a few months and then we decided to move in together after that.
And no she didn't have a temper tantrum, they told her they would be back for her after a few weeks and never came back... And no she didn't come running to me... she lived on her own for a few months and then we decided to move in together after that.lol i havent posted anything about my relationship on here but feel free. Your in a horrible situation because youre blinded by love and shes decided to stay behind at 17. What happens when you break up? Will she then go to spain? Its ridiculous that you are suffering because your gf is too immature to deal with life properly.
Am I suffering? lol. I don't think so... In 'life' I have NEVER been this happy or had as much money as I currently have. I am not in a 'horrible situation' because of her, I am in a horrible situation because the people we live with are ******s. She decided her life was here in the UK, she coulda bought a plane ticket if she so wished, but she stuck with me. I think someone is jealous that other people are happy... looking at your post count you obviously have too much time or your hands
Lol and think what you like about "love". Ive had my fair share. I seriously doubt that happend too.
Shame you are female or I would look foward to meeting you at UWE sometime
I can assure you it is what happened. Now run along little one and learn that life is not all about money and that people can have good lives when supporting their partners.Related discussions
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