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Friendship ended because of chain letter
O.K i will give you the background:
Me and a french girl speak on internet for 4 months, it goes into her saying "oh phil it would be great for you to come to france" later in the emails "blablabal i miss you" now i pay £300 to go to paris i tell her a month ago i will go for 1 day she says oh 1 day is not long.
So i book 3 days.
I get there we meet She is lying on my lap we hold hands.
She says i may will come in the daytime tommorrow because my dad is coming back at night and i want to spend time with him.
Ok so the next day i wait all day in the hotel in case she turns up.
She doesnt, i then find her number of my comp and ring her, she hangs up after i speak.
I ring again later, she says oh phil i was going to ring, i spent the day with my sis.
Now at this point i should have known something was odd.
Anyway i get home on msn and she doesnt initiate convo but we talk and she talks about hard times and that she will quit college.
She like acting so i reply to anemail but it was a chain letter email i sent the email by.
And i said hey i know we are only friends but why dont we make a story like english french love affair to see if we can make a movie.
And now she gets mad because it was sent to everyone and that she wants to end the friendship.
Isnt this shallow i mean i wasnt meaninganything bad but to record a film. Why should someone end a friendship because i made a mistake by sending that message to everyone. It's not bad proposing a film.
I dont understand. If a friend proposed a film to help my career i wouldnt end our friendship.
Also some More things i see in hindsight, While we were in the restaurant, she kept hanging up on her mother about 6 times.
Me and a french girl speak on internet for 4 months, it goes into her saying "oh phil it would be great for you to come to france" later in the emails "blablabal i miss you" now i pay £300 to go to paris i tell her a month ago i will go for 1 day she says oh 1 day is not long.
So i book 3 days.
I get there we meet She is lying on my lap we hold hands.
She says i may will come in the daytime tommorrow because my dad is coming back at night and i want to spend time with him.
Ok so the next day i wait all day in the hotel in case she turns up.
She doesnt, i then find her number of my comp and ring her, she hangs up after i speak.
I ring again later, she says oh phil i was going to ring, i spent the day with my sis.
Now at this point i should have known something was odd.
Anyway i get home on msn and she doesnt initiate convo but we talk and she talks about hard times and that she will quit college.
She like acting so i reply to anemail but it was a chain letter email i sent the email by.
And i said hey i know we are only friends but why dont we make a story like english french love affair to see if we can make a movie.
And now she gets mad because it was sent to everyone and that she wants to end the friendship.
Isnt this shallow i mean i wasnt meaninganything bad but to record a film. Why should someone end a friendship because i made a mistake by sending that message to everyone. It's not bad proposing a film.
I dont understand. If a friend proposed a film to help my career i wouldnt end our friendship.
Also some More things i see in hindsight, While we were in the restaurant, she kept hanging up on her mother about 6 times.
Reply 1
crazy french lady.... i can't believe you went to france :O could have been a pedophile etcReply 2
you have taken the piss out of your friendship by sending it around.
nice work
nice work
Reply 3
Philbill
OP
I didnt mean to reply to her chain letter email, I just went into msn and clicked the first old email and hit reply. Why couldnt she see that.
Reply 5
she thought you were hideous when you met?
Reply 6
The french are quite stroppy and outspoken i have found so dont be too upset
Lol "Why don't we make a story like English French love affair to see if we can make a movie." Sounds kinda sweet so me 
Could be taken the wrong way, I guess.
Tell the stroppy French lady it was a genuine mistake and you never meant to embarrass her in front of her friends and you went all the way to Paris to meet her, that's how much you care and hopefully she'll see sense.
Could be taken the wrong way, I guess. Tell the stroppy French lady it was a genuine mistake and you never meant to embarrass her in front of her friends and you went all the way to Paris to meet her, that's how much you care and hopefully she'll see sense.
Reply 8
ahh you don't need her - clearly she is someone who is not a real friend --- a real friend wouldn't ignore a friend - nor would they never forgive them when you make a mistake
Reply 9
In all honesty, i think the whole situation sounds a bit silly. No offence, but i dont get it. It doesnt make much sense what happened but then im probably just tired. But from i could make from it, she does seem to be overreacting & sounds a bit unreasonable. Dont worry about it mate. 
EDIT: my reply probably doesnt make much sense either though to be honest, so im a hypocrite - sorry!
x
EDIT: my reply probably doesnt make much sense either though to be honest, so im a hypocrite
- sorry!x
Reply 10
wackysparkle
ahh you don't need her - clearly she is someone who is not a real friend --- a real friend wouldn't ignore a friend - nor would they never forgive them when you make a mistake
:dito:
Reply 11
So you come to France for 3 days to see her and the day after you first meet she would rather see her sister who i presume she can see any time, than you. This should already be telling you something. What did you do in Paris that next day, she didnt seem to mind leaving you all alone in Paris. To me your problem starts here and has nothing to do with your email.
Reply 12
She is a stroppy, vain, self-centered cow.
If someone has spent money to go to Paris and see you, especialy if you have asked them to spend longer there than they might have done, then there is NO excuse for not spending the time with them, even if you don't like them much, unless it is an emergency. And even then, you have a duty to call and tell them what is going on.
She is treating you like trash, but you were silly for sending the message to everyone. She isn't annoyed that you talked about making a film, she is annoyed because you got everyone else involved in what is happening by sending the email to them. She clearly sees this as your private matter that others should not be involved with.
That aside, she is being a bitch. Do you really want a friend like that, someone who doesn't see you when she says she will, someone who hangs up on people she "cares" about and someone who gets this upset about an email?
If someone has spent money to go to Paris and see you, especialy if you have asked them to spend longer there than they might have done, then there is NO excuse for not spending the time with them, even if you don't like them much, unless it is an emergency. And even then, you have a duty to call and tell them what is going on.
She is treating you like trash, but you were silly for sending the message to everyone. She isn't annoyed that you talked about making a film, she is annoyed because you got everyone else involved in what is happening by sending the email to them. She clearly sees this as your private matter that others should not be involved with.
That aside, she is being a bitch. Do you really want a friend like that, someone who doesn't see you when she says she will, someone who hangs up on people she "cares" about and someone who gets this upset about an email?
Reply 13
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep your chain-letter matchstick romance drivel to yourselves you misogynistic hoik. You got ditched, get over it. Any excuse would have done, but washing her hair didn't seem appropritate at the time, and so the next best thing.... You probably aren't particularly sharp are you dear//
Reply 14
Philbill
OP
*titanium*
So you come to France for 3 days to see her and the day after you first meet she would rather see her sister who i presume she can see any time, than you. This should already be telling you something. What did you do in Paris that next day, she didnt seem to mind leaving you all alone in Paris. To me your problem starts here and has nothing to do with your email.
I know why didn't she have the guts in the phone call to say that she wasnt coming again.
Thanks to all the replies
Reply 15
Philbill
OP
Schmokie Dragon
She is a stroppy, vain, self-centered cow.
If someone has spent money to go to Paris and see you, especialy if you have asked them to spend longer there than they might have done, then there is NO excuse for not spending the time with them, even if you don't like them much, unless it is an emergency. And even then, you have a duty to call and tell them what is going on.
She is treating you like trash, but you were silly for sending the message to everyone. She isn't annoyed that you talked about making a film, she is annoyed because you got everyone else involved in what is happening by sending the email to them. She clearly sees this as your private matter that others should not be involved with.
That aside, she is being a bitch. Do you really want a friend like that, someone who doesn't see you when she says she will, someone who hangs up on people she "cares" about and someone who gets this upset about an email?
If someone has spent money to go to Paris and see you, especialy if you have asked them to spend longer there than they might have done, then there is NO excuse for not spending the time with them, even if you don't like them much, unless it is an emergency. And even then, you have a duty to call and tell them what is going on.
She is treating you like trash, but you were silly for sending the message to everyone. She isn't annoyed that you talked about making a film, she is annoyed because you got everyone else involved in what is happening by sending the email to them. She clearly sees this as your private matter that others should not be involved with.
That aside, she is being a bitch. Do you really want a friend like that, someone who doesn't see you when she says she will, someone who hangs up on people she "cares" about and someone who gets this upset about an email?
You are right i dont want a friend like that but now what i am worried about is thinking that everyone else is like this person. I think my lesson is dont meet someone off the internet if they talk about "oh i miss you" "love so and so" I should have read the signs of the fact that 2 of her friends stopped seeing her, but it's hard to find her background in a french blog if you cant speak the language. The picture of her showing her bra in a club picture should have been enough
Reply 16
She was French, euurgh. You had a lucky escape.
Reply 19
Philbill
You are right i dont want a friend like that but now what i am worried about is thinking that everyone else is like this person. I think my lesson is dont meet someone off the internet if they talk about "oh i miss you" "love so and so" I should have read the signs of the fact that 2 of her friends stopped seeing her, but it's hard to find her background in a french blog if you cant speak the language. The picture of her showing her bra in a club picture should have been enough
Well, the signs were there. Meeting people online isn't an issue, as I met my broyfriend on TSR and he is amazing. But you need to be very careful and keep yourself alert to any sign that all is not right.
Good luck next time, I hope you have have learnt from this experience.
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