How Would You Interpret This..

I admit to dweling on this issue somewhat, and have posted previously. Basically to summarise- been seeing a guy for two months, was going very well. He sends me a rose and card on Val's and I hear nothing. As I had his rugby top and tshirt (that he posted with the rose) on my person, I decided to return it today and also to gage his reaction. He's very apologetic and, er tended to hug me alot as he was rather nervous. Basically, he says he doesn't know what to do as an ex has recently got in contact saying she still has feelings for him. As he had one of my t-shirts that I really want back, he tells me that despite wearing it two days ago, he doesn't know where it is but will definately give it to me soon.

Obviously, I'm fairly into this guy and am really unsure of what his decision will be, although I'm fairly certain that anyone in this situation is more likely to choose the ex.

Anyway, he sent me this on Facebook toay at 6 and I'd be very grateful on your analysis of his behaviour...

"hi gorgeous. just to say im really sorry i didnt speak to you sooner - I just didnt want 2, as still obv have feelings for you but its not really fair on you for me to see you until ive sorted things out with my ex. was good to see you, and just worn my fleece and it smells really nice of you i think! and u were up very early this morning werent you? xx"

I admit I'm dwelling on this but I really like him and things were going so well!

Thanks in advance for any replies

Reply 1

Evil-Tuna

If you want my analysis: he could be gay.

EDIT: Thought I'd add this just in case - I'm NOT being serious. You shouldn't over-analyse behaviour, you could be looking for things that aren't even there etc. :smile:

Reply 2

Bismarck

Do you really want to be with someone who's not sure if he prefers you or his ex? Even if he picks you now, what makes you think he won't choose his ex in the future?

Reply 3

lamenter

Give him time.

Evil-Tuna

Reply 4

Louise88

If he needs to sort things out with his ex then you need to give him the time and space to do so. What he is sorting out, we don't know but it's completely up to you what you want to do.

He should have spoke to you sooner, explained why he wasn't around properly instead of just leaving you wondering what was going on. Thankfully, he eventually got in contact with you.

If you are really into this guy then, maybe it's worth giving him the time and space he needs but don't wait around for ever, it's not fair on you. At the same time, you don't know what is going on with his ex and why there is so much to sort out.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Well that's just the thing. She got in contact with him the night before Valentine's and nine days later he says 'until i've sorted things out with my ex'. Because i just think that surely you know fairly early as to whether you want to get back with an ex. It's just that he was quite cuddly and considerate and I cant really understand wy he didnt just give me my t-shirt back when I asked for it. I genuinely get the impression that he really doesnt know what to do, but why would it take that lon for him to decide if he wants to be with her. And is there much point in reading into the part of te message that says: 'obv still have feeings for you'?
And also, got hideously drunk and old him that I missed him last night in a rext and sent him a rater lon facebook messae this morning apologising, regretting tha tnow, not sure I said the right thing, but just want him to now that if he chooses me im not in it for a mere fling...