jealousy

i've never been a jealous person, or atleast not till now. my boyfriend and i are extremely close and were best friends for years before we started going out. the fact that he has many close friends who are girls has never bothered me, even tho i haven't met even half of them. am i just being silly, because i feel that i should i know more about them, more about what he's like with them and what they connect over. he's extremely vague saying things like - she's a good friend. and it upsets me that when we are on the phone he puts me on hold when another call comes through (we are going long distance @ the moment) and when i ask him who it was he changes the subject. sometimes it feels like i just don't know him, and it really bothers me. i know the guy i fell inlove with, but i don't know what he's like with other people. i was just wondering if anyone else has ever felt like this, because i hate myself for being jealous, but i really i can't help it.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

I know what you mean. When my boyfriend (now ex) lived in London we could see each other often, such as once a week or something but would talk every night. But when he went off to uni, we only ever spoke on msn and occassionally on the phone. i was really jealous one day when he put me onto his friend when he was opening a bottle of wine, and his friend was a girl. i felt really distant from him too :frown:

it really hurt :frown:

just remember you two are close and are together.

xxxx

Reply 2

Yellowmarshmellow

It's understandable that you feel jealous because you have no idea how your bf acts around other people, what his friends are like etc therefore it's really annoying that he puts you on hold for these people you know nothing about and shouldn't mean as much to him as you do.. i think that when you see him you should maybe suggest that he brings his friends so you can all get to know eachother and realise that you are the one he is going out with(obviously) and these other people are just friends and shouldn't pose a threat to you. Good luck x

Reply 3

Cheesy_chips

Your going to feel some jealousy, you dont know what hes doing, who hes doing it with, what these people are like.. it shows you care when you are concerned.. but dont allow yourself to get overly jealous, that only drives wedges in relationships.

Tell him you would like to meet them or something, im sure he wouldnt mind. And im sure he will put your mind at ease. And im sure he will be happy that you WANT to pay an interest in his friends.. like i said, just dont let jealousy take over.

Reply 4

high priestess fnord

arrange a meet up. i know i get curious about my bfs friends, they are a big part of his life and as his gf you want to know him as well as you can.

my bf allways jokes about his female friends. hes allways saying things like "im going to be back late tonight. im meeting a beautiful woman and taking her out to dinner, hope you dont mind" and when i ask who he wont give me a straight answer :rolleyes: