Family probs..

Ok so basically, I was adopted when I was 5. My mum was an alcoholic and was married to a wife beater. She let him beat her though, and when given an opportunity to get away never took it. Even when she did, she went back to him.

Now, she managed to get back in touch with me, and I thought ok i'll put all my thoughts and angers aside and try to build a relationship with her. So I did, but she really IS a horrible person, I feel embarrassed when I'm with her in public she is so nasty to people, and judging.

My adoptive dad has been really supportive, and reminded me that I don't have to know her, I can stop talking to her and never have to see her again.

So I've just got off the phone to her telling her I don't ever want to speak to her again.

Should I feel guilty/ashamed for doing this? Her partner texted me saying why would I lead her on and then just drop her.

Reply 1

Yoda

12

Tell her partner that you were giving her an oppotunity and she blew it. You'd rather not talk to a bitch like that.

Reply 2

romeosbitch

15

You didnt lead her on.

You got a chance to talk to the biological mother you never knew and didnt like her.

You shouldnt feel guilty or ashamed for this.

Reply 3

Louenn

I've been reliably informed that the only person in life you have to both like and love is the person you marry/decide to spend the rest of your life with.

It's ok to dislike your family. And you've made the effort to get to know the woman who bore you and you don't like her. It's ok, because not everyone in this world is going to like everyone else.

I wouldn't feel guilty if I were you. You can't change the person she is, and it's your choice as to whether you continue to see her or not, and as you've chosen not, then she - and her partner - should respect that.

Some people have far worse relationships with their biological parents and can't make that choice, so be thankful you've had the opportunity to chose what's best for you.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks, that's helped me a lot. :smile:

To show just how nasty a person she is - my biological sister (got back in touch at the same time, get on really well) just received text messages from her, saying; rot in hell, you evil bitch, don't ever contact me ( which she hasn't done for at least 2 years anyway). She thinks my sister influenced me, like a puppet.

Glad I don't have to put up with her any more.

Reply 5

Louenn

Anonymous

Thanks, that's helped me a lot. :smile:

To show just how nasty a person she is - my biological sister (got back in touch at the same time, get on really well) just received text messages from her, saying; rot in hell, you evil bitch, don't ever contact me ( which she hasn't done for at least 2 years anyway). She thinks my sister influenced me, like a puppet.

Glad I don't have to put up with her any more.

Definitely made the right choice in cutting contact.

Family probs..

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