this issue requires someone clever please

Ok I've obviously got some problem here, and I only just realised it today. So anyone who knows anything about psychology/psychiatry or whatever could give me an answer here, I need to hear from you!

I've always been a hygene freak around people. I won't share a spoon or fork or glass, won't go near anyone who's ill, will run for the hills if someone coughs or sneezes near me, check the hygene record of restaurants before I eat at them (!), erm..what else....if someone cooks for me ill ask them "were your hands clean when you made it?", and loads of other things. I'm basically an obsessive.

But today, when I dropped a piece of chocolate on a toilet floor, I picked it up, blew on it and cleaned it, and I ate it! So I realised that I am only a hygiene freak around people. When I'm on my own I don't seem to give a toss give a toss.

What on earth could this mean? That I'm worried that people think I'm dirty so I'm eager to prove that I'm not, or that I perceive that people are judgemental of others based on their cleanliness?

I dont really think its either...any suggestions anyone?

thanks

Reply 1

Alamothih

you better appreciate my remembering psychology :wink:

nah its fine.

First thing that struck me is maybe its a "behaviour" learnt or inherited.

Did a role model in early life, perhaps a parent act in a similar way? and you attempted to mimick resulting in this behaviour.

Or perhaps you were taught to be extremely hygenic in relation to something you did as a child, such as always ate mud or something? then your parents taught u to be clean, and you went OTT as children do.

Could be a bazillion things, and none are worrying :smile:

Reply 2

Leigh

15

There are worse things to be pedantic about!

Sounded a little like (the little I know about) OCD until the last bit.

/uninformed

Reply 3

ShinyApple

14

Pretty standard OCD, its not like its something hard. It affects people in many different ways, none of which are a major issue. If you find it getting in the way of normal life then talk to a GP who can refer you to a psychologist.

Reply 4

horrorboy

Anonymous

Ok I've obviously got some problem here, and I only just realised it today. So anyone who knows anything about psychology/psychiatry or whatever could give me an answer here, I need to hear from you!

I've always been a hygene freak around people. I won't share a spoon or fork or glass, won't go near anyone who's ill, will run for the hills if someone coughs or sneezes near me, check the hygene record of restaurants before I eat at them (!), erm..what else....if someone cooks for me ill ask them "were your hands clean when you made it?", and loads of other things. I'm basically an obsessive.

But today, when I dropped a piece of chocolate on a toilet floor, I picked it up, blew on it and cleaned it, and I ate it! So I realised that I am only a hygiene freak around people. When I'm on my own I don't seem to give a toss give a toss.

What on earth could this mean? That I'm worried that people think I'm dirty so I'm eager to prove that I'm not, or that I perceive that people are judgemental of others based on their cleanliness?

I dont really think its either...any suggestions anyone?

thanks

Maybe you can deal with or are not bothered about the consequence of your own unhygenic actions but are bothered about other peoples. You might like being totally in control of your own hygene.

Or if you are mainly bothered about catching colds (like I am) being around others means you are at higher risk whereas eating chocolate off the floor will hardly result in you catching a cold. What do you think the problem is?

Reply 5

Hanzing

13

Interesting.. Do you think that maybe you dont trust others? Seeing as your behaviour is displayed around others seems to rely on you not sharing anything with them/ avoiding them when there ill all these can have a tendancy to be giving away control of a situation to another person, wheras if your alone you have the hygenic control within the situation and trust your own thoughts.
Many people have problem with relinqushing control to others as it can make them feel nervous and helpless and they can have no influence over the outcome, Nice bit Of Cognitive and Social Psych for you.
(Does a Psych uni student count..? :smile:

)

Reply 6

Logan

4

The only thing is that if you do find it hindering your normal life A LOT then maybe you need to go check your GP and eventually a psychiatrist who can help you maybe solve the problem. However, if you are managing it fine and if you find youre ok even with the current circumstance then its fine.

Reply 7

HeadShock

Sounds like an OCD with a psychosocial twist, maybe you subconsciously think everyone is judging you on your hygiene.

Reply 8

Riddy

horrorboy

Maybe you can deal with or are not bothered about the consequence of your own unhygenic actions but are bothered about other peoples. You might like being totally in control of your own hygene.

Or if you are mainly bothered about catching colds (like I am) being around others means you are at higher risk whereas eating chocolate off the floor will hardly result in you catching a cold. What do you think the problem is?

Control of her own hygene? Idiot

Reply 9

ShinyApple

14

Can we all learn to spell hygiene please.

For Riddy (who is obviously bored): I suggest you troll elsewhere. People don't appreciate being called an idiot, and there is certainly no need to do so.

Reply 10

Riddy

ShinyApple

Can we all learn to spell hygiene please.

Exactly, she wanted someone clever not who can't spell lol!

Reply 11

Hanzing

13

God, Its just a word, let it go people. Whatever way its spelt you still get what there saying.

Reply 12

FoeGeddaBowDeet

you're a hygiene conscious hypocrite is all!

Reply 13

Hanzing

13

Well, Im in the right degree then :smile:

Reply 14

horrorboy

Riddy

Control of her own hygene? Idiot

Yea it sounds like she doesn't like to let go and wants control because of a fear of catching something or being unhygenic. Sorry if im wrong Ive never been good at psychology but no need to call me an idiot!

Reply 15

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

Ok I've obviously got some problem here, and I only just realised it today. So anyone who knows anything about psychology/psychiatry or whatever could give me an answer here, I need to hear from you!

I've always been a hygene freak around people. I won't share a spoon or fork or glass, won't go near anyone who's ill, will run for the hills if someone coughs or sneezes near me, check the hygene record of restaurants before I eat at them (!), erm..what else....if someone cooks for me ill ask them "were your hands clean when you made it?", and loads of other things. I'm basically an obsessive.

But today, when I dropped a piece of chocolate on a toilet floor, I picked it up, blew on it and cleaned it, and I ate it! So I realised that I am only a hygiene freak around people. When I'm on my own I don't seem to give a toss give a toss.

What on earth could this mean? That I'm worried that people think I'm dirty so I'm eager to prove that I'm not, or that I perceive that people are judgemental of others based on their cleanliness?

I dont really think its either...any suggestions anyone?

thanks

Was it your toilet floor? Maybe you're convinced that, as you cleaned it, your floors are squeaky clean and good enough to eat off. :wink:

Seriously though, it's probably just a harmless obsession.

Reply 16

ShinyApple

14

wawrwinka

please come forward and tell me, because this really (honestly) is the third rep ive received today for reasons taht i dont understand in the slightest.

Post in the Mod forum your concerns and then at least they are aware of the problem, though they cannot 'fix' it.

I doubt it was a sub who gave you neg rep, just someone bored and quite nasty.

Reply 17

generalebriety

16

wawrwinka

Ok this was your messge -
So are you really negging me just because I negged you? thats childish, unless I negged you for an equally stupid reason. So could you please come forward, prefereably in a PM, and tell me why you're negging me? and How did you find out that it was me who repped you - is this something all subs can do? and whats a sub?!

n00b = newbie. Mildly offensive term generally used by people who are up their own arses.
Sub = subscriber. Someone who pays money to come on TSR and have a coloured name, access to the wonderful shoutbox, and, more relevantly, to be able to see who repped them. All subs can see who repped them and how much they were worth, and whoever you negged last is probably the person that negged you.

wawrwinka

please come forward and tell me, because this really (honestly) is the third rep ive received today for reasons taht i dont understand in the slightest.

Meh, I've had worse. You get neg repped just for having an opinion on here - if only pos rep was as easy to gain. Generally, though, with it only being the ***** who neg rep for nothing (who, surprisingly, are few), pos rep usually outweighs neg rep if you're generally helpful.

It's all part of being here.

(P.S. I fully expect, and even welcome, neg rep for this post from any ***** out there. :smile:

)

Reply 18

generalebriety

16

ShinyApple

Post in the Mod forum your concerns and then at least they are aware of the problem, though they cannot 'fix' it.

I doubt it was a sub who gave you neg rep, just someone bored and quite nasty.

The mods won't do anything. Also, why do you doubt it was a sub? Subs are no 'better' than normal users, they just pay. Frankly I can imagine there being a lot of people out there who pay for the opportunity to neg rep people who neg them. And, having been a sub myself twice, I've seen it happen many a time in the shoutbox. "lol lets all neg ___" "lol awww dats mean, but ok"

Ridiculous.

this issue requires someone clever please

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