How do I ask him...?

There's a boy I really like in year 12 (I am in 13) and I have liked him since the first day of the academic year. I have found out things about him like where he's from and the subjects he does etc and I have spoken to him a few times. We say hello to each other whenever we see each other but I have only had a true conversation with him about 3 times. I want to get to know him and I don't know how to go about it. It is a bit awkward us being in 2 different years. I want to ask him for his email address or something. I have an idea. What about if I agree to help him with work that he might be having trouble with or wants advice on? As we have 2 subjects the same I think it might be a good idea now I think about it.
I saw him sorting about a folder for one of his subjects and started asking him about it and telling him about the topic of my coursework last year and he was listening very attentively and said 'that sounds very interesting' in a genuine and interested tone.
He does like me and is always happy to talk to me, it is just we have not had many conversations.
How do you suggest I get to know him or get closer to him? In my head I see him as my future husband but I understand that that is a fantasy and may not happen. I just want to at least become friends or good friends and if he shows signs that he likes me then I'll go out with him. If not, it isn't meant to be.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

you could try finding him on bebo or one of those things,or just get up the courage to ask him whats the worst that could happen really

Reply 2

Meep!

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Anonymous

In my head I see him as my future husband

Just don't tell him this, yeah?

Anonymous

We say hello to each other whenever we see each other but I have only had a true conversation with him about 3 times.

ESPECIALLY since you hardly know him!

Reply 3

Dark and Lovely

15

Myspace is your friend!!! do a search by his full name, lets just hope he has one.

Reply 4

username30638

13

Dark and Lovely

Myspace is your friend!!! do a search by his full name, lets just hope he has one.

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!

I'm sorry, but how hard is it really just to say hello and start a conversation? Just ask him simple open-ended stuff like how his weekend was, what music he likes, how his course is going etc etc. The more you plan it and the harder you try, the more difficult you will make it for yourself.

The internet should be your absolute last resort.

Reply 5

Yoda

12

Really, all this stalking him and finding out everything about him is completly ****. I don't know why people do it. Just means less to talk about later.

How would you normally ask for someone's e-mail address (hint, get his mobile number, e-mail is for losers)? You'd say to them "hey, can I have your mobile number ...er... I mean e-mail address?". Its not hard. If you don't want to be obvious (I don't see why, he'll see through it easily anyway) have a conversation with him and drop in "I have to go but..." and then whatever you want to say. Idealy you'd leave by then.

Reply 6

Dark and Lovely

15

half face she said she wants his email addy so myspace is best for that as asking that face to face is not cool-if ur gnna ask for somethin face to face go for his no. anyways msn is best and easiest for random convos like "interests" which lead to better convos IRL i've found.

Reply 7

shavenwookiee

6

half face

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!

I'm sorry, but how hard is it really just to say hello and start a conversation? Just ask him simple open-ended stuff like how his weekend was, what music he likes, how his course is going etc etc. The more you plan it and the harder you try, the more difficult you will make it for yourself.

The internet should be your absolute last resort.

100% agree

Its vital to stick to purely verbal communication. Just dont hype it all up too much and talk to him a bit more. Maybe ask him out to do something sometime.

Reply 8

username30638

13

Dark and Lovely

half face she said she wants his email addy so myspace is best for that as asking that face to face is not cool-if ur gnna ask for somethin face to face go for his no. anyways msn is best and easiest for random convos like "interests" which lead to better convos IRL i've found.

If you have to do all of this by email and the internet, there is something seriously wrong.

By all means chat on MSN once you have spoken a few times and know each other reasonably well... but using it as a way of getting to know somebody... I don't know, I just find it pretty sad that people have to resort to that. It's such a sterile way of communicating. And personally I hate the idea of somebody I've never met before being able to find out everything about me. It's just plain wrong.

Reply 9

Sarahl89

15

errrrm. you sound like you're stalking him! if you cant even manage to have a conversation with him in real life where you can get his phone no. etc. without all this hype & build up then i very much doubt you're gonna end up marrying the guy!

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

You lot have got it all wrong. I do have the courage to speak to him. I have and do soeak to him when I can, it is just not often because we are not in the same lessons or in the same year so I don't get to see him often, but when I do, I do speak to him and we talk and everything is great. I am just trying to figure out how do I get to see him more so that I can get to know him better. It's a bit tricky.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

I thought about adding him on hi5 or bebo but so far I have not come across his profile. I'll look for it through a few people who might have him added but I am not going to spend hours looking for it. I'm not like that. I am not the stalker type. And anyway I have had people stalking me and it was horrifying. It drove me crazy. so I couldn't do that to anyone. I am a shy person but I easily put it behind me when speak to him because I want to get to know him and he is an approachable guy, really nice and really down-to earth.
As for the husband thing, yeah thats in the back of my mind but I am not set on it happening. I can just kinda imagine it but it's not something I fantasise about or really believe will happen. It just came to my mind one day.

Reply 12

IndianDiva

Just have a normal conversation with him, and in the midst just say something like "listen I gotta go now, but give me your number or something and I'll catch up with you later".... as you already talk and are on friendly terms, he'll hardly say no... then after a day or so just text him or give him a ring and take it from there.

Reply 13

gyrase

3

Just talk to the poor boy and say 'can I buy you something?' go with him for lunch. If you dont get to see the guy alot, what are you gonna talk about in emails and phone calls? you have to make advance moves in a friendly manner.

Reply 14

Strictly Business

14

Lmao at Decota...

But, yea... I think as you're already on friendly terms, it'd be relatively easier for you to ask for his number. JUst pluck up the courage and get it done - he'll be chuffed - and you can just go on from there. :yy:

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

I've decided to forget the whole thing. Thanks for your advice everyone but I've changed my mind. It is not meant to be and can't work out so I'm forgetting the whole thing.

Reply 16

Meep!

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Anonymous

I've decided to forget the whole thing. Thanks for your advice everyone but I've changed my mind. It is not meant to be and can't work out so I'm forgetting the whole thing.