The ex syndrome.

I split with my boyfriend about a month ago because i couldnt stay in a relationship were i wasnt getting the attention and the loyalty that i needed. I could see that if i carried on - i would have ended up more hurt in the end. I loved him so much when i finished him and i still do.

I dont know how to get him out of my head. I have tried everything. Pulling other people, trying new things, going out with my mates - new and old. Yesterday i broke down in the shower and i dont know why. I really need to move on cos i cant stay in this state of mind for much longer cos its dragging me down.

He has blocked me on his phone and hes got some of my things which is really frustrating all i can do is email...and writing email takes long and i inevitably end up writing how much i love him and miss him (doesnt make any difference as he never replies)

I dont know what to do. I need that last conversation but he aint rational and wont talk to me so theres things i need to say for me to move on.

How the heck do i move on and get the cheating scum out of my brain?

Reply 1

Sausage

OP

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I have tried to get a new fella but my ex knocked my confidence for six so im finding it really hard to even put on a sexy face than trying to get a new boyfriend!

Reply 2

sweetnfresh2

Sausage

I have tried to get a new fella but my ex knocked my confidence for six so im finding it really hard to even put on a sexy face than trying to get a new boyfriend!

Sorry to hear that! Give yourself some time, you know, and you'll be all right. I lost some confidence in me after my break-up as well, but got wiser to know that my ex- couldn't see who I am. So don't take too seriously what he said to you. You know, he was wrong about you, right?

Reply 3

suicidal_dream

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my ex cheated on me and it took me ages to get over him - first off i was like you - texting him, emailing him... anything... occassionally he'd reply, depending on his mood... then it just made me worse.

and i stayed like that for months... actually... over a year but even then after that i still couldnt get him completely out of my mind.

2 years on i met my current boyfriend and have never looked back - it takes time but when you do meet someone new, he will get out of your head,
=]

Reply 4

Nix!

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Sausage

I have tried to get a new fella but my ex knocked my confidence for six so im finding it really hard to even put on a sexy face than trying to get a new boyfriend!

Don't ever find a replacement to get over an ex!

It's not fair on the 'replacement' and to top it off - it's a rebound, they very rarely work!

Look, people come and go in your life and at the end of the day the only person you have is yourself. You need to be able to stand up on your own two feet between relationships or you're just going to be completely emotionally dependant on other people for your whole life. You will only get hurt more.

It sounds to me like you're at a certain point of recovery. I know it will seem like you're never going to get over him, but trust me, you will. One day you'll wake up and all these feelings you have will be gone, but you need to aid this process by not giving him any thought or at least as little thought as possible.

You probably broke down because, like I just explained, you may be emotionally dependant - you need to learn to fend for yourself.

There is no easy answer I'm afraid. You just need to soldier on until the hurt is gone, you will be a stronger person for it.

Reply 5

tetrahydrocannabinol.

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Sausage

I split with my boyfriend about a month ago because i couldnt stay in a relationship were i wasnt getting the attention and the loyalty that i needed. I could see that if i carried on - i would have ended up more hurt in the end. I loved him so much when i finished him and i still do.

I dont know how to get him out of my head. I have tried everything. Pulling other people, trying new things, going out with my mates - new and old. Yesterday i broke down in the shower and i dont know why. I really need to move on cos i cant stay in this state of mind for much longer cos its dragging me down.

He has blocked me on his phone and hes got some of my things which is really frustrating all i can do is email...and writing email takes long and i inevitably end up writing how much i love him and miss him (doesnt make any difference as he never replies)

I dont know what to do. I need that last conversation but he aint rational and wont talk to me so theres things i need to say for me to move on.

How the heck do i move on and get the cheating scum out of my brain?

Sorry to chuck a cliche at you, but only time can help. But I promise you it will. Keep smiling, looking after yourself, eat well, and spoil yourself. Also, enjoy being single! It'll get better though :smile:

The ex syndrome.

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