Can being "gay" be a phase?Watch
I'm not saying being gay is a phase because I know plenty of people who are very sure of their sexuality but can it be a phase with certain people? Like I was telling my cousin how I am starting to see girls how I see guys and that I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend or experimenting with a girl. And then said I think that I am "bisexual" and I also told one of my friends and they both said its probably a "phase". My cousin told me that she was "bisexual" for a couple months and then she "got over it" and now she can only see herself with a guy. So I was just wondering can being gay/bisexual be a phase for some people?
Calling it a "phase" not only seems childish, but also seems to come from people who hold traditionalist views that have been offended by said experimentation. Even if it was meant with good intent, it can often come across as if you're putting someone down and not taking them seriously.
I find it silly when people say for example bisexuality is just a phase for everyone, but again, the opposite is true; to consider it not a phase, when there's over 7 billion of us, seems a tad silly to me. But the first one generally seems to be the case.
There's also the possobility of something called a fluid sexuality, where it changes over time.
I still find it hard to understand/relate to how people dont know their sexuality. If you want to ****/have a relationship with men only, you are straight. If you want to ****/have relationships with women only, you are gay. If you want to do it with both, you are bisexual thats all there is to it.
I also believe that if you are bisexual you are going to be more 1 or the other which is sort of like attraction to different traits and physical appearances. For example, at the moment I prefer guys with blond hair like me, that could change however in the future.
Same goes with attractiveness to the same/opposite sex if you are bisexual you may have during one period of time a grave attraction to the same sex but at another point you may be attractive more to the opposite sex. This is because while sexuality is quite rigid, attractiveness can be very fluid but it does not change your actual sexuality.
Although this is just my opinion.