This discussion is now closed.

Check out other Related discussions

Meet the parents

Anonymous #1

how long was it before you did the whole 'meet the parents' thing with your nex bf/gf?

Reply 1

Jelkin

17

Nearly 6 weeks, but I'm at uni so I just met his mum when she came up to pick him up for Christmas. I went out to lunch with his parents for the first time yesterday because they were in the area, but I was invited on holiday with them ages ago! I think it's really down to the individual couple.

Reply 2

Louise88

I can't remember when I met my boyfriends parents, It must have been a week or two into the relationship. My boyfriend and I had been going out two weeks before he met my mum on my 18th birthday so I must have met them just before that. We met the parents quite quickly...

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

I've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 3weeks now, and I'm supposed to be meeting his parents and friends this weeked. I'm terrified! :redface:

Reply 4

Danny the Geezer

21

When and if I ever get to the stage of "meet the parents" I think I'll need a few beforehand for the old nerves.

Reply 5

shewantstobeme

10

i was best mates with my bf before we started going out, and i was at his house/he was at mine all the time anyway lol.
with my ex's it was more of a 'come to my house, and my parents might be there' kind of thing the first time.
im going out on a family meal with his parents and grandparents for his birthday next week... argh! so nervous!

Reply 6

hippieglitter

19

About a week, but they live quite near our uni so he went over to pick up his post and happened to take me with him. The first meal i had with them was a nightmare cos they all know how to use chopsticks and i found it really difficult.

Reply 7

foxiroxi

10

He met my parents after a couple of weeks as he insisted on visiting me on valentines day after I finished work at 8:30 so ended up being allowed to stay the night.

I didn't meet his Dad untill after 11 months but his live in thailand so went over there at christmas to meet them but his mum was in NewZealand (I'm not too impressed I paid to go out there for her to be in another country but never mind!) So still, after a year and a month I still haven't met his mother! LOL

Reply 8

high priestess fnord

9

7 months i beleive, i was sooo scared lol

Reply 9

xxsarahjwxx

About a week after we met, and a week before we were even going out lol. He even met my god-mother and her family at the same time. He's quite a talkative lad so he was there giving it all that, and he started telling a joke then remembered, half way through, what the punch line was. Bravely, he continued, got to the punchline (which involved the word "w*nking") and waited for the silence....my parents and my god-parents were in fits i tell you! It certainly broke the ice (they were slightly drunk at the time so i wouldnt advise it on a sober occasion lol). Meanwhile i was sitting there waiting for the earth to swallow me up as i already knew the punch line....lol

Reply 10

Louenn

It varied. With two of the blokes I went out with, I never met the parents.

With the bloke I'd like to go out with, I met his dad & step-mum before I met him!!

With the other chaps - it was less than a fortnight into the relationship to about 18 months after the relationship ended.

Reply 11

Acaila

17

A few weeks IIRC for his mum, a few months for his dad. About a month before he met my parents.

With my ex, I met his mum the same day I met him :biggrin:

Reply 12

grace

15

my dad met my bf before we started going out; i didn't meet jon's parents until about three months into the relationship.

Reply 13

dita_parlo

11

Well the first time I met him was a drunk encounter in town, then was invited back to his and met his parents then haha.

Reply 14

Anonymous #3

i met my bf's mum the day after we got together (as in, the day after we had first kissed). so, at the time, we weren't exactly using bf/gf terminology, weren't really 100% sure what was going on, etc etc... which made the situation rather interesting haha. and he met my parents about two weeks later.

Reply 15

Helenia

20

We're at uni, and live a long way apart in the holidays, so it didn't happen very quickly. He met mine very briefly after about 4 months, but only for about 5 mins, and then not until he came to stay in the summer for our 6 month not-anniversary. I met his when I went to stay somewhere around the 5 month mark. Personally I don't see anything to be afraid of.

Reply 16

Roberto Tomato

The day I dumped her.

Reply 17

Vampyrcorn

14

xxsarahjwxx

About a week after we met, and a week before we were even going out lol. He even met my god-mother and her family at the same time. He's quite a talkative lad so he was there giving it all that, and he started telling a joke then remembered, half way through, what the punch line was. Bravely, he continued, got to the punchline (which involved the word "w*nking") and waited for the silence....my parents and my god-parents were in fits i tell you! It certainly broke the ice (they were slightly drunk at the time so i wouldnt advise it on a sober occasion lol). Meanwhile i was sitting there waiting for the earth to swallow me up as i already knew the punch line....lol

hahaha. You're so lucky your parents reacted like that. :p:

Do many people see meeting parents as a big deal then?
I mean, it's not like this is the 18th century. Meeting parents doesn't signify a massive commitment or anything.
Did you (people reading this i mean) have parents who really wanted to meet your boyfriend/girlfriend? Or did the desire to have them know each other come from you? How would you have reacted if they'd said to you "omg (s)he's awful - I would rather you dated a kangaroo than him/her".

Just curious.

When my exboyfriend met my mother it was just a couple of weeks in and it was because she was dropping me off somewhere so I could meet up with him. But it wasn't a 'meeting' as such. They were both just there. I think he was a bit intimidated because she was wearing a big fur coat and looking all stern because she had something on her mind, and he was more of an arty type. Not that it really mattered.

Reply 18

bipersona

it took about 3 weeks before he came round for 'dinner'! i was terrified.. especially about what my dad would say.

Reply 19

Flicker

13

I met my boyf's parents and brother after going out for about 2 months. They came to visit him at uni so we went out for a meal. The pressure was off though because they were more interested in how he was as they hadn't seen him for ages! then i stayed with them at christmas, so after 3 months of being together, and he came to stay with me too. His mum used to text me before i'd met her though to check he was alive/ok!

Meet the parents

Related discussions

Articles for you