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Do you let your guy go out?

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Why are so many of my friends surprised when i say my boyfriend is on a boys night out? Do other people not have boys nights out? They just ask me where he is and why i'm not with him and i say he's out with his mates and they are like 'what you let him go out without you?' and i'm like 'yeah, why not?' Do most girls not trust there boyfriends to behave when they're out with the lads, just cos everyone he is with is out on the pull doesn't mean he's gonna cheat. Do you let your boyfriend go out without you or does he not ever go out without you? Are your friends surprised that if you let him go out?

Reply 1

grace

15

i'd let him, he just usually chooses not to. He says he doesn't have a good time unless i'm with him :biggrin:

Reply 2

xxsarahjwxx

My bf doesnt ever want to go out with the boys (he doesnt really have any close male friends, he calls them more his acquaintances at college). His interests are more in scouts and he's good friends with a lot of middle-aged men lol saying that, he has been on a stag night with them. He also goes on camps etc without me where things are renowned for happening (someone always gets off with someone else.....normally the same girl actually lol) and i dont really think about it. I just miss him!

EDIT: my bf says the same as grace's lol

Reply 3

Louise88

My boyfriend and I have the same group of friends so most of the time, we are out together. We met through friends and we have stayed in the same group of friends since leaving school but it's never been a problem. At the same time, he has a lot of nights out with his friends without me, I do the same and it's nice to get a little bit of space. I actually have to encourage my boyfriend to go out with his friends more instead of seeing me all the time. It's not that I don't want to spend time with him, I do. I just think it's nice for him to see other people and catch up. He prefers spending time with me but I try to encourage him to have a guys night out once in a while and to actually enjoy himself instead of sitting trying to text me during it!

Reply 4

person 34

9

Of course! We would both go insane if we couldn't go out with eachother sometimes.

Reply 5

Nix!

11

Any girl that was too clingy, jealous or needy to let me go out with my friends when and where I wanted would be deemed unsuitable relationship material and consequently made redundant with immediate effect.

Reply 6

Pink_Crayon_Eater

My boyfriend goes out with his mates all the time. Doesn't bother me at all. Friendships are important and I'd feel bad if he started pushing them away for me. If it all turned sour between us then he'd need them.
I trust him not to do what his mates do (randomly pull women) and, when I go out with my mates, I'm trusted too.
Plus, every now and again, I go with him and have a laugh with his mates and vice versa.

Reply 7

Jelkin

17

I have male friends whose girlfriends don't even let them talk to other girls, and it baffles me intensely. Why do they put up with it? My boyfriend and I have the same sort of friends so we're often out together, but then, sometimes he's out on rugby socials (nakedness, misogyny, sexism, laddishness, all of which I can't stand) and I just let him get on with it. i trust him entirely.

Reply 8

dita_parlo

11

He doesn't really go out much to be honest, he prefers having a drink at home. He does occasionaly go out with his cousins though, I don't really mind, except getting the drunken calls at 4am begging me to come round!

Reply 9

Helenia

20

If I didn't let him go out, I couldn't expect to be "allowed" to go on girly nights out, and there's no way I'm having that! The only time I get angry is when he passes out and leaves me locked out so I have to get the scary nightbus back to my flat.
To be honest, the more you pressure someone to avoid the opposite sex, the more they're going to resent you and eventually want some freedom.

Reply 10

Rui

10

hippieglitter

Why are so many of my friends surprised when i say my boyfriend is on a boys night out? Do other people not have boys nights out? They just ask me where he is and why i'm not with him and i say he's out with his mates and they are like 'what you let him go out without you?' and i'm like 'yeah, why not?' Do most girls not trust there boyfriends to behave when they're out with the lads, just cos everyone he is with is out on the pull doesn't mean he's gonna cheat. Do you let your boyfriend go out without you or does he not ever go out without you? Are your friends surprised that if you let him go out?

I'd say he's definitely cheating.

Reply 11

nicki04

7

No i have no problem with my boyfriend going out with his mates because i trust him. I love my nights out with the girls and i know its not a night all about pulling so why would i worry about him on his nights out either?

Reply 12

soup_dragon87

Perhaps you're friends are inferring you're a controlling oddball, and such a lapse in behaviour on your part is almost worrying to them.

Reply 13

Josiette

1

Yes, its a bit controlling not to.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

i would if
a. he wanted to
b. he wasnt struggling with money
c. he took me out

i mean if he went out with his mates all the time and never me then there would be a argument
if i told him not to go out like his going to listen his a grown man

Reply 15

silverbolt

19

Rui

I'd say he's definitely cheating.

and id say your a fool, not everyone would cheat just beacuse thier partner wasnt there, i go out with my friends and my gf goes out with hers nothing to worry about really

Reply 16

Rui

10

I think you took that too seriously, sir...

Reply 17

*starry_eyed_*

14

I don't "let" him at all. He can do what he likes. Really. He's a human being. I go out with my friends, he goes out with his, pfft we go out with each other's friends.

Reply 18

Strictly Business

14

Nix!

Any girl that was too clingy, jealous or needy to let me go out with my friends when and where I wanted would be deemed unsuitable relationship material and consequently made redundant with immediate effect.

Co-sign...

Reply 19

Flicker

13

I'd quite like my boyfriend to go out more. I think i'm more sociable than him as i get on with more people off my course at uni, and in the first year went out loads. Last term though when it was cold and horrible weather it was much preferable just to stay in with him then queue up and freezing my bottom off waiting to get into a club. But now it's bad because we've got a bit dependent on each other after getting into this habit! He also teases me that i've stopped loving him if i go out with my friends though so i feel guilty - but i think it's definitely healthy to do things separately sometimes.

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