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She's not looking for a boyfriend

God...We are perfect for each other.

Basically I really really fancy this girl at my college. I've only known her a short while and I have been waiting for the right girl to come along to ask out (last relationship was a month ago and my friends have been on me to get a girlfriend to get over her).

So shes pretty, intelligent, really pretty and she has the best personality in the world...alongside MORALS. (Something a lot of the girls at my college dont have).

She follows me about at lunchtimes, although she doesn't make it obvious I have a feeling she likes me. Her friends say she doesn't but it just feels like she does. Now I was all ready to ask her out and stuff but the night before her friend told me that they were talking about boys and she said she's not looking for a boyfriend at the moment because she has exams and stuff.

So I cancelled my plan (I'm afraid of rejection) but I really think she likes me...so do you recommend I wait until after the exams and ask her out during summer?

Reply 1

xxsarahjwxx

Just do it now, while the moment's right. At least if she rejects you you know its because of exams not because of you.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Why do you think you're perfect for her? Maybe you're not her type.

Reply 3

shavenwookiee

6

On one hand, you've got nothing to lose, asking girls out is good practise.

On the other hand, you've got nothing to gain. Shes already made it very clear to you through her friends that she isnt interested.

Pick and choose! Doesnt matter either way really...

(P.S. Chances are you've been as subtle as a choking walrus.)

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

shavenwookiee

On one hand, you've got nothing to lose, asking girls out is good practise.

On the other hand, you've got nothing to gain. Shes already made it very clear to you through her friends that she isnt interested.

Pick and choose! Doesnt matter either way really...

You can lose your friendship. You already know through her friends she's not interested in you. Why destroy your friendship?

Reply 5

shavenwookiee

6

There you go. Mr anon poster number 2 has answered the question for you. Dont bother.

Find someone else.

Reply 6

aaaaahhhhh

Ask her to come out for a drink with her over the weekend or something. Tell her that your really time pressured with exams and everything at the moment (so it shows to her your not going to be on her back about coming out when shes got exams).

To be honest, i would probably tell my friends that i'm not looking for a boyfriend, if i had been single or something for a while. What people say and feel may be different. When someone asks you out you DO give it a second thought. Just give her time to think stuff over.

I really admire people who take rejection in their stride, and carry on being mates with someone.

Reply 7

Yoda

12

Wookiee knows. Our jedi mind tricks know all. Personally I'm not sure she really does like you. You think what you want to think, not what is true. And thats the problem many people have.

Shes perfect for you. Eh....no. As if any girl is perfect.
She follows you around. Eh..................no. It would be VERY clear if she liked you that much. Even you can't be that stupid.
She won't date someone. Eh...................................no. ANY girl will date someone, exams or not. It just has to be the right person. Girls act first, then convince themselves its right through "logic" (funny, you thought it was guys who act before they think). "Oh but I need a boyfriend so I am more relaxed for the exams".

Find someone else, you're clearly messed up over this one.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

aaaaahhhhh

Ask her to come out for a drink with her over the weekend or something. Tell her that your really time pressured with exams and everything at the moment (so it shows to her your not going to be on her back about coming out when shes got exams).

To be honest, i would probably tell my friends that i'm not looking for a boyfriend, if i had been single or something for a while. What people say and feel may be different. When someone asks you out you DO give it a second thought. Just give her time to think stuff over.

She might think you're trying to get her drunk and then... That exams convo WILL sound like you're wanting her to pity you. She might not be the type of person who goes out to pubs and drink alcohol either.

Reply 9

Yoda

12

shavenwookiee

There you go. Mr anon poster number 2 has answered the question for you. Dont bother.

Find someone else.

Use the force dude. What sort of a "friendship" have you got if you're obsessed with dating this girl, and shes obsessed with, well, not dating you. Hit on her. As he said before she definatly knows you like her, and you gain nothing by being a pussy and not going for it.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

Yoda

Wookiee knows. Our jedi mind tricks know all. Personally I'm not sure she really does like you. You think what you want to think, not what is true. And thats the problem many people have.

Shes perfect for you. Eh....no. As if any girl is perfect.
She follows you around. Eh..................no. It would be VERY clear if she liked you that much. Even you can't be that stupid.
She won't date someone. Eh...................................no. ANY girl will date someone, exams or not. It just has to be the right person. Girls act first, then convince themselves its right through "logic" (funny, you thought it was guys who act before they think). "Oh but I need a boyfriend so I am more relaxed for the exams".

Find someone else, you're clearly messed up over this one.

Not all girls date guys. Some are lesbians. Some are asexual.

Reply 11

Dionysus

15

Maybe she's "not looking for a boyfriend" because she doesn't want anyone but you? :biggrin:

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Cage

Maybe she's "not looking for a boyfriend" because she doesn't want anyone but you? :biggrin:

Pushing it when it's obvious she's not interested you will do you no good. What type of 'no' don't you understand? I bet she'll end up avoiding you after you make a move.

Reply 13

Yoda

12

Anonymous

Not all girls date guys. Some are lesbians. Some are asexual.

When you look this good, they'll make an exception.

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

Yoda

When you look this good, they'll make an exception.

This is how a typical rapist think. He forces the woman into sex believing he's that good looking and she'll 'eventually' fall in love with him. Then he goes to jail confused.

Reply 15

Yoda

12

Anonymous

This is how a typical rapist think. He forces the woman into sex believing he's that good looking and she'll 'eventually' fall in love with him. Then he goes to jail confused.

Last time she was just shy. Though she clearly wanted it as I'm not in jail. I was doing her a favour really.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

Well she is seriously following me around.

I do talk to her, but I talk to all girls and I don't speak to her any differently.

She doesn't know I fancy her.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Cage

Maybe she's "not looking for a boyfriend" because she doesn't want anyone but you? :biggrin:

I like your thinking! :p:

Reply 18

Zerforax

21

Anonymous

This is how a typical rapist think. He forces the woman into sex believing he's that good looking and she'll 'eventually' fall in love with him. Then he goes to jail confused.

id rep if i could :p:

Reply 19

buttons7

1

Anonymous

Basically I really really fancy this girl at my college. I've only known her a short while and I have been waiting for the right girl to come along to ask out (last relationship was a month ago and my friends have been on me to get a girlfriend to get over her).

i love the way you make getting a girlfriend sound like a shopping trip.

She's not looking for a boyfriend

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