Is this snobby?

I have a masters degree with a professional job andd I am currently single after just coming out of a long term relationship with a man who had GCSE's and an NVQ as his only academic qualifications.

He lacked motivation, wasn't interested in the same subjects as me, didn't have the same desire for success ,and while his looks attracted me at first, I soon realised there was nothing past a physical attraction but stayed due to social pressure.

This experience has meant I'm really reluctant to date a guy who hasn't got the same level of education as myself.
Although I know loads of people who aren't as formally educated as myself will be nothing like my ex,
It's just put me off and I've found I would now only agree to date or be interested in someone who was also in a professional job, or training to be in one.
It just make the odds much higher that we will be compatible.

Is that really snobby?

I have a masters degree with a professional job andd I am currently single after just coming out of a long term relationship with a man who had GCSE's and an NVQ as his only academic qualifications.

He lacked motivation, wasn't interested in the same subjects as me, didn't have the same desire for success ,and while his looks attracted me at first, I soon realised there was nothing past a physical attraction but stayed due to social pressure.

This experience has meant I'm really reluctant to date a guy who hasn't got the same level of education as myself.
Although I know loads of people who aren't as formally educated as myself will be nothing like my ex,
It's just put me off and I've found I would now only agree to date or be interested in someone who was also in a professional job, or training to be in one.
It just make the odds much higher that we will be compatible.

Is that really snobby?

It's perfectly fine to want a partner who is intelligent and has the same interests as you e.g. in art, film, music, etc.

It would be snobby to pre-judge and write someone off as not being capable of that simply because they don't have a degree. You can be well read, enjoy going to galleries, and so on without having ever gone to university. These are just personal interests and have nothing to do with having a degree.

Similarly, you can have a degree and still be absolutely vapid and ignorant. Some of the boringest people I know have a degree (or several), and still don't know ****.

My advice would be to keep an open mind - don't judge a book by its cover etc etc.

I have a masters degree with a professional job andd I am currently single after just coming out of a long term relationship with a man who had GCSE's and an NVQ as his only academic qualifications.

He lacked motivation, wasn't interested in the same subjects as me, didn't have the same desire for success ,and while his looks attracted me at first, I soon realised there was nothing past a physical attraction but stayed due to social pressure.

This experience has meant I'm really reluctant to date a guy who hasn't got the same level of education as myself.
Although I know loads of people who aren't as formally educated as myself will be nothing like my ex,
It's just put me off and I've found I would now only agree to date or be interested in someone who was also in a professional job, or training to be in one.
It just make the odds much higher that we will be compatible.

Is that really snobby?

It's more related to their job. I would only date someone with a professional
Job or training for one. They would need a degree for that.

If they didn't I wouldnt trust they had the same hopes and desires as me

was he a philistine

No. Haha

was he just not interested then

That's correct. And unmotivated in life. He had no job or money. Just a complete loser to be honest.

I have a masters degree with a professional job andd I am currently single after just coming out of a long term relationship with a man who had GCSE's and an NVQ as his only academic qualifications.

He lacked motivation, wasn't interested in the same subjects as me, didn't have the same desire for success ,and while his looks attracted me at first, I soon realised there was nothing past a physical attraction but stayed due to social pressure.

This experience has meant I'm really reluctant to date a guy who hasn't got the same level of education as myself.
Although I know loads of people who aren't as formally educated as myself will be nothing like my ex,
It's just put me off and I've found I would now only agree to date or be interested in someone who was also in a professional job, or training to be in one.
It just make the odds much higher that we will be compatible.

Is that really snobby?

I think we sound quite similar, all though I don't have a huge amount of education behind me, I am still very ambitious and have big goals for the future, to the point where I would be willing to do anything to get to where I want to be, I've had this big motivation within the past year now and I've found I've been more choosy about people who I have in my life or about guys who I decide to see. For example, if a guy wants to do the same old thing every day for his life and doesn't want to become succesful, then I'm sorry but me and that guy wouldn't work out, simply because I'm aiming bigger and higher instead of the average living lifestyle. Trust me, motivation & being succesful and being hungry to do well are the most attractive things. I struggle to be attracted to anybody who lacks that.

So no, you're not being snobby at all. You have your standards and you won't settle. Good for you.

OK.

You're definitely not snobby, though he seems like he definitely needs motivation; there are some people that you can't dedicate your entire time to if they are just unmotivated. It's not fair on you and he's making life hard on himself.

So no, find someone else you can learn from and who you will teach and things you will enjoy together.

*sorry if any of that didn't make sense lel*

I have a masters degree with a professional job andd I am currently single after just coming out of a long term relationship with a man who had GCSE's and an NVQ as his only academic qualifications.

He lacked motivation, wasn't interested in the same subjects as me, didn't have the same desire for success ,and while his looks attracted me at first, I soon realised there was nothing past a physical attraction but stayed due to social pressure.

This experience has meant I'm really reluctant to date a guy who hasn't got the same level of education as myself.
Although I know loads of people who aren't as formally educated as myself will be nothing like my ex,
It's just put me off and I've found I would now only agree to date or be interested in someone who was also in a professional job, or training to be in one.
It just make the odds much higher that we will be compatible.

Is that really snobby?

I have a masters degree with a professional job andd I am currently single after just coming out of a long term relationship with a man who had GCSE's and an NVQ as his only academic qualifications.

He lacked motivation, wasn't interested in the same subjects as me, didn't have the same desire for success ,and while his looks attracted me at first, I soon realised there was nothing past a physical attraction but stayed due to social pressure.

This experience has meant I'm really reluctant to date a guy who hasn't got the same level of education as myself.
Although I know loads of people who aren't as formally educated as myself will be nothing like my ex,
It's just put me off and I've found I would now only agree to date or be interested in someone who was also in a professional job, or training to be in one.
It just make the odds much higher that we will be compatible.

Is that really snobby?