I miss my ex, but don't want to get back together :(

Hi,

Me and my ex broke up on quite even terms a few weeks ago agreeing to be friends because our relationship wasnt really going anywhere. However I still miss her so much. We were friends before we started going out and our friendship was really fun. I really wish we hadnt got into a relationship so we can still have that friendship. I am trying to take it back to that because we hardly see each other anymore. Why does society dictate that after a breakup you have to be more apart than before you even had the relationship?! Is it possible that we will be friends again, and we can go out as friends and have a laugh together?

Reply 1

Yellowmarshmellow

Explain to her that you would love to keep her as a friend, give her time and space and she should be fine and want to keep your friendship as it sounds like you two got on really well and there's no point losing that as there is no reason to if you ended well.
Don't let whatever society says influence you as of course you can be friends again as you were friends before and i'm sure that once you've both had a bit of time away from eachother everything will settle down and work out.
Good luck :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Could it be that you miss the company and intimacy you had when you were friends and an item, rather than her in particular?

Reply 3

Yellowmarshmellow

Anonymous

Could it be that you miss the company and intimacy you had when you were friends and an item, rather than her in particular?

I agree, i think the OP misses having someone there as opposed to the specific girl.

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

I'm in a very similar situation OP, except I'm the girl. I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago and he took it fine, and said he wants to be friends etc. Now I see him everyday (unavoidable, we do the same course) and he is talking to me fairly normally and acting totally unbothered, but I just miss him being close to me so much. It's weird how I ended it but I'm the one sitting in my room upset and he's had absolutely no reaction. OP, I think maybe your ex just needs a bit more time. As long as you made clear you really want to be friends and you actually mean it and aren't just saying it as a standard break up phrease, then you just have to wait for her to come back when she's ready. Maybe just ask her if she wants to do something with you tomorrow, because you miss having her as a friend. Emphasise the friend bit so she doesn't misread it. Good luck.