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Weirdness with friend

Something's changed between me and a friend of mine and I'm not sure how to handle it.

I've known him for about 3 years and my bf and I used to live with him for about two years before we moved away last year. We had a party on our last night there and bf went home early. The friend later walked me home (I was quite drunk) and we ended up sitting on bench near the house chatting. He's a really private person and though I was good friends with him I hadn't had a good chat with him before. But that night we had a really good talk and I was feeling very sentimental so I gave him a big hug and told him I loved him (which I do, he's a really dear friend to me). He didn't say it back but I didn't expect him to because I know he has some issues with that (he suffers a bit from depression).
We've chatted loads since we moved away and met up a good few times. Last year he was in hospital for two weeks and I visited him every day while I was back staying with my parents, and he commented what a good friend I was compared to others who hadn't bothered. I would say that since I moved away we've become a lot closer.
Well lately he's been acting a bit weird around me, and I get some weird vibes from him...I suspect he's started to fancy me or something. When I'm around him there's a bit of an atmosphere and he gets sort of goofy and sometimes a bit standoffish. I'm wondering whether I should talk to him about this or just ignore it? I was delighted when we started to get closer cos he's a great guy and now I don't want things to get spoiled by this coming between us. What should I do?

Reply 1

Do one of those blunt... 'oh your such a great guy, like a brother to me'
:biggrin:

Reply 2

He knows nothing could ever happen between us cos I'm still with my bf, so should I just let it lie?

Reply 3

I'd really appreciate any thoughts on this cos the thought of losing this guy as a friend is really getting to me.

Reply 4

Just let it die out. He won't act upon his feelings if he does fancy you.

Reply 5

Depressed people always think they'll just make a fool out of themselves if they admit they fancy you. He won't bother. I guarantee it.