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    This is going to sound very weird, but ever since I started walking to sixth form last year, an old man who does building work for a house on my road would say hello to me. At first (well I still am) was a bit wary because he'd always compliment me so I'd say thank you and just carry on walking. But he was friendly and didn't ask anything personal about me, it's just random things like how was school and the weather's nice today etc. But I told my friend about it and she thinks it's incredibly strange for an old man to be friends with a teenage girl. I'm not talking about the kind of friendship where I'd invite him to my house or anything, but he is a nice person and we have pleasant conversations...so is it really that wrong? Should I be wary and avoid him?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is going to sound very weird, but ever since I started walking to sixth form last year, an old man who does building work for a house on my road would say hello to me. At first (well I still am) was a bit wary because he'd always compliment me so I'd say thank you and just carry on walking. But he was friendly and didn't ask anything personal about me, it's just random things like how was school and the weather's nice today etc. But I told my friend about it and she thinks it's incredibly strange for an old man to be friends with a teenage girl. I'm not talking about the kind of friendship where I'd invite him to my house or anything, but he is a nice person and we have pleasant conversations...so is it really that wrong? Should I be wary and avoid him?
    Your friend sounds paranoid, having a conversation doesn't cause any harm. If it was much more it'd be a bit odd.

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    Hmm, I wouldn't say it's "wrong". Like, I personally have loads of kind elderly people in my community. Some of them, if I bump into them on the road, I'll say hello and stuff, that's about it.

    In your case, I reckon it's ok but stay careful. These type of people could be messed up in the head, so just keep it to a quick chat on the way to school or w/e.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is going to sound very weird, but ever since I started walking to sixth form last year, an old man who does building work for a house on my road would say hello to me. At first (well I still am) was a bit wary because he'd always compliment me so I'd say thank you and just carry on walking. But he was friendly and didn't ask anything personal about me, it's just random things like how was school and the weather's nice today etc. But I told my friend about it and she thinks it's incredibly strange for an old man to be friends with a teenage girl. I'm not talking about the kind of friendship where I'd invite him to my house or anything, but he is a nice person and we have pleasant conversations...so is it really that wrong? Should I be wary and avoid him?
    It's unconventional but there's nothing inherently wrong with it. Just be careful that he doesn't have greater designs for your relationship...
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    I don't really see the problem not gonna lie. If I dunno know he starts getting close and touches you inappropriately or maybe even asks you round his house then maybe that's a little strange but I think he's just being nice and friendly. You're not technically friends when you think about it, it's only small chit chat between individuals walking past each other which is completely normal in my opinion. My dad talks to people while waiting for the bus every morning before work but he doesn't really class them as mates, sure they talk everyday but they wouldn't really talk outside of that specific place.
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    It's a shame that society today causes us to question anyone that is friendly!

    Some people just like to talk! If you pass him a couple of times a day, what is wrong with saying hello? As long as its nothing that makes you uncomfortable I really wouldn't worry about saying hello and asking someone how your day is.

    I drive past the same elderly man at around 6.30am every morning on my way to work, every morning come rain or shine he is outside his house and waves at me (and anyone else that passes by!) I think he just likes to see people.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is going to sound very weird, but ever since I started walking to sixth form last year, an old man who does building work for a house on my road would say hello to me. At first (well I still am) was a bit wary because he'd always compliment me so I'd say thank you and just carry on walking. But he was friendly and didn't ask anything personal about me, it's just random things like how was school and the weather's nice today etc. But I told my friend about it and she thinks it's incredibly strange for an old man to be friends with a teenage girl. I'm not talking about the kind of friendship where I'd invite him to my house or anything, but he is a nice person and we have pleasant conversations...so is it really that wrong? Should I be wary and avoid him?
    Just keep an eye out and restrain yourself as well. This happened to me when I was 9 with a family friend and all was well, he gave me money and all, but when the whispering happened and looking around while talking to me and other things I won't get into I stopped coming by. Now you're 17 so you're tecnically an adult, it's not pedophilia or anything. No need to be creeped just be careful if you're not interested.
 
 
 
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