Boy/girlfriends and their mates!

Sorry this is very long winded and a mess, doesnt make much sence.

How do you cope with having a girl or boyfriend who has more mates of the oppisite sex. This was one thing I left meself in for when I started seeing my bf well over a year ago. I love him to bits and trust him with my life, he has ALWAYS had more mates who are girls and I have ALWAYS had more guy mates than girls. This was somthing I always wanted a bf to not get intimidated by, so it was great when he didn't. Anyways a long story short.

My bf doesn't know I have a problem with him and other girls. And I hate myself for having a problem with it so much but I have always had low selfesteem and everytime he talks about a girl he knows etc I cant help but think, does he fancy her, who is she? etc. He recently went to Italy with school and didn't text me for one day (the following day I found out he got so ****faced and could barely walk that night lol). Anyways, I just couldn't help think all that week if he was cheating on me or fancied someone else. I hated myself for it cuz I value his trust with me so much and I do trust him, I just hate myself because I convince myself that I cant.

I think it does stem off him saying right at the begining of our relationship that he thought 2 other girls (he knows VERY WELL) are really pretty etc but he would never go out with them - one of them he sees everyday in college and is his nextdoor neighbour :frown:

I've always been jealous of her just because he said that, so I've never liked her. He also quite frequently says that he flirts with girls only to make friends cuz "thats how he makes friends"? (wtf) though they all know he has a gf and its all innocent etc. still it makes me feel like ****. I've said this to him when he got back from Italy after he mentioned it again and he didn't say much about it after that.

Dont get me wrong at all, he is the best person in the world. The most loving and caring person I know I just can't seem to 100% trust him when it comes to other girls, I know he would never do anything with them but come on, why tell me you flirt with them cuz they are your mates.

Gahhh, I just had to get this off my chest really. How should I combat my self esteem issue, cuz it is really messing me up.

Reply 1

matt@internet

Ooohh, he has a dodgy way of making friends. I'll get in before everyone else and tell you you'd be best off dumping the lying cheating bastard :rolleyes:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I know

and it depresses me. I don't want to break up with him at all, I just want to get him to understand when he tells me **** like this I wanna kill him lol. I don't mind he has girls as mates but come on - arrrgh, b*stard lol.

He is the love of my life blablabla, I just dont want him to be that friendly to girls. Though thats just who is. He is too damn friendly! Argh.

Reply 3

matt@internet

Can't tell, did you pick up on my sarcasm?

Reply 4

silverbolt

Anonymous

I know

get over it, if he the flirty type hes the flirty type, it doesnt mean a thing, some people are naturally flirty its not nessecarily a sign hes going to be running off with them