Guys and girls....how do you go about finding out where you stand?

Real guys don't have feelings. I can barely spell it, had to ask for help. Not real men (not unreal, but lets call them unmen) are too shy to let you know. "What if shes mean about it". I haven't really got that, but whatever. I'd say as a girl you're pretty much free to hit on him and find out for yourself. If he likes you, its a compliment. If he doesn't like you, its still a compliment really.

Ok, if hes green he might get bored of it, but I'm fairly sure you'll recognise me.

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Anonymous

Ask if he likes you. He'll probably admit it if he does.

*Jaroxski in hiding

Thanks for responding. Do you not think asking sounds somewhat arrogant?

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Anonymous #2

It's not arrogant if it gets results.

Lol. What's the point in using anonymous if you give your name away. Bah. You can't neg rep me this way.

Jaroxski.

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OP

So asking is the only way? Along with having gossipy friends? :p:

I have contemplated talking to a friend of his but even then maybe he hasn't discussed it with him. I was looking for another strategy before reverting to the obvious solution of asking :redface:

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Don't go for the friends. Aside from being wrong, its bloody annoying.

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Yoda

Don't go for the friends. Aside from being wrong, its bloody annoying.

Lol.....the contemplation lasted all but a split second :smile:

. I probably would have done the friend thing when I was 13 in school but as I am 20...it really is not something I would EVER do... :smile:

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Well since you're 20, it'll be an even bigger compliment to just hit on them. Just go for it.

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Yoda

Well since you're 20, it'll be an even bigger compliment to just hit on them. Just go for it.

Heh! You think so? We'll I guess I could try that...what have I got to lose apart from scaring him away :rolleyes:

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Of course he won't be scared off. Ok, you're not trying to rape him in the toilets, but you're trying to do more than hints (though the hints might actually work, try them first). When it happens to my friends, they don't shut up about it for days.

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Yoda

Of course he won't be scared off. Ok, you're not trying to rape him in the toilets, but you're trying to do more than hints (though the hints might actually work, try them first). When it happens to my friends, they don't shut up about it for days.

Oh really?! :biggrin:

Hehe

Okay coming from a guy that means a lot to get your perspective. Any ladies have any opinions on the subject?

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Louise88

To be perfectly honest, I would just ask them. I have done in the past, sometimes it's worked out great and other times it hasn't but if I hadn't asked them where I stood, I might have missed out on having a wonderful boyfriend or I would have chased after someone who clearly didn't want me. If you want to know, ask. Simple and straight to the point but very effective.

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Louise88

To be perfectly honest, I would just ask them. I have done in the past, sometimes it's worked out great and other times it hasn't but if I hadn't asked them where I stood, I might have missed out on having a wonderful boyfriend or I would have chased after someone who clearly didn't want me. If you want to know, ask. Simple and straight to the point but very effective.

Well thanks Louise, I shall bite the bullet and do it...Thanks again!

I'm so nervous... :biggrin:

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Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

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Anonymous

Hello everyone,

I wanted to ask a question of guys and gals may feel free to respond also. Why is it that it is so difficult to know a guys' feelings towards you? I am not talking about declarations of undying love or anything of the sort. Just merely whether the guy likes you and what he sees you as. I mean I ask this question since it is not often you say to a guy that you like "I like you and I see you as someone I would like to get with". So how does one go about finding out these feelings? I have seen several threads on relationships where a lot of them revolve around the idea of the girl or guy not knowing how the other feels about them. Is there a sneaky way of finding out how the object of your affections feels about you without having to ask?

I am in a little situation with a guy (I am female) and I really would like to know where I stand and how he feels about me. It is difficult not knowing where I stand...

Thanking you all in advance :smile:

You're just going to have to ask straight out where exactly do you stand. It's better than not asking at all :smile:

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Anonymous #3

never go for the friends, they generally have their own agenda and absolutely no idea if they don't.

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shavenwookiee

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YYYEEEAAAAA, ask him.

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