Guilt/Worriers?

Does anyone else ever feel really guilty for stuff they know they have no need to feel guilty for?! It's stupidb but I told my friend I was going to do something, but then I went home without doing it - but told her I had done, in case she thought I was just trying to get away from her (i wasn't) and now I feel guilty for lying.. .. argh, I'm such a worrier - anyone else like this?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

I never feel guilty because I am always right.

Jaroxski (I am so smart. Nobody can neg rep me this way.)

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Yeah, but no-one can pos rep you either, and your post count doesn't go up, so you have no rep power of you own. AND the mods will tell you off for abusing it in due course... :p:

Reply 3

jaroxski

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Oh dear.

Reply 4

Seoid

I must admit I sometimes feel guilty for silly things - really it just means you care about what your friend thinks and you don't want her to feel rejected. All I can suggest is that you acknowledge to yourself that you feel guilty but then make a conscious effort to let it go, because it's not helpful and it's not necessary.

There are plenty of people who'll fob their friends off with excuses and never feel an ounce of guilt -so good for you for being concerned :smile:

Reply 5

Yoda

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Anonymous

I never feel guilty because I am always right.

Yoda, who isn't scared of neg rep.

Really you only feel guilty if you care. If you do something wrong, why should you care? What's done is done.

Reply 6

hannah_dru

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Yes. I'm a serious worrier.

Reply 7

Louise88

Anonymous

Does anyone else ever feel really guilty for stuff they know they have no need to feel guilty for?! It's stupidb but I told my friend I was going to do something, but then I went home without doing it - but told her I had done, in case she thought I was just trying to get away from her (i wasn't) and now I feel guilty for lying.. .. argh, I'm such a worrier - anyone else like this?

I worry about everything, I also feel guilty about everything. I'm incredibly harsh on myself, I seem to make myself believe that everything is my fault so I end up feeling guilty for the most insane reasons ever. I also worry about the most pointless things in the world, it's really silly but thats just me I guess.

I don't really do it in the same way you do, but I understand it. It was a silly little lie, that was no real reason for it but it's done now. I know why you thought that it might be a good idea to lie but truth is, most of the time, lies really aren't needed. If it gets to you that much, just tell your friend because it doesn't sound like anything too serious and i'm sure they will understand. If you don't want to say, just do whatever it is you need to do soon and get it out the way.