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    I've had a crush on this boy since year 9, we're going into year 13 now. It wasn't just physical attraction, he's very kind-hearted, he'd buy food for me sometimes and we went to parties together occasionally (where we flirted a lot- or so I thought). But after over 4 years of liking him, it clicked that I'd never seen him in a relationship...and thinking it could be my chance to finally ask him, I asked my friend to ask him in private beforehand if there was any girl he liked in our sixth form, and he corrected her and said "You mean boy" and when she asked he just came straight out that he's gay. I don't feel led on as such because I didn't even make it clear that I liked him and I know you like who you like, but I don't know how to get over him just like that after years of liking him. It feels like a kick in the teeth to be honest. Should I just ignore him? He hasn't done anything wrong but what's the best possible way to get over him/the situation?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've had a crush on this boy since year 9, we're going into year 13 now. It wasn't just physical attraction, he's very kind-hearted, he'd buy food for me sometimes and we went to parties together occasionally (where we flirted a lot- or so I thought). But after over 4 years of liking him, it clicked that I'd never seen him in a relationship...and thinking it could be my chance to finally ask him, I asked my friend to ask him in private beforehand if there was any girl he liked in our sixth form, and he corrected her and said "You mean boy" and when she asked he just came straight out that he's gay. I don't feel led on as such because I didn't even make it clear that I liked him and I know you like who you like, but I don't know how to get over him just like that after years of liking him. It feels like a kick in the teeth to be honest. Should I just ignore him? He hasn't done anything wrong but what's the best possible way to get over him/the situation?
    Ignore him? That's not a good solution. Firstly, it's just cruel. Secondly, will ignoring him make your feelings go away? It will probably just leave you feeling guilty and lonely.

    My advice; reconcile yourself with the situation, and just try to see him as a friend.
    It'll take time for your feelings to go away, sure, but try to concentrate on finding someone else instead. Ask for his help in that, that would be a good way to change the mode of your relationship.

    I mean, abandoning him would just hurt him. Is that worth it, for the sake of your feelings?
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    Ouch m8, that's just too bad :console: use the fact that he's gay to get over him since there's no chance.

    Other fishes in the sea and in the meantime, try and be a mate to him :-)
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    Why can't you just keep him as a friend? He sounds like a nice person, surely you don't want to lose that as nothing bad has gone on between you

    If you learn to face the fact that he's gay, and begin viewing him as only a friend, then maybe that will make it easier.
 
 
 
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