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    Hi guys. I'd really appreciate it if anyone took the time to hear me out. I just had a group interview assessment sort of thing for a part time job that involved people sharing ideas and talking about the job and I found It really hard to contribute..
    I managed to say about 2 things which I find weird because I felt I was one of the most academic people there! I know that doesn't make me smarter than anyone else at all but everyone else was so quick thinking and could easily come up with so much to say! Also I wasn't as sociable or interactive with everyone else. And the funny thing is I actually really enjoy meeting new people and making friends, but it's like my body isn't wired to do so! Lol! I must be honest I don't have a group of friends, I was always the shy one in school that doesn't talk to people. But I REALLY want to overcome this. I can see how much it has affected my life I love sociable and friendly people and just want to be like them, can anyone help?
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    (Original post by Ser Alex Toyne)
    Why bother?
    Why bother what? Trying to become more sociable? LOL because I didn't get the job clearly I need to change and I want to be a more sociable person anyway... I'm quite bad when it comes to social situations!
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    (Original post by tvdfan)
    Why bother what? Trying to become more sociable? LOL because I didn't get the job clearly I need to change and I want to be a more sociable person anyway... I'm quite bad when it comes to social situations!
    Meh, get a good education, a top end job and lots of money first. Friends won't help you when you're out on the streets. Especially the extroverted types.
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    Practice in front of the mirror.

    Get yourself out there and mix with peeps more and more without giving a damn about embarrassing yourself.

    Believe in yourself because, son, I believe in you :cry2:
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    (Original post by Ser Alex Toyne)
    Meh, get a good education, a top end job and lots of money first. Friends won't help you when you're out on the streets. Especially the extroverted types.
    Wow, what makes you say that? And yeah I do deffo plan on getting a good education and all of that, thank you for responding to my post
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    (Original post by RainbowKiwi)
    Practice in front of the mirror.

    Get yourself out there and mix with peeps more and more without giving a damn about embarrassing yourself.

    Believe in yourself because, son, I believe in you :cry2:
    Cool, yeah I deffo think that's a good idea, thank you
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    (Original post by tvdfan)
    Wow, what makes you say that? And yeah I do deffo plan on getting a good education and all of that, thank you for responding to my post
    How many party friends do you think will lend you a large sum of cash or wake up at 3 am to help them in a tight scrape. I'm just suspicious on the type of friends you want to make. Being sociable is beneficial only to a certain extent.
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    (Original post by tvdfan)
    Cool, yeah I deffo think that's a good idea, thank you
    You are welcome, son. Now, go forth and be the man I know you were meant to be.... :hand:
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    (Original post by Ser Alex Toyne)
    How many party friends do you think will lend you a large sum of cash or wake up at 3 am to help them in a tight scrape. I'm just suspicious on the type of friends you want to make. Being sociable is beneficial only to a certain extent.
    I just feel like I definitely want to make more friends, I literally have just one best friend. And that is it. And the way I am is clearly is not beneficial for me because otherwise I would have got the job, Idk, it just seems to me that a lot of things in life require you to be a sociable and friendly person, and I'm far from that but I want to change b/c I like talking to people if that makes sense?
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    (Original post by RainbowKiwi)
    You are welcome, son. Now, go forth and be the man I know you were meant to be.... :hand:
    Woman.. that would be haha
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    (Original post by Ser Alex Toyne)
    Meh, get a good education, a top end job and lots of money first. Friends won't help you when you're out on the streets. Especially the extroverted types.
    Less likely to happen if you're unsociable
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    (Original post by Ser Alex Toyne)
    How many party friends do you think will lend you a large sum of cash or wake up at 3 am to help them in a tight scrape. I'm just suspicious on the type of friends you want to make. Being sociable is beneficial only to a certain extent.
    *to a great extent

    seeing as we're surrounded by people all the time some of whom have the ability to effect our lives greatly, being able to handle them is very important.
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    Less likely to happen if you're unsociable
    That's true. Tbh, I've always had the great ability to manipulate people, steal and be generally lucky, to succeed in life.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    *to a great extent

    seeing as we're surrounded by people all the time some of whom have the ability to effect our lives greatly, being able to handle them is very important.
    The wrong company can have a detrimental effect too. I know of quite a few people who have also been sociable with other people that turned out to be drug dealers. Just saying.
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    (Original post by tvdfan)
    Woman.. that would be haha
    You'll always be a son to me, son :console:
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    Comes in stages. First, identify what makes you be so shy? Is it because you don't feel accepted? Dress and appear as good as you can. Superficial I know, but feeling good about yourself is step 1. Next is to actually talk to people. Don't start off speaking to people you think will look down on you, maybe chat to other 'shy' people. Slowly you'll build the confidence and you'll look back and ask why you were so shy.

    You don't need to chat to anyone and everyone but I disagree with the above, to get the top jobs, you generally need to have good people skills, and introverts generally don't have these as they rarely give people the chance out of fear of initiating close relationships.

    But whilst carrying out these changes remember to stay true to yourself, don't BS other people out of want for acceptance. I used to be like you but then I began to notice how the tone of one sentence and even a smile and eye contact can change your mood and ability to interact with anyone
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    (Original post by Ser Alex Toyne)
    Meh, get a good education, a top end job and lots of money first.
    You say this as if its easy. Getting a lot of money in today's world of corporate slavery isn't easy. A lot of graduates are earning salaries that still place them in wage brackets whereby they can get benefits to top them up. This is the way of the western world. Its not easy to just walk into a top job and get lots of money. You appear to be extremely naive.

    Friends won't help you when you're out on the streets. Especially the extroverted types.
    No, but friends may help you become rich or present you with an opportunity in life. In the real world its often not just what you know but who you know as well. Isolating yourself from social situations and people is a surefire way to cut yourself off from a lot of opportunity. If it wasn't for me selling lots of what I owned and taking the initiative during my late teen years to be more social, to put it bluntly, I would not be making the money or living the life I am today, because getting out there and putting yourself out there opens up doors for you.
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    (Original post by tvdfan)
    Hi guys. I'd really appreciate it if anyone took the time to hear me out. I just had a group interview assessment sort of thing for a part time job that involved people sharing ideas and talking about the job and I found It really hard to contribute..
    I managed to say about 2 things which I find weird because I felt I was one of the most academic people there! I know that doesn't make me smarter than anyone else at all but everyone else was so quick thinking and could easily come up with so much to say! Also I wasn't as sociable or interactive with everyone else. And the funny thing is I actually really enjoy meeting new people and making friends, but it's like my body isn't wired to do so! Lol! I must be honest I don't have a group of friends, I was always the shy one in school that doesn't talk to people. But I REALLY want to overcome this. I can see how much it has affected my life I love sociable and friendly people and just want to be like them, can anyone help?
    It isn't worth changing yourself to suit other people. Be yourself! You have to try to be happy with who you are. Right now, in this moment, you ARE enough.

    Preach over. Jobs are just hard to get. If you really want to be more extroverted, you could act it for a day in a situation where no one knows you, but wouldn't you feel a bit hollow inside knowing that that isn't truly who you are? You can't just magically flip a switch to change your personality, but you can 'fake it until you make it'.

    In interview situations, you have to amplify your personality. You'll just have to force yourself to contribute as much as you need to. Though you must remember that the loudest people aren't always the best employees, and any good interviewer should realise this. Like if you were in a group task, and one person took the lead but was really bad at the task, as long as you are doing well you should try to get noticed for the right reasons.
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    (Original post by Laurasaur)
    It isn't worth changing yourself to suit other people. Be yourself! You have to try to be happy with who you are. Right now, in this moment, you ARE enough.

    Preach over. Jobs are just hard to get. If you really want to be more extroverted, you could act it for a day in a situation where no one knows you, but wouldn't you feel a bit hollow inside knowing that that isn't truly who you are? You can't just magically flip a switch to change your personality, but you can 'fake it until you make it'.

    In interview situations, you have to amplify your personality. You'll just have to force yourself to contribute as much as you need to. Though you must remember that the loudest people aren't always the best employees, and any good interviewer should realise this. Like if you were in a group task, and one person took the lead but was really bad at the task, as long as you are doing well you should try to get noticed for the right reasons.
    Thank you! You seem to really understand where I'm coming from. That's exactly the issue, I am really struggling to change my personality but I really want to at the same time. Not just because of things like interviews but also because I want to have a bunch of amazing friends. And everyone says 'fake it till you make it' but I just don't know how to do that! And yeah, I would feel really hollow inside if I had to do that for a day, in fact I don't think I would be able to tbh
 
 
 
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