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I am thinking about dropping out of postgrad and i am very upset watch

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    Posting anon because i feel very ashamed,

    It began first with me finally graduating Undergrad, I felt i had a very good time at university, made some good friends and had some good times, passed with a 2.1 in a respectable field. I began to apply for many intern ships and was bounced back. I had originally never thought i would apply to postgraduate but i thought i would love the course i was on and really enjoyed the topic, felt it would offer me great career prospects and many more opportunities.

    I have finally got here and before actually starting the course (i am in orientation week) i have felt very upset to leave my family and friends behind, it is a 400 mile distance away and not something i can trip back before holidays, i am feeling very drained and lonely and it has only been 24 hours. I have met with people on the course and spoke and got on with them, i have found people generally friendly and pleasant, but i do not feel i belong here. I also have started to read the reading lists and such and i feel very overwhelmed and scared by the workload. I really miss my parents and life already and feel very lonely. I feel that if i drop out though i will have wasted the stock i have put in, it will dent my confidence and i will feel that i have let everybody down, my family keep telling me how proud they are that i was the first one to do postgrad and now i feel i have no choice but to soldier on but i feel so drained already.. i really don't know what to do i am on the verge of tears. I really just need some friendly advice...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Posting anon because i feel very ashamed,

    It began first with me finally graduating Undergrad, I felt i had a very good time at university, made some good friends and had some good times, passed with a 2.1 in a respectable field. I began to apply for many intern ships and was bounced back. I had originally never thought i would apply to postgraduate but i thought i would love the course i was on and really enjoyed the topic, felt it would offer me great career prospects and many more opportunities.

    I have finally got here and before actually starting the course (i am in orientation week) i have felt very upset to leave my family and friends behind, it is a 400 mile distance away and not something i can trip back before holidays, i am feeling very drained and lonely and it has only been 24 hours. I have met with people on the course and spoke and got on with them, i have found people generally friendly and pleasant, but i do not feel i belong here. I also have started to read the reading lists and such and i feel very overwhelmed and scared by the workload. I really miss my parents and life already and feel very lonely. I feel that if i drop out though i will have wasted the stock i have put in, it will dent my confidence and i will feel that i have let everybody down, my family keep telling me how proud they are that i was the first one to do postgrad and now i feel i have no choice but to soldier on but i feel so drained already.. i really don't know what to do i am on the verge of tears. I really just need some friendly advice...
    Is it possible that one of your parents can come and stay with you till you get sorted?
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    Don't do anything about that feeling yet! Just let yourself settle down to a routine and get used to the course, the people around you and the place you live in. Give yourself a month or so and then if you still feel lonely and out of place then think about dropping out but I bet you'll find that you've got good friends and are enjoying the course! You've every right to feel lonely at the moment, you're in a new place with nobody you know but it'll change, don't you worry!
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    Is it possible that one of your parents can come and stay with you till you get sorted?
    no thats completely out of the question, i wouldn't want that
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no thats completely out of the question, i wouldn't want that
    Ok in that case then you should see the student support services. I am sure they can help. You can skype your parents as well but I suppose its not the same as seeing them in real life.
    Hope this helps.
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    Hi,

    I'd say give it some time before you make a decision- I am moving to start a postgrad course myself soon and am worried about moving to a new place where I will not know anyone.

    If you give yourself some time to get adjusted to your new surroundings it will most likely get better!
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    Hi the postgrad is one year only? I'm sure if you gave it a few more weeks you will get used to everything and as it's one year it will fly by so please stick with it.
 
 
 
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