Men are like buses: So what do I do?!

Okay, here's the deal. I've been single for a while now. I've been looking, but the second I stopped these two amazing guys came along, and now I have no idea who I should take things forward with...

Guy 1: He's amazing. He was my best friend for a year before we came to uni. We did everything together, used to talk on the phone for like six + hours at night. Have everything in common yet are very different. He makes me laugh like nobody else does and we get on ridiculously well. Only thing is, he's a bit crazy. He's the hall nutter, to put it mildly - he gets drunk a LOT, hits on a lot of girls and generally causes a lot of trouble. Nobody knows him quite like I do and I know he has a bit of a thing for me and has done for a while. BUT I'm not as attracted to him as I am to..

Guy 2: He's gorgeous, and I mean, GORGEOUS. He's quite quiet, but funny. Really sweet. Keeps himself to himself & is shy. I really, really fancy him and want to get to know him better because I'm really comfortable with him. I feel like my family and friends would accept him as my boyfriend way more than they would accept Guy 1.

So this is a matter of heart vs. head.... HELP!

Reply 1

JacquesNoir

1

1 sounds like a tosser. Go with number 2.

Reply 2

bunthulhu

14

^ Seconded.

Reply 3

Miss Rehab

The way u described...obviously no 2? :rolleyes:

Reply 4

HeStoleMyCrayon

definitely 2

Reply 5

Dutchmeister

miu_miu

The way u described...obviously no 2? :rolleyes:

Exactly......

Not a single bad thing about the second bloke, the first seems like a knob.

Reply 6

lil'p

10

no. 2 lol

no 1. sounds like a groping alcoholic lol

Reply 7

readyforaberequine07

1

bunthulhu

^ Seconded.

Thirded!

Reply 8

bunthulhu

14

readyforaberequine07

Thirded!

I knew that was coming :biggrin:

Reply 9

Clubber Lang

15

Well you have obviously described guy 1 way worse than guy 2.

Maybe this is a sign you wnat us to tell you guy 2...

Reply 10

Airel

14

If they're actually literally like busses, No1 will get you to your destination earlier, but It'll pick up all the old folks. Number 2 will get there later, but it'll be a faster journey. You'll probably get a seat but don't count on it.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Lol maybe! The only thing I left out about guy 2 was that... all my female friends like him. IF I did get with him then I'd probably piss off a LOT of people.... especially one of my friends who is literally obsessed with him....

Reply 12

Juncture

16

Anonymous

Lol maybe! The only thing I left out about guy 2 was that... all my female friends like him. IF I did get with him then I'd probably piss off a LOT of people.... especially one of my friends who is literally obsessed with him....

But if you think about it, if they had the chance to go out with this guy they might not think about other people, they're more than likely to just go out with him. Also in the end if they're true friends they'll get over him and be happy for you (well possibly not the get over bit but at least try)

Reply 13

L i b

19

Number 1 sounds rather effeminate. He's the classic 'only friends' type really.

I don't understand why women don't understand this - if you're not attracted to a man, it doesn't matter how well you get on. These are two very different things and trying to make yourself change is just going to do a huge deal of harm to any friendship.

It's usually that simple.

Reply 14

TheConfuddledOne

10

Guy 2.

Reply 15

Psyk

16

Don't go for either of them. Do your bit for charity and go for an ugly bloke.

Reply 16

Dutchmeister

Psyk

Don't go for either of them. Do your bit for charity and go for an ugly bloke.

*sniggers*

Reply 17

Anonymous #2

tellyour friends you fancy him too...that way if you do get him...it might not cause that much of a stir. Maybe jeolousy yes, but atleast they would of known that you fancy him too...