Violent?

I'm looking for opinions...sometimes I think my boyfriend gets a little bit of pleasure out of hurting me...like sometimes I think he tells me bad news just to make me sad and a couple of times we've been play fighting and he's twisted my arm a little too much and seems to enjoy it. When I complain he says "Oh I didn't realise, I was just playing" and when I've said he has to be more careful he says "don't be such a baby." At times I think I'm imagining it or being over sensitive, but then other times I feel a little afraid of him.
He's generally a good boyfriend, I just worry that he loses control sometimes. What do you think I should do?

Reply 1

bunthulhu

14

Well, if he enjoys hurting you, surely the answer is fairly obvious?

Reply 2

The Bishman

8

Leave him, if he's this violent now and seems not to care much, then what could he be like much later on?

Find a guy who will treat you right.

Reply 3

ohyeahoh

3

Maybe he is just getting carried away?

If not, and you like him alot/love him and he does get off on pain..sadism is it? I don't know...Indulge his lil liking in a controlled sexual way :smile:

S'n'M, Bondage :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

ohyeahoh

Maybe he is just getting carried away?

If not, and you like him alot/love him and he does get off on pain..sadism is it? I don't know...Indulge his lil liking in a controlled sexual way :smile:

S'n'M, Bondage :smile:

I don't know if you were joking, but I have thought of that, as a sort of a test, but I suppose I don't trust him enough to give him much power over me. I was with a violent guy before (he broke my nose twice - it took me a while to get out) and I'm worried that this guy isn't a bad one but that it's my problem for bringing my baggage from another relationship. I do love him and in most ways he's great - god this is sort of doing my head in and sometimes I think I'm really just making it all up in my head.

Reply 5

ohyeahoh

3

Edit to S&M btw.... :P

I wasn't joking but I'm also not aware of the severity of the situation, being a little rough is different from that you seem reluctant to be in that position which suggests don't put yourself into it if you don't trust him...the other way round maybe..hurt him.

I have a mate who adores bondage...she has many special toys and I think its all a bit odd to the extent shes taken it but her bf loves being dominated by her lol!

Reply 6

onecoolemma

Give him a chance. Tell him how you feel and see how he reacts. It could be that he just doesn't realise what he is doing. Girls are generally more sensitive than boys and also easier to hurt, remind him of this. If he brushes it off then I would seriously consider leaving as this could develop into more serious harm...

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