Complicated! Please Help!

Im a second year student and in freshers week i met a wonderful guy who lives with me in my flat who was a fresher! We got on like a house on fire and were very close from day 1. We started to get close around about the 4th day and have been inseperable since about week 3! Despite appearing like a couple on the surface and acting everyway the couple but the fact is we are not together and never have been! Nothing has ever confused me more in my whole entire life!! He is every bit the most amazing guy i have ever met and is totally gorgeous and i think its fair to say i am completely in love with him! I know he thinks exactly the same of me but his last relationship seems to have put him off another for the future! Should i move on? should i stick with it as it is? will he change his mind and want a relationship? is he lying to me? is he using me? I have no idea! please help me!!

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Reply 1

Talya

Go in for a kiss and see how he reacts?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

we have already kissed and do so everyday! We have also already slept together so thats y its so confusing!

Reply 3

Segat1

So, you need to have "the talk"

i.e. "So, we're pretty close, can I call you my boyfriend? "

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

he apologises when things happen between us and things which makes it even more confusing as then it appears to me like he regrets it happen but he swears he doesnt so why does he apologise at all!

Reply 5

Mike_Davies

Segat1

So, you need to have "the talk"

i.e. "So, we're pretty close, can I call you my boyfriend? "

lol blunt and to the point but im thinking it may be easier just to ease it in with the whole 'where do I stand?' or 'where do you see us going? do you see us going anywhere at all?'

Reply 6

Alasdair

Hah - he has you where he wants you. Free sex but no girlfriend (if only some of us were so lucky!). So either a) give him an ultimatum - "We're getting it together properly, or you're sex train's about to leave town", or b) just keep going like it his - after all, what's wrong with being 'friends with benefits'?

Reply 7

xxsarahjwxx

Never give ultimatums....sure way to lose someone that is.
Just sit down and talk to him. First tell him how you feel so he doesnt worry that he's putting himself on the line. Then tell him you understand that he might not want a relationship. Then tell him that you effectively are in a relationship but without the best bits. Reassure him that you're not gonna do what his ex did.
Then if all else fails, tell him it just seems crazy that you're not together properly because things would be so magical.
Good luck!