do i like my best friend, does she like me?

Reply 20

OP

well i've just got off the phone to her, after about 3-4hours.we were just talking about relationships and things and i asked what she'd think of me if she just met me randomly.she said she liked me at first and i said likewise.i asked if she gets the feeling i like her and she said no.we didnt tlk about US though,but we both said we'd miss each other at uni and she said-yeh but i'll still tlk to u on the phone and come visit you down in birmingham..how does this all sound?

Like I said before - you're in the exact same situation as I was (it's actually quite scary).. we agreed on the same thing to visit each other and talk on the phone etc whilst at uni. But at that time she didn't have feelings for me.

OP

yeh i did drop loads of hints and she just said "aww" after them all.im really thankful for everyones help-i've decided im just going to keep it as best fwends

Well, if that's what you decided then I'm happy for you... but if you think you're going to regret it for the rest of your life and it may even impede with your future relationships (both with her as a friend and with others) then you should consider telling her how you feel - but just prepare for the consequences if she doesn't feel the same way.

TBH, I doubt you would lose your friendship with her.. you've known each other 2-3 years, and I had only known my friend a few months, so chances are it will be awkward for a while - but time heals most wounds.

Like I said: in my case she didn't have feelings for me, but i kept pursuing it (stupid I know, but the feelings were extremely intense) and eventually she developed feelings for me. However, she didn't tell me she had developed feelings for me until we both had moved off and were half way through October. The reason she didn't tell me was because she was afraid it would ruin the friendship if it didn't work out.

So perhaps (if you do feel you will regret it the rest of your life and are ready for any possible consequences) if you do tell her, and assure her it wouldn't ruin the friendship IF it didn't work out. <emphasis on the IF>

But if you're happy with not saying anything, then I'm happy for you :smile:

Reply 21

Anonymous #1

OP

thank you latot,thats probably some of the best advise i've been given.im sorry to carry on, but i spent the day with her today aswell and she just looked beautiful in my eyes.i won't see her now for 3 days because i'm going on a trip, but she was just saying lil things like "take a picture of me,i'll miss u,bring me bk sumat", like couples would..i will say something to her if i still have feelings before i go to uni,just so that she knows amd i have nothing to lose!

Reply 22

badboii

you need to get over it fella..aint gonna happen

Reply 23

latot

badboii

you need to get over it fella..aint gonna happen

Seriously - if you have nothing constructive to say - or at least validate - then just don't reply.

OP

thank you latot,thats probably some of the best advise i've been given.im sorry to carry on, but i spent the day with her today aswell and she just looked beautiful in my eyes.i won't see her now for 3 days because i'm going on a trip, but she was just saying lil things like "take a picture of me,i'll miss u,bring me bk sumat", like couples would..i will say something to her if i still have feelings before i go to uni,just so that she knows amd i have nothing to lose!

Okay.. tbh man, I think you should defintely say something - and soon if you are going to. The sooner you say something then the sooner you can deal with the awkward period (if there is one - you don't know that something won't happen). Just make sure she knows that it wouldn't ruin the friendship because it is too strong, and you've been through so much together, etc.

Anyways man - good luck.

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