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Male Attention

Is anyone else always in need of male attention? I don't know why i feel i need it so much, I have a boyfriend and he is absolutely wonderful, but i still feel the need for male attention when he's not around. I don't neccessarily think i go out looking for it, but i don't discourage it when i do get it.
When i'm single like most girls i need to know i'm attractive to guys but unlike most girls when i have a boyfriend i still need to know i'm attractive to other guys. I don't feel guilty, just welcoming attention is not cheating cos i'm not doing anything wrong. But does anyone else feel in constant need of male attention, even if their in a relationship? Don't tell me there is a problem in my relationship my need for male attention is nothing to do with my relationship its about me.

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Reply 1

Student_Bum

you're insecure but generally a normal young girl.

Reply 2

Spica P.

Yeah, I think it's normal. Just keep it under control though, remembering you're already in a relationship and such... but to be honest w/ you, since you're not planning to marry anybody soon, then seek male attention NOW rather than later when you're somebody's wife.

Reply 3

D-503

It's normal, most girls want or need reassurance. The one thing I would say is be careful- a good friend of mine is exactly the same, but when she doesn't get attention automatically she goes out of her way, by proactively pulling people or getting really drunk. It is OK, but make sure it doesn't impact on your behaviour I would say.

Reply 4

Yoda

You're very insecure. Really make sure you don't do slutty things for attention, just enjoy life. I've personally never really understood insecurity, but hey, everyone is different.

Reply 5

Ben Dover the Lollipop Man

Insecure is the word

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

I am the same, I have a boyfriend but still like gaining male attention, I think its a pychological security thing-your young and I think it revolves around the feeling that if for example you were to break up with your ex, theres loads of guys that still find you attracative.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

I think its funny that the only people saying insecure are male, I dont quite think they understand the situation.

Reply 8

bunthulhu

Maybe you could try placing more faith in your relationship? :s-smilie:

Reply 9

sufiankane

i think its just the men generally, when i am with girls they claim there is too much male attention, must be me then.

Reply 10

Anonymous #3

OP feminists would love you :rolleyes:

Reply 11

matt@internet

For the record I don't think it makes you insecure or says anything about your relationship with you boyfriend, as long as, like you said, you don't go out of your way to get male attention.

Reply 12

Anonymous #4

Anonymous

Is anyone else always in need of male attention?

no, but i'm in desperate need of female attention. i'm a guy :dontknow:

Reply 13

high priestess fnord

i wouldnt say need but i most certanly enjoy a little male attention. its great getting compliments etc and its empowering to know that you are desired.

Reply 14

Danny the Geezer

Yeah, you sound reasonably normal. Your boyfriend may not be as hot as the guy who looked at you in the street and gave you that temporary buzz (although you'll probably never see him again).

Reply 15

L i b

Anonymous

I think its funny that the only people saying insecure are male, I dont quite think they understand the situation.

Yes, it just seems that huge numbers of girls are completely insecure these days, and being in a relationship with someone who is just isn't pleasant.