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Tall Handsome man

I am in a pickle, a sticky one at that. My g/f of 3 years has recently told me about her attraction to another man, she says nothing has happened.

He is taller, handsome, he seems nice and perhaps a lot more confident and experienced than I. She met him at a society recently and has been going out with him and the society.

I don't want to ask her what she sees in him, but she says it never even began, he asked her if she wanted anything casual and she declined.

I trust her, and love her to pieces but I want her to be happy even if it means I have to walk away. She says she wants things back to normal, but with any attraction it's impossible to drop it just like that. I don't know what to do, we're trying to get back to normal at the moment, and I really want things to go back to normal but I don't think it can do so quickly.

What shall I do? I want her to be happy, so shall I back off, go on a "break". I live with her, it's tricky. I have the feeling she grew close to him with a healthy female/male attraction and I think she likes him because from what she's been telling me, the impression I get is that he's a really nice guy, adventurous, and he likes her. If she's with me, and we're in a relationship, I don't really want her to be undecided about me.

I want her to have the best, I do care for her a lot, but I'm just so confused. However we've promised each other to talk more, so hopefully we can grow closer again and form a bond that seems to be a little wobbly of late. I think I need to get off my backside and be a better boyfriend to her, take her out more, do more things we can both do together, but I'm in need of some ideas.

Any advice/suggestions welcome!

Thank u

Reply 1

Yoda

12

Sorry dude, didn't know she had a boyfriend. Hey, people can make mistakes.

Reply 2

bunthulhu

14

I never understand people who just give up on relationships - if you love someone, you fight for them! So don't go on a break or anything silly like that.

Reply 3

bader

bunthulhu

I never understand people who just give up on relationships - if you love someone, you fight for them! So don't go on a break or anything silly like that.

I agree! If you truely love this girl then you fight for her! What are you thinking...

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

I dunno. She's lying to me though. She told him she really likes him, and him in return. To me she just said "I like him, but nothing happened". I don't want a relationship where regret could be in the back of her mind. If I don't go on a break, she may think I'm forcing her to be with me.

I feel bad about myself, I'm beginning to think I'm boring, ugly, dull. And I am.

Reply 5

Yoda

12

I've really never understood "fighting for love". Actually I have, talk to 2 girls on your own and even if they didn't like you before they will still go with you just to beat the other girl. Who cares if there's someone else who likes her? Shows you picked a good girl really. Acting like you have to prove yourself to her before the other guy does will make you look insecure, and crap. Just do what you're doing.

Reply 6

Anthonyjm71

9

bunthulhu

I never understand people who just give up on relationships - if you love someone, you fight for them! So don't go on a break or anything silly like that.

agree you only need to make effort to keep a relationship alive..

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

It's difficult as she really likes him, and I can't complete against a better man who has given her such strong feelings. It's such an insult to my maleness.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Crud I forgot to say - I'm going to find it so hard trying to fight for her knowing well she likes the other man. I dunno what to do, if I give her space perhaps she will know how she truly feels about this man. If she likes him, and wants to be with him then I'll bow down and walk away.

Reply 9

annalisa

ok i think you need to find out exactly where you stand with her. you need to ask her if she has honestly has any feelings or interest in this guy to get rid of any doubts you may have; if not then the pair of you can move on and spend more time together to repair any damage.
annalisa :smile:

xxxxxx

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

She said, it was nothing. Yet from how I found out, she really likes him.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

MOD PLEASE DELETE this topic, sorry, I better speak to her myself instead of speaking here.

Reply 12

Anthonyjm71

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Anonymous

Crud I forgot to say - I'm going to find it so hard trying to fight for her knowing well she likes the other man. I dunno what to do, if I give her space perhaps she will know how she truly feels about this man. If she likes him, and wants to be with him then I'll bow down and walk away.

possibly you may have solved the problem with the looks of things..

Reply 13

Yoda

12

Oh, and my top bit of advice - don't confront her about it, it'll make you look REALLY insecure.

Tall Handsome man

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