Question for the guys

I'm worried my best friend may be about to be taken advantage of, so I was just wondering if I could get a general concensus as to what people might do.

OK, the situation is she's just come out of one relationship...it was very intense, and though they are over for now, they are still talking and both hope to work things out eventually. No time scale though. The thing is, one of her friends she's known for a few years has told her he likes her (now he knows she's single). He's not a close friend or anything, he's actually a friend of her sisters fiance so she only usually sees him when they're at her sisters together.

Anyway, long story short, he asked if he liked her too...she said she wasn't sure, that she'd just come out of a relationship and could they just be friends. He said that was OK. However, last night she was at her sisters waiting to be picked up by her Mum and he was there. He offered to take her home and she politely refused saying it was too far and in the opposite direction (it was). But he wouldn't take no for an answer and kept asking. In the end he said he was going out anyway, in a last ditch attempt to get her to go with him, but she stayed put at her sisters.

She's quite a naive girl when it comes to guys and relationships and stuff, she didn't even realise he liked her when I thought it was obvious a mile off. He wanted to see her today, but she said no. So he suggested Friday...going to a gig, or the cinema or something...but she's not sure, especially after last night.

If you were in this situation, with a newly single girl you liked who might like /probably likes you back what would you do?

* Continue as things were, friends only.
* Do the friends thing, but try and see her more often in the hope she'd change her mind.
* Keep bringing it up in the hope you could talk her around.
* Back off completely, she's straight out of a complicated relationship and full of issues - you don't want to be the rebound guy!

Reply 1

fettucini

1

Well I'm not a guy but I think that if your friend sticks to her guns then he'll back down eventually and seeing as how he obviously likes her I'm sure he would continue to be her friend. Although he would probably have a relationship with her in the back of his mind.

Reply 2

GarageMc

1

ask him if he wants to be the rebound guy.

Sounds like a needy beta male guy from what I have read, stay away.

Reply 3

Yoda

12

Personally I'd go if I ****ed up like that. Hes probably going to stick around and keep begging to do 5 hours work to see her for 5 mins. My advice to her is to tell him (literally or just by ignoring him) to bugger off.

Reply 4

Anonymous samosa

Yoda

Personally I'd go if I ****ed up like that. Hes probably going to stick around and keep begging to do 5 hours work to see her for 5 mins. My advice to her is to tell him (literally or just by ignoring him) to bugger off.

agreee

Reply 5

Soul Rebel

12

Yoda

Personally I'd go if I ****ed up like that. Hes probably going to stick around and keep begging to do 5 hours work to see her for 5 mins. My advice to her is to tell him (literally or just by ignoring him) to bugger off.

simple as that.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

They're friends though.

They've never been particularly close or anything, she probably only used to see him once a month, if that, when they were both at her sisters together. Now they message on Myspace and talk on MSN daily...and she's not the type to not talk to someone, or block him.

She said no to doing something Friday, so he suggested this weekend, and she said no to that too. He's going away next week so with any luck he'll have a holiday romance and forget all about her.

Hopefully he'll get the message soon. :mad:

Reply 7

dh00001

16

i would push him down some stairs. sounds as though he is quickly jumping in why wounds are fresh and wants to be a shoulder to cry on thinking he can muscle in that way. then again he might just be excited shes finally single.
either way tell your friend to keep clear

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

I have! She won't though, she's not like that. She naively sees the best in everyone, though she hasn't given in to seeing him yet.

Grrrrr guys like him make me SO mad! :mad:

Reply 9

Dez

20

Heh, beta male. I think that's rather appropriate. Out of development, but still not quite ready for a final release. Don't use it if you want to maintain system stability. Yep, steer clear.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Well surprise surprise he made another move. He was at her sisters (as he appears to be ALL the time now!) on Friday night and wouldn't take no for an answer to giving her a lift home. When they got back to her house, they sat in the car talking for about half an hour, she wanted to leave but couldn't because his passenger door is defective and she had to wait for him to get out and open it from the outside.

Anyway, he tried to kiss her...I don't know how much force was used, because she was so upset when she called me in tears when he'd gone! I feel bad for not trying to warn her more, though she probably wouldn't have believed me. Damn her for being so naive and nice...and damn him for being a bloody kn*bhead!

She sent him a msg on Myspace to say she doesn't want to see him because it's too uncomfortable now, and he had the audacity to reply and say that she knows he likes her and where she stands, and that he's sure they'll be "great mates whatever"

Pfft!!!

Reply 11

BURRY

Anonymous

* Back off completely, she's straight out of a complicated relationship and full of issues - you don't want to be the rebound guy!

most guys wouldnt mind being the rebound guy... sorry to say :P

ok depends, either this guy is trying way to hard and pushing her away (is he desperate)

OR

this guy has got real feelings for this girl and is trying too hard now shes single and pushing her away.

He is basically pushing her away - he should save face and leave her alone.

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