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Girlfriend needs some space

Ive been seeing this girl for a couple of months now and all seemed to be going well. We were supposed to go out for a couple of drinks and maybe a club last night. I texted her and ask what the plan was and she replied saying that she'd been thinking and needed some space cos she's got a lot going on at the moment, and that she didnt think that a relationship was good for her at this moment in time. So she went out without me :frown:

All seemed to be going fine, we spent a lot of time together and I assumed quite happy and this happened out of the blue...
Should I just give her some time or should I see if I can talk to her to find out whats going on or whats going wrong?
Advice appreciated, thanks

Reply 1

dh00001

16

maybe give her a day or two and then talk to her. dont pry but let her know youre there for her if theres something wrong.
hope you figure it out :smile:

Reply 2

Nix!

11

Give her space and time. She might have noble intentions.

Reply 3

SuperDaz

13

I've had the 'I need space' line used on me before. Its so vague and I foolishly thought that a reconciliation would happen after she had her space, but nah, consider yourself single pal.

It sounds like you've had a lucky escape. Never trust anyone who uses that line! She didn't even have the guts to tell it to your face either! I would delete her number from your phone and leave the ball firmly in her court.

Reply 4

HistoryStudent

13

King Of Leon

I've had the 'I need space' line used on me before. Its so vague and I foolishly thought that a reconciliation would happen after she had her space, but nah, consider yourself single pal.

It sounds like you've had a lucky escape. Never trust anyone who uses that line! She didn't even have the guts to tell it to your face either! I would delete her number from your phone and leave the ball firmly in her court.

So because in your single case that happened, it means it's the same with the OP? Why find it so hard to believe that this girl just genuinely needs a bit of space for a bit? No need to assume that 'I need some space' automatically means rejection :rolleyes:

Reply 5

Zerforax

21

HistoryStudent

So because in your single case that happened, it means it's the same with the OP? Why find it so hard to believe that this girl just genuinely needs a bit of space for a bit? No need to assume that 'I need some space' automatically means rejection :rolleyes:

Cos girls are pure evil and love to stamp on hearts?

Reply 6

goodmen

13

i need space is just getting dumped, its happened to all of us. just do what u can to get over her

Reply 7

HistoryStudent

13

sarforaz

Cos girls are pure evil and love to stamp on hearts?

I hope you're joking.

Reply 8

LipGloss

King Of Leon

I've had the 'I need space' line used on me before. Its so vague and I foolishly thought that a reconciliation would happen after she had her space, but nah, consider yourself single pal.

It sounds like you've had a lucky escape. Never trust anyone who uses that line! She didn't even have the guts to tell it to your face either! I would delete her number from your phone and leave the ball firmly in her court.

Ditto. It's almost as patronising as 'It's not you, it's me.'

Reply 9

HistoryStudent

13

I love the way all the guys on here immediately assume that the girl must be lying, although there's absolutely no evidence to think so :rolleyes:

Reply 10

Anthonyjm71

9

have to respect her if she wants to have her space from you give her time she get back to you when she is ready to talk with you again.

Reply 11

Nix!

11

HistoryStudent

I love the way all the guys on here immediately assume that the girl must be lying, although there's absolutely no evidence to think so :rolleyes:

Well, experience tells me they're right. This is the exact way the last girl I was seeing 'dropped' me. Thing is, I was the idiot and believed her. I even gave her bloody sympathy!

Live and learn.

Reply 12

Leigh

15

I'd ask her; say you think that was a bit out of the blue, and that if she needs space you'll give it to her, but if she's just trying to break up with you painlessly or has something else going on to be honest with you.

Reply 13

stoney

12

sarforaz

Cos girls are pure evil and love to stamp on hearts?

now now lol. OP give some space for a few days, and then ask in a polite way if there is anything wrong, not that the world revolves around you but it was just a bit odd since you thought you two were getting on really well.

I know this line can sound a bit of a poor excuse but give her the benefit of the doubt since if you get all paranoid on her and she actually does need space you'll lose her for sure. The balls in her court now dude.

Reply 14

Nix!

11

I've already suggested, prior to this thread that people in this position should ask out right if the girl really wants space or is politely dumping them. To be honest, it's crueler for the person to 'wait' in the futile hope that she's coming back when the reality is that she has no intention.

Address the question gently.

Reply 15

mr_person

1

Maybe she wanted to be able to go out places on her own. Is that really such a crazy idea :s

Reply 16

General Mullet

Leave her with her space and don't bother contacting her. If she wants something she'll come crawling back and if she doesn't you can wash your hands.

Reply 17

matt@internet

12

I say ask her if she wants space or is trying to dump you. Honesty is the best policy and all that.

Reply 18

Yoda

12

Jimmy_Wong

we spent a lot of time together

You saw her too much, probably too clingy. Perhaps one of those guys who doesn't like her talking to other males. Leave her be for a week or two, then see what you've got. Personally I'd just drop her.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

some space means space to **** around a bit to see if she can find something that appeals to her. if not, you might be lucky.
I've had the space and not you me line from the same person. i also believed them, as it was true, but the former still holds

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