flirting...

For girls its making the guy feel good about himself. So compliments (not over complimenting though), a lot of listening if he talks, be interested. If he isnt talking share stories of your own. Whatever. Touching, that sort of crap. General body language to show a little shyness (though don't hide in the corner - talk like you're not shy, but body language to show you're slightly shy), innocence, naivity, smile a lot. It should be obvious really.

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Yoda

For girls its making the guy feel good about himself. So compliments (not over complimenting though), a lot of listening if he talks, be interested. If he isnt talking share stories of your own. Whatever. Touching, that sort of crap. General body language to show a little shyness (though don't hide in the corner - talk like you're not shy, but body language to show you're slightly shy), innocence, naivity, smile a lot. It should be obvious really.

The general rules of flirting apply to both sexes. Although a bloke playing with his hair would just seem slightly homosexual.

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The general rules of flirting apply to both sexes. Although a bloke playing with his hair would just seem slightly homosexual.

Oh, not at all. In fact, I think I do pretty much the opposite of that. I don't compliment, interrupt, rarely more interested in them than me, don't do any of the body language I've listed. Generally, I just act as I am normally. If a girl acted like I do, she'd be very disappointed.

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Anonymous #2

im a guy with long hair
i play with it from time to time

i am NOT gay tho :smile:

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Scarlett_Jewel

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Anonymous

hi guys,
I am completely socially inept, i get really freaked out when I like someone, and go really quiet and stuff... but I met this guy who I really like, and don't really know how to flirt- I know that sounds really stupid, but I'm like that.
I don't want to be to "in his face" coz I don't know him that well, but he is a really nice guy, and I was wondering if anyone might have any tips...
Thanks

Sweetheart, there's despite what all these books will tell you, every girl and every guy will react differently to different people in different situations. There's no set formula to bag him. It's such a cliche, but be yourself for god's sake. It shouldn't be about convincing him you're x-type of girl, as it's just building false hopes for the both of you. Just relax and chat to him as if he's :eek:

normal

if he doesn't respect that and treat you in the same way back then he was never worth it. Games are so '90s :biggrin:

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Anonymous #1

OP

It's kinda that I want him to know that I like him as more than a friend...

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Anonymous #3

Yoda

Oh, not at all. In fact, I think I do pretty much the opposite of that. I don't compliment, interrupt, rarely more interested in them than me, don't do any of the body language I've listed. Generally, I just act as I am normally. If a girl acted like I do, she'd be very disappointed.

Your typical teenage fippant bravado is slowly wearing thin Yoda. You cannot tar everyone with the same brush and every situation is subjective and circumstantial.

Some girls may find the arrogance tactic appealing, but you'll find that it will only get you so far. You cannot actively flirt with someone without dialog or interest. Flirting, by very definition describes this:

1. To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
2. To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.

'Triflingly' is the only part of importance for you as you're displaying a lack of worth in the other person, which is a common form of flirting but there are limits.

Stop masking your insecurities with illusions of grandeur and start to build substance to your character instead of being so shallow.

I do wonder how much of your e-persona is actually invented.

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I was called gay cause I was trying to sort out my hair a lot of the times at sixth form-but I am not gay. Ironically it was from the bold or jealous lots...........

To the OP......I am in a similar situation but am a guy, at Uni. I think the girl I like is a bit like you which has exercabated the situation, as I myself am quite similar in nature. A stalemate situation has arisen now and with tests coming up I do not even have the time to look at her-she is gorgeous though,makes my day every time i see her in extra classes :biggrin:

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See if you are friends with one of his friends and try to start a group conversation-you can seperate him later. If not then try getting closer to him by sitting next to him/near him,playing with your hair,lots of eye contacts and smiling at the person>>>>>>>>otherwise we do not know whether you flirting or just doing it cause you are bored. A smile back from him and job well done without even saying a word! :wink:

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Q.E.D

If you are going to slag someone off, at least have the balls to do it openly...

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Anonymous #1

OP

thanks anon 4, the smiling thing is a useful tip- never really thought of it like that :biggrin:

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Anonymous

thanks anon 4, the smiling thing is a useful tip- never really thought of it like that :biggrin:

Well.......have to give ppl some useful advice amidst some (not all)idiotic tips these days about flirting. Besides, this world is such a small place that even the advisers can become the beneficiary sometimes............ :wink:

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Tabris

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Smile and eye contact (but don't stare them out), that's all I can really think of.

To be fair, I'm piss poor at flirting, things just happen to work out for the better on occasion. Just go with the flow (excuse the cliché).

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Anonymous #1

OP

Yeah, I guess, let's see how it goes tomorrow...I guess I am just scared coz I've never really liked someone to the extent of caring before...

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Anonymous

Yeah, I guess, let's see how it goes tomorrow...I guess I am just scared coz I've never really liked someone to the extent of caring before...

It's perfectly natural to be scared. The trick is to calm your nerve before you jump into the situation. Laughter is a therapy that has worked wonders for humen since probably the caveman time......still does today for many. It reduces the stress hormones a lot.

Find a way to laugh off your stress(not infront of him though) to calm your nerve and just go with your gut. A lot of the time ppl end up with nothing since we just back off as we get caught up with thoughts,decisions and consequences. Just do it.

Do not think about anything else and just jump into the situation. you will be fine-but may be the laughter therapy will help you to settle your mind before you do something.

I have found the BORAT videos on youtube hilarious and this:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qe5FYFv5wnQ

GOOD LUCK :wink:

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Anonymous

You cannot tar everyone with the same brush and every situation is subjective and circumstantial.

Watch me.

Anonymous

Flirting, by very definition describes this:

1. To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
2. To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.

'Triflingly' is the only part of importance for you as you're displaying a lack of worth in the other person, which is a common form of flirting but there are limits.

Quoting a dictionary does not make you right. Have some experience, and then try to argue with me.

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Anonymous #3

Yoda

Quoting a dictionary does not make you right. Have some experience, and then try to argue with me.

It doesn't? Well how about you prove me wrong instead of answering with rhetoric?

You actually think I don't have experience? Your argument is actually as pityful as your projected alter-ego. I'm arguing with you for a reason, or do you truely think that my opinion(s) are unfounded and without logic? :rolleyes:

Try to argue with you? My dear boy, there is no argument here - you're wrong and that's all there is to it. You even know you're wrong and that's why your 'argument' is currently non-existant.

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Yoda

Watch me.

Quoting a dictionary does not make you right. Have some experience, and then try to argue with me.

Well........what learn the value of experience from a schoolboy? What kind of experience is that......Tardness,ignorance anything apart from advise abt relationships? I am sorry but I do not understand why you are having a dig at someone for offering advise when clearly your advises are just ................ :rolleyes:

We know u wont be responding because school doesn't finish until 3:30!

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