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Hi you all,

I´ve been with my bf for a year and a half and everything is fine, we love each other etc. The last months I´ve been frank to him and admited that I am bisexual, I wasn´t sure about his reaction but was pretty good and apparently he loves the idea and is encouriging me all the time to find a "girlfriend".

We are going to go on holiday at Easter, stay in an apartment for 2 weeks and go out from time to time. The thing is that we have been there before and once we went out, while he was in the toilet a girl was trying to pull me, and to be honest, I was happy with it, though I felt really scared of how my bf would react. But that was before I admited to him I am bisexual, If that happened now he says he´d be delighted with the idea and that would totally love it.

But I am still not sure about that, I´m scared of how his real reaction would be and if he actually would be happy with it...

what about you guys?

Reply 1

dh00001

16

er what

hes encouraging you to cheat on him? :s-smilie:

Reply 2

Nix!

11

dh00001

er what

hes encouraging you to cheat on him? :s-smilie:

I think he's getting ahead of himself and assuming there's a threesome in the works.

Reply 3

Chumbaniya

17

I'm not sure what you're asking; are you asking what the reaction would be if you were bisexual, or if you cheated on him with a girl.

For me, the former wouldn't be a problem if my girlfriend didn't compromise our relationship to pursue relationships with girls, but the second would be just the same as if she cheated with a man.

Reply 4

Yoda

12

Sounds good to me. I'd be pretty happy, everyone loves a bi girl. Or two.

Reply 5

Pineapple_power

OP

What I really want to know is that would the reality of me kissing and toching a girl infront of him result in a different reaction. he tells me he really likes the idea but would he think differently if it really happened.

Assuming that doesn´t imply "cheat" according to him, knowing before hand that I´m bisexual and encourigin me to do it.

And yes, I think that he sees a threesome.

Reply 6

puppy

Well in the threesome scenario I think you need to ask yourself if you'd be happy seeing him touching another girl in front of you. If the answer is 'no' then I don't think it's a good idea for you to pursue doing anything with girls.

Being bisexual doesn't give you a liscence to sleep around, it's not like it's a need that absolutely has to be satisfied, you just want to have your cake and eat it too which is not how relationships work.

For the sake of simplicity in your future relationship with this guy I'd consider very carefully whether the benefits outweigh the potential risks.

Reply 7

Pineapple_power

OP

We have already talked about the threesome and we reacheed an agreement, is simple. we would have a "threesome" but without him havin sex with the other girl. however... im not sure as i wouldnt feel good if this plan failed.

i would be perfectly happy not to have any relations with a girl at all and i havnt had full sex with a girl never mind sleeping around. however kissing girls ect does turn me on and if he really want it as much as he says..... i just dont want him to freak out if it happened.

Reply 8

puppy

Pineapple_power

i just dont want him to freak out if it happened.

Then I'd advise not doing it.

Reply 9

Schmokie Dragon

17

I say don't risk it. He may have some glorified image of a causual threesome but even the most footloose encounter can lead to mistrust and resentment. You can be happy without two partners, so I suggest you keep it that way. That includes kissing.

Reply 10

sssh

10

Pineapple_power

Hi you all,

I´ve been with my bf for a year and a half and everything is fine, we love each other etc. The last months I´ve been frank to him and admited that I am bisexual, I wasn´t sure about his reaction but was pretty good and apparently he loves the idea and is encouriging me all the time to find a "girlfriend".

He's not taking you or your sexuality seriously. I'd split up with him. If you actually had a proper relationship with a girl he wouldn't be too happy, I'd imagine.

Reply 11

Invocation

12

Look at it this way. The chance of you finding someone so great that you leave him and run away with him/her has just doubled.

Reply 12

Pineapple_power

OP

so would you say this is not normal in a relationship?? i was led to believe that all guys wanted this and that it wouldnt be seen as cheatin ect...

Reply 13

Invocation

12

Pineapple_power

so would you say this is not normal in a relationship?? i was led to believe that all guys wanted this and that it wouldnt be seen as cheatin ect...

Males by nature are competitive animals. And you just doubled his competition. He's obviously going to be worried; but what I get from the first post, I think he just wants a threesome...

Reply 14

Pineapple_power

OP

so if he wants a threesome, which i know he says he does, does that mean he could not be taking the relationship very seriously?? or that im not good enough or is this a normal thing guys want to do with their gfs. or is it more the type of thing u would want in a more casual relationship???

Reply 15

L i b

19

While this thread is strangely erotic, I certainly wouldn't want my girlfriend sleeping with someone else, regardless of gender.

Reply 16

Invocation

12

Pineapple_power

so if he wants a threesome, which i know he says he does, does that mean he could not be taking the relationship very seriously??

Possibly, but I have no idea how serious he's taking the relationship. I really can't tell.

or that im not good enough or is this a normal thing guys want to do with their gfs. or is it more the type of thing u would want in a more casual relationship???

Most guys think the more the merrier (as long as they're women, that is).

Reply 17

cmh

8

OMG no, don't do it unless you want to risk everything. Who is to say this other girl wont even try it on with your bf, would he seriously reject it? If your bf wants a show he doesn't seem to worry that you will fall for this other girl, however, if you think you would and really value ur relationship with ur bf dont do it.

Reply 18

Jonquil

10

The reality is that your bf wouldn't really see you being with another girl as you cheating, it would just be a massive turn on. If it was a boy it would be completely different. And it sounds like he is just skipping straight ahead to you all having a threesome :rolleyes:

he actually sounds a lot like my boyfriend. Although im not bi, the idea of me getting with another girl has come up a few times in conversation, and he also thinks he would love it. Maybe thats just boys for you?
What do the guys on here think?

Reply 19

Hashem

lucky dude
he can be the faithful bf that wants to stirr things up dont freak out go with it

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