How long can someone be 'confused' for?

Hallo,

Ok, I'll try to keep this fairly short, bascially, I really like this guy. He came out of a fairly long relationship over Christmas and this term we've been very much more than friends but not in a relationship. Recently he said we had to go back to being simply friends because he was confused, however, two nights ago we relapsed into more than friends getting more and more physical.

The thing is how long can someone be confused for as this has been about two months. I'm aware that he just came out of a relationship, and I do think he likes me, plus he gets a bit jealous if any other guys remotely enter the picture, but I'm wondering how long I should wait for him to make up his mind?

Thank you everyone

Reply 1

*Sunflower*

Hmm, difficult situation but make sure he isnt simply messing you around, i'm afraid only you can decide what is right.

Reply 2

veni, vidi, vici

well he must know that you won't wait forever, although don't say it in so many words. :smile:

Reply 3

Spacecam

It'll take as long as he needs. Don't force him into anything because he won't be himself and is less likely to give it his all whilst he's still upset and not over his other relationship. Keep supporting him, then you're there when he's ready :five:

Reply 4

L i b

He's behaving like a big jessie.

Men don't get "confused" as women seem to. He's not interested in you, he wants a few quick shags without commitment.

Reply 5

Nix!

Lib North

He's behaving like a big jessie.

Men don't get "confused" as women seem to. He's not interested in you, he wants a few quick shags without commitment.

Oh men do get confused, but only because women are sending off conflicting messages.

I don't agree with your latter statement either, you don't know this guy so you don't know his intentions!

OP:

The hurt you feel is only proportionate to how much you cared for someone, so in this case he may well still be hurting. However, some people are quicker at resolving their daemons then others. It sounds like he's well on the road to recovery but still has things to resolve. I suggest just taking it at his own pace, but as Lib is warning you - keep an eye on his true intentions.

Reply 6

Tw!stEd

I'm constantly confused about girl's, and I highly doubt that I'm the only one..

Reply 7

L i b

Ach, I was being a bit facetious. But all the same, if you asked me, there's a matter of cake and it being eaten.

Reply 8

Yellowmarshmellow

My bf went through a 'confused' couple of weeks but i didn't contact him or anything to let him think and he came round and was fine - give him time and don't pressure him to make any decisions and it should all be fine :smile:

Reply 9

Yoda

Of course he isn't confused. He just can't think of an excuse to have you as friends plus a little more without you going with other guys. Sounds a little selfish if you ask me. Do what you want until he makes his mind up, theres no reason you shouldn't chat to other guys while hes pissing you around.

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