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    I've just started sixth form at a new school and everyone's already got a group of friends which is understandable but I've made no new real friends that I could see myself being good friends with. it's been a week and I've on met people who I talk to in lesson but then go off to their own groups at lunch. I have a few friends from my old school that I hang around with but to be honest I was hoping to find new friends that Actually want to be friends outside of class One of friends has even made best friends with the most popular girl in the school and will probably stop speaking to me entirely soon lol... I feel kinda worried because everyone I've spoken to is either weird , mean or already in a friendship group. Also: I do like my friends from my old school but they rarely go out and I feel like I need change or at least some more friends???? Anyone ever been in a similar situation or got any advice
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    I'm exactly in the same situation, I'm at a new school and haven't really made any friends any yet
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    friends come and go by time you get to university you might not even see half your friends anymore so i would just concentrate on your studies its why you applied for sixth form. Yes its good to have friends and be socially active but put education first. And the best way to make friends is to talk to as many people as you can it might be nerve racking talking to new people but you never know you could become friends with someone you never thought would be your friend. Good luck for a levels
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    This is why I hate secondary schools being 7-11 then Sixth form being 12-13. It makes making friends (not talking about people who you talk to in lessons but actually hang around with) far difficult. American system of high school being 4 years between the 14-18 is better my IMO.
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    Sounds an awful lot like my sixth form...
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    I feel this way too- i'm in A2 now and it's terrible. Worst part is that I'm in the same school I was in for secondary- it's just all my friends left for other school and I never really bothered to branch outside of my group. Now I realise how awkward I am, and I've become so quiet. I think I might have social anxiety now and I've become so scared of university. It's so difficult to get into friendship groups because it's like they're set in stone. I cried throughout last year, it was horrible. I think it completely changed me- its so difficult watching everyone else laugh and hang out with each other and I'm such an overthinker..

    I hope university is different..
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    Give it a couple more weeks and you will find the right friends. You could go and join some societies in school. or go and grab lunch with someone from your lesson. I am sure you will find good friends

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've just started sixth form at a new school and everyone's already got a group of friends which is understandable but I've made no new real friends that I could see myself being good friends with. it's been a week and I've on met people who I talk to in lesson but then go off to their own groups at lunch. I have a few friends from my old school that I hang around with but to be honest I was hoping to find new friends that Actually want to be friends outside of class One of friends has even made best friends with the most popular girl in the school and will probably stop speaking to me entirely soon lol... I feel kinda worried because everyone I've spoken to is either weird , mean or already in a friendship group. Also: I do like my friends from my old school but they rarely go out and I feel like I need change or at least some more friends???? Anyone ever been in a similar situation or got any advice
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    My college was **** socially, hope you make more friends if/when you go uni
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've just started sixth form at a new school and everyone's already got a group of friends which is understandable but I've made no new real friends that I could see myself being good friends with. it's been a week and I've on met people who I talk to in lesson but then go off to their own groups at lunch. I have a few friends from my old school that I hang around with but to be honest I was hoping to find new friends that Actually want to be friends outside of class One of friends has even made best friends with the most popular girl in the school and will probably stop speaking to me entirely soon lol... I feel kinda worried because everyone I've spoken to is either weird , mean or already in a friendship group. Also: I do like my friends from my old school but they rarely go out and I feel like I need change or at least some more friends???? Anyone ever been in a similar situation or got any advice
    give it a couple of weeks, you'll make new friends. Get talking more to the people in your lessons, pluck up the courage to say 'could I sit with you guys at lunch?' and even if you don't make friends, its not the end of the world - as other posters have said, you should prioritise your studies, get awesome results and make friends at university
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel this way too- i'm in A2 now and it's terrible. Worst part is that I'm in the same school I was in for secondary- it's just all my friends left for other school and I never really bothered to branch outside of my group. Now I realise how awkward I am, and I've become so quiet. I think I might have social anxiety now and I've become so scared of university. It's so difficult to get into friendship groups because it's like they're set in stone. I cried throughout last year, it was horrible. I think it completely changed me- its so difficult watching everyone else laugh and hang out with each other and I'm such an overthinker..

    I hope university is different..
    if it makes you feel any better, you're not alone; I'm in the same position, been at the same school since year 7, only I haven't had proper friends since year 9 and I'm in year 13. I used to cry about it too, even refuse to go to school once or twice. I kind of don't care about it anymore though - going to get awesome results and then university, onwards and upwards!
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    (Original post by samie moahmmed)
    friends come and go by time you get to university you might not even see half your friends anymore so i would just concentrate on your studies its why you applied for sixth form. Yes its good to have friends and be socially active but put education first. And the best way to make friends is to talk to as many people as you can it might be nerve racking talking to new people but you never know you could become friends with someone you never thought would be your friend. Good luck for a levels
    Great advice!
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    Hey. I was in a similar situation. I stayed at the same school, but my old group of friends began bullying me after I had a brief mental health scare. I was ostracised by the clique I had been in with, and avoided by everyone else around me, who'd heard about what happened. I thought there would be no coming back from it.

    For me, it never got as good as it had been again, but it got a lot better. People in your classes WILL become your friends - you spend so many hours a week with them, and the stress of A-Levels is so immense that bonding is inevitable. Offer to help people out if you're academic, ask for help (in a non-leeching fashion) if you're not. It will break the ice the primary reason why you're there is to work, so it seems like the perfect excuse to talk to people. I really understand how hard it can be, when everyone goes off in their groups. My school was single-sex and extremely cliquey. But even in this environment, I made new friends that I really believe will last beyond school. It might be slow going - it took a few months, if not longer, for me. But it will happen as long as you put effort in. Also, don't expect it to have happened in a week, and don't write everyone off as not your kind of person straight away! If the worst absolutely comes to the worst, sixth form isn't very long. It doesn't FEEL very long, even if it sounds like it is on paper. Best of luck my friend.
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    People! Don't lose your eye on the ball! I understand that you need to socialise with people, but your main priority is getting the best A level results possible. I understand that it is very difficult to make new friends at this age because people have already established their friendship groups and it is hard to try and enter a social group. I was in the exact situation as you a year ago. I started to give up and just focused on my studies. Everyday I would just go to the computer rooms and listen to music whilst I revise. I might sound a little sad but to be honest I doubt the friends you make at sixth form will remember you for long time, because once you go to university you are to be exposed to loads and loads of new people from around the world, and the friends you made at sixth form will probably forget about you. I am not saying don't make friends at sixth form, I am just saying don't spend too much time trying get yourself to fit into a social circle. Good luck
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    Hi I'm aged 17 and in my first year of sixth form. I had loads of friends at school like I hung around with about 15 people. Unfortunately I didn't get the grades to go to my schools sixth form, so have gone to one in the city centre. In having the exact same problem as you I only know 2 people from my old school, and I do try to meet up with old school friends but only once a month or so.
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    I'm in the same situation
 
 
 
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