Is it OK that I'm dating 3 girls at once?

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So yeah, I'm currently dating 3 girls my age (21). I met two of them on a night out and then the last one, who I've been dating since last week at a shopping centre.

I've been getting a lot of backlash from it from my parents of all people. They believe I should be focusing on one girl and not 3. My mum is especially against it and whenever I bring another girl home she'll say stuff like "Which one is this one?" - which I find pretty rude.

Dating =/= Relationship.

Sure you date (i.e go out) with your BF or GF, but dating is more to with discovering new people and new personalities while having fun.

All 3 girls know I'm not only dating them, and none of them have expressed concern. If one were to tell me they felt uncomfortable, I would have to end it with her.

It doesn't feel like I'm stringing any of them along, I just haven't chosen who I want to commit to...
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You player, you!
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I feel like because you're already asking advice from random people that you yourself feel it's wrong in some way??
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If that's your opinion/outlook on things then fair enough- especially if the girls are ok with it. Why are you asking others for their opinion?- you know most people would say it's not.
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if the three girls know then it's fine; your morals/ do what you feel is right. agree it'd get annoying with the parents but ultimately people have different ethics and different morals and so not every1 will think it's "right"
it's all subjective. what matters in this is how you feel and how the girls feel (as in, they know they aren't the only one you're dating)

yes it might get stickier in a while because one of them might eventually demand something more serious but you're not in that position yet etc etc so all's good imo
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This sounds dodgy af. :lolwut: What type of girls are these?
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Do you often pick up the opposite sex in shopping centres?
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(Original post by Travisty)
I feel like because you're already asking advice from random people that you yourself feel it's wrong in some way??
You're not wrong... I just feel it's wrong because of how my parents have reacted to it. What do you think I should do?


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If that's your opinion/outlook on things then fair enough- especially if the girls are ok with it. Why are you asking others for their opinion?- you know most people would say it's not.

Because I feel it's wrong in some way... I feel shame because of how my parents feel about it.
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I would be pissed for sure
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Why you asking when you know the responses?
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QUOTEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png=Quantex;59217153]Do you often pick up the opposite sex in shopping centres?[ QUOTEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png]

No, I really don't lol... this was a real one off
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I'm pretty sure this is a nope :3

You gotta slow down, you're gonna hurt the two you reject...
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**** the haters. how did u do it fam?
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QUOTEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png=sarskinz;59217199]Why you asking when you know the responses?[ QUOTEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png]


Well I didn't know how people would respond!
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Well it sounds perfect for now, doesn't it? Just be careful in the future, girls can be PSYCHO. Better watch your back.
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I mean as long as you're not in a exclusive relationship with any of these girls and they are aware, then it is okay. Things may become sticky later on though.
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QUOTEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png=vis break;59217235]**** the haters. how did u do it fam?[ QUOTEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png]


Well, without sounding like a chump, it's easier for me to pick up at clubs. I basically got with them, got their numbers, sent them a text the day and just started dating without mentioning anything about relationships or anything.

The girl I met at the shopping centre was a one-off. I usually never risk it in public like that, but I randomly started talking to her and we hit it off so I got her number

I guess if any of them asked for commitment I would have to let it go, because I'm just looking for no strings.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So yeah, I'm currently dating 3 girls my age (21). I met two of them on a night out and then the last one, who I've been dating since last week at a shopping centre.

I've been getting a lot of backlash from it from my parents of all people. They believe I should be focusing on one girl and not 3. My mum is especially against it and whenever I bring another girl home she'll say stuff like "Which one is this one?" - which I find pretty rude.

Dating =/= Relationship.

Sure you date (i.e go out) with your BF or GF, but dating is more to with discovering new people and new personalities while having fun.

All 3 girls know I'm not only dating them, and none of them have expressed concern. If one were to tell me they felt uncomfortable, I would have to end it with her.

It doesn't feel like I'm stringing any of them along, I just haven't chosen who I want to commit to...
no its not okay! wait,it is if they are 'okay' with it because they want to date as in discover the world of men out there...then its okay,but if they think your serious, you need to tell them..even still if u make your intentions clear maybe girls will still be willing to date to egt to know you..so long as feelings and intentions are mutual to begin with..
that's my opinion anyway,
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QUOTEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png=stemmery;59217283]Well it sounds perfect for now, doesn't it? Just be careful in the futurehttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items...rrow-10x10.png, girls can be PSYCHO. Better watch your back.[/QUOTE]

Some girls can yes, I've been with a few lol
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