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My mum's in hospital and I think my dad's an affair, not sure what to do. watch

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    Hey,

    My mums currently in hospital for a month receiving treatment. My dad keeps disappearing in the evenings and not saying where he's going. It's definitely not to my mum as I speak to her on the phone and he hasn't visited. He never did it before my mum went away to hospital. I keep seeing him outside in his car on the phone and then he come back in and just says "i'm off out" and just leaves for 3-4 hours in the evening without telling me where he's going. It's very strange. I don't want to ask him where he's been though or he'll have a go at me for being nosey, me and my dad aren't that close. I think he's up to something but I'm not sure how I can find out unless I try to look at his phone but it's always on him so I can't see. How can I find out, what should I do? I've told mum and she's worried but is also too nervous to confront him about it
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    Maybe he's going to the pub, maybe he's going to a friend's house, maybe he's doing one of a thousand other things (especially to cope with the stress). The fact that your first reaction is to assume he might be cheating shows just how low you regard him.
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    (Original post by Arkasia)
    Maybe he's going to the pub, maybe he's going to a friend's house, maybe he's doing one of a thousand other things (especially to cope with the stress). The fact that your first reaction is to assume he might be cheating shows just how low you regard him.
    Problem is that he has no friends and that he never goes to the pub. I can't think what else he would be doing. And if he were doing something normal he would just tell me where he is going like he normally does. He has been caught being flirtatious and sending messages and presents to other woman without my mum knowing before so i worry he's doing it again and taking advantage of the fact mums in hospital
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    I guess you can't so much, especially if you have told you mum about your concerns, as it is ultimately between your parents. Try and not worry about it too much.
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    Look at his phone when he's sleeping at night. Does he have a password on it?
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    Hey,

    My mums currently in hospital for a month receiving treatment. My dad keeps disappearing in the evenings and not saying where he's going. It's definitely not to my mum as I speak to her on the phone and he hasn't visited. He never did it before my mum went away to hospital. I keep seeing him outside in his car on the phone and then he come back in and just says "i'm off out" and just leaves for 3-4 hours in the evening without telling me where he's going. It's very strange. I don't want to ask him where he's been though or he'll have a go at me for being nosey, me and my dad aren't that close. I think he's up to something but I'm not sure how I can find out unless I try to look at his phone but it's always on him so I can't see. How can I find out, what should I do? I've told mum and she's worried but is also too nervous to confront him about it
    It's not your business to find out what he's up to. He's a grown adult who can make his own choices and, if you're that worried, tell you mother when she recovers so that she can ask him herself instead of trying to meddle in their relationship.
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    To be honest, it should be left between your parents, if your mother knows then its her responsibility to confront him. You are the kid in this, not them. Hopefully its not an affair but as you already told your Mum, then there isn't much more you can do that won't put you in an awkward position.
 
 
 
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