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    The friendzone simply put: is someone not finding you attractive.

    It may be your looks or an aspect of your personality but for whatever reason that person can't see themselves with you in a sexual sense.

    By saying 'let's just be friends' they're being weak instead of saying 'No, I just don't find you attractive'. It's not because you were too friendly...

    ...if you're attractive and you're friendly and take your time to make a move then a girl will want you.

    ...if you're unattractive (to her) and you're friendly and take your time to move then it's 'let's just be friends'.
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    And what made you want to share that with us today good sir?
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    Try telling that to all the losers I friendzoned today m8 :indiff:
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    (Original post by iAmanze)
    And what made you want to share that with us today good sir?
    I'm a lady
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    (Original post by RainbowKiwi)
    Try telling that to all the losers I friendzoned today m8 :indiff:
    Worst thing is, they think it's your fault! No, thanks for being my friend, but because you're my friend doesn't mean you're attractive to me.

    A girl out there does. Just not me. I don't see why it's a hard concept to understand that.

    I think it's impossible for guys and girls to be close friends because it seems guys will always want more at some point.
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    (Original post by twodaysgone)
    The friendzone simply put: is someone not finding you attractive.

    It may be your looks or an aspect of your personality but for whatever reason that person can't see themselves with you in a sexual sense.

    By saying 'let's just be friends' they're being weak instead of saying 'No, I just don't find you attractive'. It's not because you were too friendly...

    ...if you're attractive and you're friendly and take your time to make a move then a girl will want you.

    ...if you're unattractive (to her) and you're friendly and take your time to move then it's 'let's just be friends'.
    It is overused, but girls do sometimes say "I do like him, but I wouldn't want to risk our friendship". That is a thing that happens. It's not illogical, if she really enjoys the friendship, a failed relationship would probably end that. Just be honest with women. If you want to be her sexual partner, flirt, don't act like a platonic friend, then turn around and say "omg why is she treating me like a platonic friend!?".
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    It's a reasonable analysis. I think it's possible to want to be friends with someone you don't fancy but it is usually a low investment friendship and if the other side is desperate for romance it will be a humiliating and angsty friendship which may well be doomed.
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    (Original post by Mankytoes)
    It is overused, but girls do sometimes say "I do like him, but I wouldn't want to risk our friendship". That is a thing that happens. It's not illogical, if she really enjoys the friendship, a failed relationship would probably end that. Just be honest with women. If you want to be her sexual partner, flirt, don't act like a platonic friend, then turn around and say "omg why is she treating me like a platonic friend!?".
    That's also another excuse used by girls. If the friendship is so great, you want him in your life forever. At some point or another you will both find someone else and drift.

    Long-term friendships very rarely last and when they do, they're not very often involving opposite sexes who will have their own sexual opposite to contend with at some point.
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    (Original post by twodaysgone)
    Worst thing is, they think it's your fault! No, thanks for being my friend, but because you're my friend doesn't mean you're attractive to me.

    A girl out there does. Just not me. I don't see why it's a hard concept to understand that.

    I think it's impossible for guys and girls to be close friends because it seems guys will always want more at some point.
    I agree with you. I use the word friendzone to describe when a guy is trying to get a girl that does not have a sexual interest in him.

    Much shorter way of saying that.

    Instead of saying "Mate, you're going after that girl but she does not find you attractive enough to see herself in a romantic relationship with you so it will always remain platonic no matter how much you try... although if you add alcohol to the mix she may become non-platonic for the night"

    ...I just say "Dude, you're friendzoned. Move on"
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    (Original post by iAmanze)
    I agree with you. I use the word friendzone to describe when a guy is trying to get a girl that does not have a sexual interest in him.

    Much shorter way of saying that.

    Instead of saying "Mate, you're going after that girl but she does not find you attractive enough to see herself in a romantic relationship with you so it will always remain platonic no matter how much you try... although if you add alcohol to the mix she may become non-platonic for the night"

    ...I just say "Dude, you're friendzoned. Move on"
    Disagree on that one, unless you rape her.

    If you can get somewhere when drunk there's more to it than meets the eye or unless she's an absolute slut who gets about.
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    lol no guy will accept the friendzone and rightly so. they'll get the hell outta there as soon as sex is off the cards
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    (Original post by twodaysgone)
    Disagree on that one, unless you rape her.

    If you can get somewhere when drunk there's more to it than meets the eye or unless she's an absolute slut who gets about.
    Haha okay I meant to edit that to momentarily i.e a kiss :P
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    (Original post by twodaysgone)
    That's also another excuse used by girls. If the friendship is so great, you want him in your life forever. At some point or another you will both find someone else and drift.

    Long-term friendships very rarely last and when they do, they're not very often involving opposite sexes who will have their own sexual opposite to contend with at some point.
    Yeah, but you might feel he is attractive, but the relationship is high risk. If he's a guy you've just met, **** it, no risk. If he's your friend, you're risking losing him.

    You might not do it personally, but it still exists. It's just got a bad rep from loser guys who think they're entitled to sex if they're nice to a girl. It doesn't change the fact that you should be open with your intentions.
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    Don't deny the friend zone
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    (Original post by Mankytoes)
    Yeah, but you might feel he is attractive, but the relationship is high risk. If he's a guy you've just met, **** it, no risk. If he's your friend, you're risking losing him.

    You might not do it personally, but it still exists. It's just got a bad rep from loser guys who think they're entitled to sex if they're nice to a girl. It doesn't change the fact that you should be open with your intentions.
    This is another reason why even an attractive guy shouldn't become close friends with an attractive girl in that case. Because once he wants to realise those intentions, you're pretty much rejecting him and the emotional attachment will feel almost like a breakup for him.

    If you get on well, adding sex to the friendship (inside of a relationship) shouldn't alter that connection.
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    You say the friendzone doesn't exist in the title, but then in your post go on to explain what it is.

    So... does it exist or doesn't it?
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    (Original post by twodaysgone)
    The friendzone simply put: is someone not finding you attractive.

    It may be your looks or an aspect of your personality but for whatever reason that person can't see themselves with you in a sexual sense.

    By saying 'let's just be friends' they're being weak instead of saying 'No, I just don't find you attractive'. It's not because you were too friendly...

    ...if you're attractive and you're friendly and take your time to make a move then a girl will want you.

    ...if you're unattractive (to her) and you're friendly and take your time to move then it's 'let's just be friends'.
    in other news, man lands on moon.
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    (Original post by miser)
    You say the friendzone doesn't exist in the title, but then in your post go on to explain what it is.

    So... does it exist or doesn't it?
    It's something where the sexual attraction isn't there.

    I don't truly believe in all this 'ruining a friendship' malarky. Lifetime friends hardly ever occur and when they do, less than 5% of the time (my opinion) are they going to involve a male and a female.
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    (Original post by twodaysgone)
    It's something where the sexual attraction isn't there.

    I don't truly believe in all this 'ruining a friendship' malarky. Lifetime friends hardly ever occur and when they do, less than 5% of the time (my opinion) are they going to involve a male and a female.
    I always thought that the "friend-zone" is when a guy/girl likes a girl/guy, but the feeling is not reciprocated, and so the former is destined only to be friends with the latter.

    So that doesn't exist? :iiam:
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    Ser Jorah Mormont would beg to differ.
 
 
 
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