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to lie or not to lie...
i have to meet this guy i met online face to face but my parents wont understand it. should i lie and say we used to go to school together or shud i come clean? i rele want to meet him and this means so much to me but the situation is difficult b/c i wont even have a phone and they wont allow it.. 99% sure of that. i could arrange a meeting in secret but feel so guilty at the idea of a lie. someone help. also i dont want to break it to this guy that i come from a conservative family b/c he has been looking forward to seeing me and i dont want him to think im a freak. life is so unfair.Reply 1
Maybe I'm a bit amoral, but when I introduce people I've met online to other people, parents, friends whatever, it depends entirely on how they would react as to which story they get. Generally it's either the truth, or 'we met through a friend'. Over time it ceases to be an important issue. And if they 'find out' and get a bit indignant about me lying to them, it's just a case of, "well, I wouldn't have lied if you wouldn't have freaked out!"
The guy should be understanding just explain that it's frustrating how people find these things so taboo still and that your family wouldn't be happy with you meeing someone from the internet. I'd probably say that the only people I know who don't think it's strange are people who have met up people they met on the internet themselves. So you are far from alone.
THIS SAID, how old are you? If you're at the age where you need to justify everytime you leave the house (or still feel guilty about lying about where you're going...) then please be awfully careful. Don't go far from home and meet in a busy public place, like a shopping centre. Have a friend hang around in the background who can rescue you if needs be.
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The guy should be understanding just explain that it's frustrating how people find these things so taboo still and that your family wouldn't be happy with you meeing someone from the internet. I'd probably say that the only people I know who don't think it's strange are people who have met up people they met on the internet themselves. So you are far from alone.
THIS SAID, how old are you? If you're at the age where you need to justify everytime you leave the house (or still feel guilty about lying about where you're going...) then please be awfully careful. Don't go far from home and meet in a busy public place, like a shopping centre. Have a friend hang around in the background who can rescue you if needs be.
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Reply 3
I think you should be really careful before you meet him, could you maybe ask your parents and maybe come up with some sort of compromise i.e you can go meet him if you go with some friends? Having said that, I think you should take a friend a long, or have a friend meet you later at the meeting place to be sure. Also make sure it's in a public place like a busy cafe or a shopping centre.
Tell them the truth but that you'll take a friend and all that normal stuff. Make HIM come to YOU- ie. somewhere you know well enough to be able to get away if he turns out to be a weirdo.
I have a similar problem but its more that my mom's just plain nosey and would butt in withy a load of rubbish. So if I plan to meet the guy I'm talking to at the moment she won't know. But purely because she'd annoy me.
I have a similar problem but its more that my mom's just plain nosey and would butt in withy a load of rubbish. So if I plan to meet the guy I'm talking to at the moment she won't know. But purely because she'd annoy me.
Reply 5
Hmm, its a hard one. I met up with a guy and didnt tell my mum (though we'd met up before and she knew about that time) and went mental coz id lied to her. Maybe you can make a small lie and say you know him through a friend at school and that you're meeting up as a group, rather than just one on one - I hope you are meeting up with a group, not one on one, thats just dangerous.
How old are you? You could buy a cheap phone, like £19-99 from tesco these days. might not be a nice one, but a phone is a phone. Whatever you do decide, do be sensible. People arent always what they pretend to be.
How old are you? You could buy a cheap phone, like £19-99 from tesco these days. might not be a nice one, but a phone is a phone. Whatever you do decide, do be sensible. People arent always what they pretend to be.
Reply 6
i am 17 and wont have a phone because i am meeting him in another country so i dont have network.
Reply 7
i DO have a phone btw. and i was thinking of meeting him at the reception in the hotel, not in private. i just dont know how to put the story to them. my mom knows about this and she suggested i lie lol. its my dad who is worrying me. having said that we had a serious discussion before about meeting strangers so maybe he will see im sensible. this guy is so excited bout us meeting and we are going to go to the same uni... but i know my dad still wont understand. im also afraid that if i tell this guy i cant meet him having created all this excitement he simply wont talk to me any more and i have grown very attached.
im also afraid that if i tell this guy i cant meet him having created all this excitement he simply wont talk to me any more and i have grown very attached. Reply 8
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i am 17 and wont have a phone because i am meeting him in another country so i dont have network.
Can i ask why you have to meet him face to face if he lives in another country etc?
My parents/family still don't know how I met my boyfriend really 
We've been going out for over a year.
We met online WAY back when I was 13/14 and have just always kept in contact, didn't meet him till I was 18 though.
On the day I had planned to meet him my parents where going out for the day so I told them I'm going out to meet someone that afternoon/evening. They asked all the questions and I told them we randomly met at a sports venue where he was waiting to be picked up, ot talking and traded numbers/e-mail a year ago now we decided we should meet up and see what happends.
Hmmm I do wonder if I should tell them as his side of the family/friends know the truth and if they ever meet....
We've been going out for over a year.We met online WAY back when I was 13/14 and have just always kept in contact, didn't meet him till I was 18 though.
On the day I had planned to meet him my parents where going out for the day so I told them I'm going out to meet someone that afternoon/evening. They asked all the questions and I told them we randomly met at a sports venue where he was waiting to be picked up, ot talking and traded numbers/e-mail a year ago now we decided we should meet up and see what happends.
Hmmm I do wonder if I should tell them as his side of the family/friends know the truth and if they ever meet....
Reply 11
If you're meeting in a hotel (where i assume your staying) dont go straight up to your room. You might get into a place you dont want to be. Go for a wlk around the grounds, but stay in the eyeline of people. How long have you been talking?
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i DO have a phone btw. and i was thinking of meeting him at the reception in the hotel, not in private. i just dont know how to put the story to them. my mom knows about this and she suggested i lie lol. its my dad who is worrying me. having said that we had a serious discussion before about meeting strangers so maybe he will see im sensible. this guy is so excited bout us meeting and we are going to go to the same uni... but i know my dad still wont understand. im also afraid that if i tell this guy i cant meet him having created all this excitement he simply wont talk to me any more and i have grown very attached.
im also afraid that if i tell this guy i cant meet him having created all this excitement he simply wont talk to me any more and i have grown very attached. If your going to the same uni cant you just wait?
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