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Help with friend...

ok... well i appologise now if this post gets quite long, but im really upset and i really dont know what to do anymore...

well, just before christmas my best mate (a guy, im a girl) tried to pull me even though we were both in separate relationships... this was very awkward but we both knew we fancied eachother for ages (years infact) but never acted on it cos 1 of us has always been in a relationship. so he tried to pull me but i pulled away. we both sort never mentioned said event to eachother again. however... i was very confused about his actions and spoke to friend B bout it... not mentioning any names... turned out he too had spoken to friend B bout it but said i tried to pull him... either way i dont mind... it would have been the same outcome if i HAD been the one to pull him...

friend B told my best mates girlfriend wot had happened, so she asked me and i denied all knowledge, wanting to be loyal to my then best friend...

but he now hates me cos he thinks that it was me who told her... he denied it and spread horrible rumours about me to all my friends, no one believs them but it still really hurt... we'd been best friends for nearly 5 years... i really dont know wot to do...

we havnt spoken since but i really wan2 clear the air... i miss him so much (as a mate) its like losing a brother...

HELP!!!! any advice soooo welcome! thanks so much for reading this far if you managed it!!!

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Reply 1

Anonymous #1

i dont reli know what to suggest other than talk to him about him... ring him up later and talk about what happened... chances are hes missing you too :biggrin:

Reply 2

wackysparkle

well maybe this is his way of acting out coz he thinks that he ruined your friendship now.
Just call him up - and talk to him - anon1 is right - he probably misses you too! - and this is his way of attracting your attention once again

Reply 3

Angrybanana

Why would you want this person as a friend after the way he behaved? He told lies about you, and tried to cheat on his girlfriend with you. He doesn't sound like a very nice person, and he's just revealed his true colours. It's sad that you were good friends for 5 years before this happened but if he cared about the friendship at all he wouldn't have done the things you mentioned in your post. Look how quick he was to turn on you when he thought you'd revealed his dirty little secret.

Btw, you owe it to his girlfriend to tell her the truth about him. Particularly as rather than giving you a slap like many would, she asked you if it was true. Think how you'd feel if the roles were reversed.

Reply 4

sib

i know what your saying is right... i really do. and i guess more than wanting to be his friend again i want some closure... i want to ask him why he said those things and i guess i want to know in a way what happened to our friendship. i miss his friendship but im not sure that i can ever forgive his actions. there is really no point telling his gf the truth. he would just deny it and seeing as its only his word against mine i really dont want the hassle. she has to find out what hes like and if she loves him, she wont listen to me over him anyway. i just really hate this huge divide between us.. in a way it seems really unfinished, like theres more to come. i dont know...
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