confidence issues..

I've always been a very quiet and withheld person, but it's never been much of a problem until I started uni in September. Since then I've seen guys I'd like to go and talk to when I'm out at night with my friends, but so far I've not had the confidence to. It's annoying, because I would really like to get to know some new people but I get scared for some reason and end up just staying quiet.

In town today, for instance, I was walking down the street when I saw one of my friend's flatmates who I fancy. He's quite a big flirt and he winked and said 'hello' as we passed and all I could do was blush and make some terribly awkward excuse for 'hi' before hurrying off with my eyes to the ground.

I would just like to know how to improve my confidence.

Reply 1

wackysparkle

14

well i guess its just coz you are out of your comfort zone right now and you are just taking some time to adjust thats all - your confidence should come back once you relax and take hold of the reins.
As for the guy - maybe he likes the fact that you squirm when he winks? :wink:

Reply 2

Romana87

Anonymous

I've always been a very quiet and withheld person, but it's never been much of a problem until I started uni in September. Since then I've seen guys I'd like to go and talk to when I'm out at night with my friends, but so far I've not had the confidence to. It's annoying, because I would really like to get to know some new people but I get scared for some reason and end up just staying quiet.

In town today, for instance, I was walking down the street when I saw one of my friend's flatmates who I fancy. He's quite a big flirt and he winked and said 'hello' as we passed and all I could do was blush and make some terribly awkward excuse for 'hi' before hurrying off with my eyes to the ground.

I would just like to know how to improve my confidence.

Try listing all your positive qualities, either mentally or physically. If you feel good about who you are, you're more likely to radiate positivity and confidence. It'll also make you realise how great a person you actually are. Smiling helps too, it makes you feel attractive and makes you appear friendly and approachable.

Reply 3

Lady Narcissus

14

Bad advice for a student, but a new outfit can be a real confidence boost, like turning over a new leaf.

Reply 4

Al-farhan

20

i too had this problem and still have some little bit of it
to begin with i was incredibly ridiculously shy
but i fought it first by knowing that i have a problem then trying to work with it bit by bit everyday.
i started with eye contact as i absolutely couldn't make eye contact with people started to make eye contact with little babies in their trolley things(don't know what they call it) the babies would look back then i would smile at them and then eye contact with people i talk with and strangers (for no reason just to practice),the next thing i did was to try and strike up 'conversations with people like to start with 'what is the time' 'isn't the weather bad' holding doors for people and saying you're welcome,saying hi to all the students in your class as you wait for the lesson to start
the next thing i did was to tell myself that people chit chat doesn't matter and that is shouldn't affect me what they think, and also knowing that if if i chat to people what is the worst thing that would happen?? nothing
i haven't still beat shyness but I'm half way there and if you try to tackle this day by day and reward yourself and you have the determination then you will definitely beat it hope this helps(sorry for the long post) :smile:

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