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beautiful seminar tutor
hey!
My seminar tutor for one of my modules is so drop dead georgous.
She's a phd student and I'm guessing she's about 30 (or in her late 20s). I'm an undergraduate aged 22. It was really weired how I was sitting near the front of the class today and at the end of class she came and sat right next to me to tell me that she recieved the seminar work I sent her and that she'll mark it soon. Don't know why she fealt the need to sit down to talk to me - I was sitting so near the front. Perhaps she caught me drueling at her?
Anyways, 2 questions:
1. Is she off bounds?
2. If not, how could I let her know that I like her? (I'm so underexperienced with girls)
Thanks.
My seminar tutor for one of my modules is so drop dead georgous.
She's a phd student and I'm guessing she's about 30 (or in her late 20s). I'm an undergraduate aged 22. It was really weired how I was sitting near the front of the class today and at the end of class she came and sat right next to me to tell me that she recieved the seminar work I sent her and that she'll mark it soon. Don't know why she fealt the need to sit down to talk to me - I was sitting so near the front. Perhaps she caught me drueling at her?
Anyways, 2 questions:
1. Is she off bounds?
2. If not, how could I let her know that I like her? (I'm so underexperienced with girls)
Thanks.
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What year are you in?
more importantly, what uni are you at? and what's her subject? 
yeh make a point of going to talk to her in her office (if its a uni with post grads in offices) about work
take in a good essay question. then ask her how she got into doing her phd, etc.... if she has done a phd, then 99% sure you will have plenty to talk about. suggest you go for a drink in the student bar. get her laughing and away from work subject. Get right in there!
yeh make a point of going to talk to her in her office (if its a uni with post grads in offices) about work
take in a good essay question. then ask her how she got into doing her phd, etc.... if she has done a phd, then 99% sure you will have plenty to talk about. suggest you go for a drink in the student bar. get her laughing and away from work subject. Get right in there!
how about waiting a few months and then make a move? I mean you'll prob be more attractive to her if you have a job... it kinda moderates the whole age thing
pearfire
how about waiting a few months and then make a move? I mean you'll prob be more attractive to her if you have a job... it kinda moderates the whole age thing
Yeah I agree with this - you can lay down the groundwork now by becoming friendly but don't ask her out before you graduate; if she's really worth it, the time will fly and I really think there is a far smaller gap between a PhD student and a graduate in work then between a PhD student and an undergraduate student. Obviously the age gap will be the same but socially you'll stand a much better chance and won't be breaking any rules.
Luize
off bounds...yes
Just forget about it.
A lot of my seminar tutors prefer to be sat down or on the same eye level when talking to you.
Just forget about it.
A lot of my seminar tutors prefer to be sat down or on the same eye level when talking to you.
User 1: yeah, she is doing a phd and it would be very easy to get her taling about her subject. DOn't think she's got an office. Thanks for your advice, but I don't know, she is so attractive and LOTS of people like her. I'm not good looking or interesting to talk to - guess she's taken anyway. 
Luize: just wondering do you think she's offbounds because there are rules about this kind of stuff? or because it would just make things too akward?
WOuldn't like to wait till I get a job - could be for ever! and becides I'm not planning to live anywhere near my uni when I graduate, so I guess it would be difficult to get to talk to her then.
Luize: just wondering do you think she's offbounds because there are rules about this kind of stuff? or because it would just make things too akward?
WOuldn't like to wait till I get a job - could be for ever! and becides I'm not planning to live anywhere near my uni when I graduate, so I guess it would be difficult to get to talk to her then.
Jet Black Heart - If after a seminar the lecturer wants to ask you a question or respond to an email they had they will come to your eye level. Obviously I wasn't talking about in a lecture.
Book - It's offbounds because it would not be a healthy relationship. what if she was marking some of your stuff or was found to be giving you special treatment etc. I don't know if there are rules about it...never needed to look for them. But it would certainly make things awkward!
Book - It's offbounds because it would not be a healthy relationship. what if she was marking some of your stuff or was found to be giving you special treatment etc. I don't know if there are rules about it...never needed to look for them. But it would certainly make things awkward!
Jennybean
Yeah I agree with this - you can lay down the groundwork now by becoming friendly but don't ask her out before you graduate; if she's really worth it, the time will fly and I really think there is a far smaller gap between a PhD student and a graduate in work then between a PhD student and an undergraduate student. Obviously the age gap will be the same but socially you'll stand a much better chance and won't be breaking any rules.
Thanks.
Luize
Jet Black Heart - If after a seminar the lecturer wants to ask you a question or respond to an email they had they will come to your eye level. Obviously I wasn't talking about in a lecture.
Book - It's offbounds because it would not be a healthy relationship. what if she was marking some of your stuff or was found to be giving you special treatment etc. I don't know if there are rules about it...never needed to look for them. But it would certainly make things awkward!
Book - It's offbounds because it would not be a healthy relationship. what if she was marking some of your stuff or was found to be giving you special treatment etc. I don't know if there are rules about it...never needed to look for them. But it would certainly make things awkward!
Thanks. Well, although seminar tutors mark procedual work, it isn;t assesseed so dosen;t count towards your degree. All assessed work is marked by the lecturer anonimously. Yeah, it would probarbly would make things awrkward. Though, nothing wrong with talking to her and being friendly to her ... well for now!
Matt Carlton. Patrick Abbots.
maybe leave it towards the end of the course before telling her otherwise itd be awkward, unless in the meantime u can chat to her and build up the courage to ask her out for a drink or whatever. tho tbh i doubt shed be interested just based on fact shes being paid to teach so has to spk to u, dont take it as a sign she likes u.
You're both independent, responsible and aware adults. I can't see what would be wrong with trying to get with her. Good luck..
Book
Thank you! I think I'll probarbly try to talk to her a bit more, find out more about her and see what happens. Anonymous user 2: Yeah, it's a bit of a long shot that she likes me - worth a try though!
Certainly is... any girl is. Write that down.
It's probably not against rules but it could be WELL frowned down on. My college has a HE department and the lecturers there can get fired for sleeping with HE students even though it's all good fun between consensual adults plus they might like love each other or summit.
It's because at some points they are exposed to under 18s who it's illegal to sleep with. So maybe think about who else goes to your uni (any minors snuck in?) and if she teaches anywhere else to anyone else. Also what kinda uni your at (my college is a college & uni).
Do you actually know if you have anything in common with her? Is she definitely single? Has she given any other signals?
It's because at some points they are exposed to under 18s who it's illegal to sleep with. So maybe think about who else goes to your uni (any minors snuck in?) and if she teaches anywhere else to anyone else. Also what kinda uni your at (my college is a college & uni).
Do you actually know if you have anything in common with her? Is she definitely single? Has she given any other signals?
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