help im in love with my best friend

the above kinda tells all really, my best mate and i are really really close (opposite sex fyi) and recently ive been having feelings for them. i fear that if i get too drunk, im gonna blurt out stuf and ruin our friendship, and to top of the lot, they've recently got a new partner, and im happy for my mate cos they deserved it, but i cant help feeling a tad jealous. how should i get over it???? :s-smilie:

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Anonymous #2

I'm in the same boat - bar my mate is only just seeing this guy, as in had 1 date!!

Reply 2

The Thinker

um... why do you refer to your mate as "they", do you like more than one person?

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Anonymous #3

Anonymous

the above kinda tells all really, my best mate and i are really really close (opposite sex fyi) and recently ive been having feelings for them. i fear that if i get too drunk, im gonna blurt out stuf and ruin our friendship, and to top of the lot, they've recently got a new partner, and im happy for my mate cos they deserved it, but i cant help feeling a tad jealous. how should i get over it???? :s-smilie:

^^^ ditto

Reply 4

Dude

14

Whats wrong with that.

Lots of couples started off as mates and even best mates, don't you watch movies :p:

Reply 5

Anonymous #4

Argh.. In the same situation here.. :frown:

Reply 6

zed328

um... why do you refer to your mate as "they", do you like more than one person?

because, short of calling the person 'it', that's what you do in English when you don't wish to talk about the person's gender :rolleyes:

Reply 7

Anonymous #5

I think everyone has feelings like this when they're close to someone. I don't really know what to say to be honest. I love my best friend in more than a best friend way, but I'll never tell him because I don't want to ruin our fantastic friendship.

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Anonymous #6

Yup- jus remember folks that their partner aint gonna be to happy about that if they find out...

Reply 9

Anthonyjm71

9

does seem likea lot of people are in the same boat!

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Anonymous #7

Dude

Whats wrong with that.

Lots of couples started off as mates and even best mates, don't you watch movies :p:

In the movies it's cute, in real life it's awkward and awful. Make very sure they feel the same way before blurting stuff out. Esp if your friend is a teenager and probably not emotionally muture enough to handle still bein your mate if they don't like you in "that way".

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Anonymous #8

I feel a bit similar myself - but I know I can't have her becoz she's going out with another mate of mine ;(

Reply 12

Evil-Tuna

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Anthonyjm71

does seem likea lot of people are in the same boat!

Are you back again?

Reply 13

DeSiFiEd

2

I've noticed that the "best" couples are ones that started off as bestfriends.

Reply 14

The Thinker

zed328

because, short of calling the person 'it', that's what you do in English when you don't wish to talk about the person's gender :rolleyes:

oh ... I didnt realize that the gender was not mentioned...

Reply 15

JC.

19

Best friends make the best lovers :biggrin:

You already know you get on. My best friend actually shouted at me before I asked her out. something along the lines of "I know you have feelings for me and ive made it pretty obvious that I have them for you so why dont you get up off your arse and ask me out?" ... *did as I was told* :biggrin:

We're getting married towards the end of the year. Wife + best friend in the same person? That'll do for me tyvm!

Reply 16

PatchTheCatch

6

It's fine for a relationship to come of best friendedness but if they are in a relationship already that's the problem, not the fact that it's your best friend

Reply 17

Diilan

Seems to me this is all too common....

I told my best freind that I was in love with her before xmas (03 Dec 06) and she did not speak to me till 2 weeks ago...!

The worst thing was, is that we were kinda at the stage where it was just about to progress from a kiss etc to something else, one day it was great then the next morning I never heard from her again until, like I say 2 weeks ago.

Now I have the agony of going through it all again, we ended up having a kiss on Wednesday (this week) night but the next night she again told me she did not want a realtionship, I had to agree that I did not, plus we are both going to Uni in September as mature students (she, Nursing - Guildford) (me, Physio - St Georges) and she has two fantastic children who I get on famously with........

Women are a funny breed sometimes, we have a fantastic time when we are together and talk about everything, like the same food, and everything else that makes a great relationship......yet we are so close, yet no cigar....

Go figure that one out!

Any advice?

Reply 18

hannah_dru

2

Been there. I just didn't get too drunk, and if I was even a tad drunk, I'd stay away from him.
You could tell the person, but in a "I'm only doing this so that I can move on" kind of way.

Reply 19

Diilan

I take it HDru you were not answering my thread???

help im in love with my best friend

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