Girl Advice Needed

Anonymous

Actually asked a related question about the same girl in the thread 'Dilemma Need Advice' but isn't getting much attention because of the crap thread name. Im terribly inexperienced with girls im afraid.

I was again on the msn with a girl who Ive liked for years but havent seen for about a year so I suggested to go on a trip in my car to a seaside town about 40 miles away. She is really up for it but mentioned on msn 'you dont feel then shown an icon of hugging do you.' This has obviously put a damper on things.

Today I talked with her for about 2 and a half hours. The reason for this msn obsession is that she told me to get msn so I downloaded it for the first time. So is it possible to change a girls interest in you through msn or a trip in the car because i think I have got no chance.

Any Help or have I got no hope in hell. :smile:

what?

so did you actually suggest to go out to the beach or not?

:confused:

Reply 5

OP

Ok, never thought it was confusing, should probably have read it again. Lets rephrase-I suggested we go down to the beach to catch up (have seen her in about a year) etc. and she said yea that would be brill. She later said on msn ''you dont feel(shown an icon of hugging) do you?'' So after that basically theres no chance right if shes showing no interest.

Sorry for the confusion.lmao

Reply 6

so what are you asking?

Reply 7

OP

Dam this thread is going down the drain.lol

Basically I'm asking if I have I have a chance with her. I haven't seen her in about 2 years so does that indicate a change in her opinion(no interest I think) is possible and shes decided to go on a 40 mile journey to the local beach although she said she would like to catch up twice.

Reply 8

Anonymous

Dam this thread is going down the drain.lol

Basically I'm asking if I have I have a chance with her. I haven't seen her in about 2 years so does that indicate a change in her opinion(no interest I think) is possible and shes decided to go on a 40 mile journey to the local beach although she said she would like to catch up twice.

Thats for you to answer.

Meet up with her and see what happens.

Reply 9

Sounds potentially like a manipulation tatic.

Asking a guy if he likes you in that way is SO big headed and you should of responded with something like 'No, we all have to do our bit for charity'. lol

Reply 10

shavenwookiee

Sounds potentially like a manipulation tatic.

Asking a guy if he likes you in that way is SO big headed and you should of responded with something like 'No, we all have to do our bit for charity'. lol

Did she actually ask if he liked her?

Its not really big headed, how else are you meant to find out? :p:

Reply 11

Triplet1

Did she actually ask if he liked her?

Its not really big headed, how else are you meant to find out? :p:

By the millions of obvious signs.
Or by asking them out if you're actually interested in them.

To be honest, from what this guy is saying its hard to know the context. It could well of been an appropriate question, but I'm guessing it wasnt.

Reply 12

OP

Surely the fact she ''You re not.....on me'' is a bit disheartening. Not the most positive of questions. BTW when she said that I explained 'no, it would just be good to catch up and if you didnt want to go thats fine.' She later replied 'no I defininetly want to go.'

Reply 13

Anonymous

Surely the fact she ''You re not.....on me'' is a bit disheartening. Not the most positive of questions. BTW when she said that I explained 'no, it would just be good to catch up and if you didnt want to go thats fine.' She later replied 'no I defininetly want to go.'

Yea, good stuff.

Dont put her up on a pedistall when you see her. At all. Remember, you're the man.

Reply 14

shavenwookiee

By the millions of obvious signs.
Or by asking them out if you're actually interested in them.

To be honest, from what this guy is saying its hard to know the context. It could well of been an appropriate question, but I'm guessing it wasnt.

But most people wouldnt want to ask them out unless they no they are interested.

The "guy" thing to do is say to the girl "sooo do you like anyone atm" :rolleyes:

But i see no problem just asking if you pretty much no the answer is yes.

Suppose a bit strange by MSN if you havnt met for a few years.

Reply 15

Triplet1

Suppose a bit strange by MSN if you havnt met for a few years.

This is what I'm thinking.

And why I think MSN is the most god awful way of building a relationship ever!

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À la mode

1

If you both genuinely liked each other or had some sort of chemistry surely you would have seen each other in the space of 2 years?
I don't know what the circumstances are, but it sounds like you're too eager and she isn't as bothered. I could be completely wrong though. (I hope so)
My suggestion - speak to her on the phone because it's easy to talk for ages on msn, and then meet up for a drink or something. I would do it in stages rather than 'haven't seen you for 2 years but let's do something big for our 1st date/get together'. So do smaller things fairly regularly, build your relationship back. Ultimately though what I'm speaking is balls because I don't know either of you, and you are probably the best judge of what to do! Do what you feel is right.

Edit: You need to have more faith in yourself. The probability is you do have a chance, so don't keep questioning yourself and get out there!

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