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    Well, I'm 18. I was at the same school since year 7 and got through GCSE's fine. I stayed on for sixth form and did biology, psychology and art. I had plans to do the exams and then go to uni. All subjects were going fine at first but then everything changed. I started having trouble sleeping and then feeling extremely tired and started feeling irritable. I started to become extremely anxious, started loosing motivation and finally ending up feeling completely depressed. I ended up having to miss lessons to go to therapy sessions as well as loads of other doctors appointments, so started to become behind in my work. Only a few weeks till final exams, I had a big panic attack during a mock exam. At that point the school said they would pull me out of exams and that I diddnt have to come in anymore. Ever since then, the stress has gone but the depression and anxiety have carried on. Everyone in my family has been telling me to go back to college or get a job. I really want to, but I'm so scared to go back. It feels like If I go back to study, the same thing will happen all over again and I don't think I can handle that. My parents (especially my dad) think I'm just being lazy but I cant bring myself to tell them how I really feel, I don't have any friends I can talk to about this either. I have lost all ambitions I had for the future and now have no idea what I want to do or where to start. Has anyone else been through this, any advice? Thanks. 0 following
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    Well, I'm 18. I was at the same school since year 7 and got through GCSE's fine. I stayed on for sixth form and did biology, psychology and art. I had plans to do the exams and then go to uni. All subjects were going fine at first but then everything changed. I started having trouble sleeping and then feeling extremely tired and started feeling irritable. I started to become extremely anxious, started loosing motivation and finally ending up feeling completely depressed. I ended up having to miss lessons to go to therapy sessions as well as loads of other doctors appointments, so started to become behind in my work. Only a few weeks till final exams, I had a big panic attack during a mock exam. At that point the school said they would pull me out of exams and that I diddnt have to come in anymore. Ever since then, the stress has gone but the depression and anxiety have carried on. Everyone in my family has been telling me to go back to college or get a job. I really want to, but I'm so scared to go back. It feels like If I go back to study, the same thing will happen all over again and I don't think I can handle that. My parents (especially my dad) think I'm just being lazy but I cant bring myself to tell them how I really feel, I don't have any friends I can talk to about this either. I have lost all ambitions I had for the future and now have no idea what I want to do or where to start. Has anyone else been through this, any advice? Thanks. 0 following
    Hi, I am so sorry to hear that you have had such a terrible time. I have anxiety and depression and I get stressed easily. My anxiety started during my A Levels but I didn't realise it at the time, I ended up missing lots of time. I am now at university, my anxiety makes me feel physically ill but I have learnt that the best thing to do is not to avoid what I am worrying about because once I'm there, I'm generally ok. I did have what I think was a panic attack one day but I breathed and got to the lecture. I understand that you are so worried about history repeating itself, have you ever had CBT? I have and it has really helped with how I think about my anxiety. Perhaps you could go and also see if the doctor or a therapist can recommend techniques that can help? Have you heard of Zoella? She has panic attacks but she has done really well, other celebrities have too so it is not impossible. I get where people think you are lazy, I get that sometimes, I even feel sometimes that I am lazy because my mental state really affects me, just try your best but don't overload yourself. Could you try speaking to your parents and telling them how you feel? Also, you could go to a college open day and even speak to the support team which I am sure they have. You could try little things at a time and see how they go? Also, could you find a job you could do from home? Have you tried looking at jobs and seeing if any areas jump out at you?

    I hope you can progress and feel better
 
 
 
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