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    I've got a crush on a guy who I work with. He's 12 years older than me (he looks very young for his age I first thought he was maybe 5 or 6 years older). Thing is, I've got a long term boyfriend (2 years+) who I love to bits. But I can't help fantasising about this guy from work! He's not even someone I'd want a relationship with he's just REALLY good looking and my kind keeps wandering off. I don't want to feel like this! Is it bad to have a crush on someone when you're in a relationship? I still love my boyfriend but I don't feel 'lust' as i do to this guy.
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    i've got a crush on a guy who i work with. He's 12 years older than me (he looks very young for his age i first thought he was maybe 5 or 6 years older). Thing is, i've got a long term boyfriend (2 years+) who i love to bits. But i can't help fantasising about this guy from work! He's not even someone i'd want a relationship with he's just really good looking and my kind keeps wandering off. I don't want to feel like this! Is it bad to have a crush on someone when you're in a relationship? I still love my boyfriend but i don't feel 'lust' as i do to this guy.
    i meant mind not kind
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've got a crush on a guy who I work with. He's 12 years older than me (he looks very young for his age I first thought he was maybe 5 or 6 years older). Thing is, I've got a long term boyfriend (2 years+) who I love to bits. But I can't help fantasising about this guy from work! He's not even someone I'd want a relationship with he's just REALLY good looking and my kind keeps wandering off. I don't want to feel like this! Is it bad to have a crush on someone when you're in a relationship? I still love my boyfriend but I don't feel 'lust' as i do to this guy.
    You can't do anything this guy clearly is a better person in terms of physical characteristics than your boyfriend. We have evolved to want to reproduce with people with desirable characteristics if we didn't the human race wouldn't improve.
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    Just don't do anything physical with the dude and change it into physical cheating :/
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    Just don't do anything physical with the dude and change it into physical cheating :/
    Oh god I would never! I don't think I really even want to.... Weird as it sounds, I fantasise about it but I don't actually want to do it. If that makes sense!
 
 
 
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