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    Does anyone else have this?
    I have this fear almost constant that Iam not liked. If my work collegues don't respond in a way I would expect i immediately think they dislike me or I have done something wrong. It makes me feel really bad and I go over and over in my head how I would of come across in previous situations to get this result of them not liking me. For example my collegue said goodbye to my boss and he got a good response from them, then I said goodbye and I got a low 'bye' back. Not as cheerful. This immediatly makes ME think I've done something wrong and that my boss dislikes me. I then go over the entire day and my interactions and what I did to try and work out why he doesn't like me.
    I am a shy person and feel more confident around certain people than I do with others. A lot of the time I don't know how to respond to situations and I just smile. I smile a lot actually but iam also quite a serious person sometimes.
    Does anyone else feel like this, is it normal, or am I overthinking? I have been told by my parents I overthink in general.
    Thanks,
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    Does anyone else have this?
    I have this fear almost constant that Iam not liked. If my work collegues don't respond in a way I would expect i immediately think they dislike me or I have done something wrong. It makes me feel really bad and I go over and over in my head how I would of come across in previous situations to get this result of them not liking me. For example my collegue said goodbye to my boss and he got a good response from them, then I said goodbye and I got a low 'bye' back. Not as cheerful. This immediatly makes ME think I've done something wrong and that my boss dislikes me. I then go over the entire day and my interactions and what I did to try and work out why he doesn't like me.
    I am a shy person and feel more confident around certain people than I do with others. A lot of the time I don't know how to respond to situations and I just smile. I smile a lot actually but iam also quite a serious person sometimes.
    Does anyone else feel like this, is it normal, or am I overthinking? I have been told by my parents I overthink in general.
    Thanks,
    Don't worry. I'm just the same
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    When you have this kind of fear it's most likely you don't have a good opinion of yourself. Your fear of people hating you is only because you do it too...
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    I know what you mean, I think it's down to our over-thinking. I do it a lot but I'm trying to work on it. I think as long as we love ourselves, we shouldn't care what others think. Easier said than done :erm:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Does anyone else have this?
    I have this fear almost constant that Iam not liked. If my work collegues don't respond in a way I would expect i immediately think they dislike me or I have done something wrong. It makes me feel really bad and I go over and over in my head how I would of come across in previous situations to get this result of them not liking me. For example my collegue said goodbye to my boss and he got a good response from them, then I said goodbye and I got a low 'bye' back. Not as cheerful. This immediatly makes ME think I've done something wrong and that my boss dislikes me. I then go over the entire day and my interactions and what I did to try and work out why he doesn't like me.
    I am a shy person and feel more confident around certain people than I do with others. A lot of the time I don't know how to respond to situations and I just smile. I smile a lot actually but iam also quite a serious person sometimes.
    Does anyone else feel like this, is it normal, or am I overthinking? I have been told by my parents I overthink in general.
    Thanks,
    I have this fear. Its usually anxiety.
    Speaking to friends can ease it or thrusting yourself into social situations.

    Overthinking can also be the cause and I understand exactly how you feel since I do it to. That's why alcohol is great, not that I advise you get drunk all the time or anything :^)
 
 
 
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