what to do/where to go together (with bf)

ok im gonna sound stupid here but.. i need advice really, ok heres the thing..
iv been going out with my first proper boyfriend for 4 months but im worried we might get bored of each other.. we can never find much to do, we meet at college every day and then afterwards usually go for a walk together to the park or go for a coffee or go to the cinema. thing is i dont know what else to do really.. what do you do with your boyfriend? we are not ready for sex yet, have chatted bout it but agreed to wait. so our relashionship is based more around friendship, thing is im worried he might get bored of me bcoz theres not much we ever do together.
i need your advice on what to do really. if you met up with your bf/gf for the day where do you go? what do you get up to?? neither of us drive so we cant travel around much. please im at a loose end here and the last thing i want us to get bored of each other.

Reply 1

bunthulhu

14

Cook together (from meals to little treats like cookies), play games together (ok yes I'm a nerd!), rent out movies, play sport together (like badminton) or go swimming, go shopping, go on a trip somewhere, a weekend away, things like that :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

aw great ideas! those are fab, thankyou. love the cookie idea hehe x

Reply 3

Aplin

2

My girlfriend kept me away from the PS2 / XBOX for 3 months of being together (just over actually). Then we saw a game at a shop she thought looked "cute" and I bought it for her. Turned out it was a two player co-operative game and we played it together and she LOVED it. We must have played it for around 2 hours every night for a couple weeks. Because we had to work together to complete the levels (which were really hard) when we complete them it was awesome and I got a lot of hugs and kisses.

Sounds geeky, but before that game she had never picked up a control pad, now she loves it and the game actually bought us really close together! Weird.

Reply 4

theredsox

15

Aww Aplin, that's so cute!
I reckon you should take him ice skating :biggrin:

Reply 5

shewantstobeme

10

go to the gym together. me and my bf did that before we went out (were best mates first) but it was the gym which made us get to know each other as we were spending lots of time together a few times a week :smile:

Reply 6

Thud

17

i go to protests with mine... :p:

go skating in park, sew flags together, play squash, footie, etc

- ie stuff where you're not simply sitting over coffee/in cinema, stuff where you're actually moving a bit more

Aplin

My girlfriend kept me away from the PS2 / XBOX for 3 months of being together (just over actually). Then we saw a game at a shop she thought looked "cute" and I bought it for her. Turned out it was a two player co-operative game and we played it together and she LOVED it. We must have played it for around 2 hours every night for a couple weeks. Because we had to work together to complete the levels (which were really hard) when we complete them it was awesome and I got a lot of hugs and kisses.

Sounds geeky, but before that game she had never picked up a control pad, now she loves it and the game actually bought us really close together! Weird.

yes, playing computer games together is awesome fun. but maybe not like really violent ones...

Reply 7

Aplin

2

Aww Aplin, that's so cute!
I reckon you should take him ice skating

Thanks

I guess the main thing is don't try too hard to find something... otherwise you are pretty much admitting to yourself "The relationship is boring". Most of it is probably you thinking "I am bored" rather than "He is boring" there is a big difference, because you get bored whether in a relationship or single.

we are not ready for sex yet, have chatted bout it but agreed to wait. so our relashionship is based more around friendship,

How old are you? If under 18 ignore the following. I would say 4 months is quite a long time to rely on a relationship being based on just friendship. Me and my girlfriend waited a long time (10 weeks) and that was about perfect, in that 10 weeks we had done just about everything else, but then sex was amazing because we had anticipated it so much. Your problem may be that the relationship is becoming too much abotu friendship and not enough about love (friendship but also intimacie) do you kiss a lot and does the relationship feel sexual? I am not saying rush into sex... just remember it is an important part of a relationship. Me and my girlfriend became best friends over 10 weeks and after 4 months together are deffinetly in love... sex is just part of that.

Are any of you thinking (answer honestly) is he a best friend or a partner?

Reply 8

Aplin

2

yes, playing computer games together is awesome fun. but maybe not like really violent ones...

nah, it was one with a cute alien, see:

what to do/where to go together (with bf)

Related discussions

Articles for you